The Confessional Thread

Arya Stark · 06-03-2013, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by CrazyVegn

I get excited for other women who get pregnant, but it is not for me. I've got my hands full already, thaaaaaanks.

That's another great thing! I am always there to help and always there to babysit if I can, but I am still waiting for the right time for me, as much as I love babies!

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 06-04-2013, 04:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Vanilla

Because it's my opinion? Duh.

Why are you avoiding my question?

Because you're acting defensive about your opinion, when it's not an opinion that I share, and I don't have to defend my opinions since they don't reinforce harmful attitudes or show nastiness to strangers for no reason, or when I don't give the slightest **** about what the person asking why I hold the opinions that I do, thinks of me as a person

I know better than to think that it has any bearing on my opinion of myself, since my opinions on myself aren't as fluid as my identity.

Why are you trying to call into play my own misdeeds to defend your opinion? Are you embarrassed about your opinion or what?

I reiterate, this has nothing to do with me, I merely questioned your opinion and pointed out facts.

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 06-04-2013, 05:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Hermione

Because you're acting defensive about your opinion, when it's not an opinion that I share, and I don't have to defend my opinions since they don't reinforce harmful attitudes or show nastiness to strangers for no reason, or when I don't give the slightest **** about what the person asking why I hold the opinions that I do, thinks of me as a person

I know better than to think that it has any bearing on my opinion of myself, since my opinions on myself aren't as fluid as my identity.

Why are you trying to call into play my own misdeeds to defend your opinion? Are you embarrassed about your opinion or what?

I reiterate, this has nothing to do with me, I merely questioned your opinion and pointed out facts.

Why do you care so much about my opinion? If you are putting out your opinion then it does involve what you have done and said. I would think wisely about being so negative about other people's opinions. I'm always going to defend my opinion no matter how much it bothers you because its my thoughts and I am at least honest that I'm not perfect and have sometimes got an unbalanced view on things. The last few pages in my opinion was a discussion of a situation put forth and does not need to be this personal. At the end of the day I'm still going to think the same way to the nasty girls because that is personal freedom. I am not outwardly dissing them or directly saying anything, its really just something I feel towards them personally, but not to other people. You can take it all leave it.

FETCHER. · 06-04-2013, 06:41 AM

I'm not even going to lie, I know where Vanilla is coming from.

I was bullied quite badly throughout school because of my height and weight and when I see those 'popular' girls who thought it was it was absolutely hilarious to make my life nothing but a misery, I get some satisfaction from the fact they're going nowhere in life. Its like karma or something. I don't judge people with kids however that's completely different but if that chick who made me eat lunch alone for weeks gets knocked up then it kinda adds to it.

Anyway people have kids here just for the benefits. These women do not see children the way we do, child birth is not something thy should be taken lightly and if you do not have the money to support your family then don't ****ing start one.

Genuinely sorry if I offend anyone.

Arya Stark · 06-04-2013, 07:18 AM

Well it seems like you're disliking people for different reasons. If someone gets knocked up, though, then are they actually trying to do it for the money? I was bullied pretty badly as well but it is hard to laugh at anyone anymore. I can't laugh about dropping out of college because its hard, i can't laugh about not getting a job because the job market is tough right now, I can't laugh about people getting pregnant because I can't imagine how hard it is to deal with the decisions in my small town where everyone knows and sees everything. I guess I am just trying a different perspective here.

Mojo · 06-04-2013, 07:37 AM

I think a point that keeps being made is there are certain things people are confessing to here that they are do, that they may even know is not exactly right or fair.

I think if we're honest with ourselves, we all do it.

FETCHER. · 06-04-2013, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by AwwSugar

Well it seems like you're disliking people for different reasons. If someone gets knocked up, though, then are they actually trying to do it for the money? I was bullied pretty badly as well but it is hard to laugh at anyone anymore. I can't laugh about dropping out of college because its hard, i can't laugh about not getting a job because the job market is tough right now, I can't laugh about people getting pregnant because I can't imagine how hard it is to deal with the decisions in my small town where everyone knows and sees everything. I guess I am just trying a different perspective here.

I completely understand that and I don't like to judge people either because I know college is hard, I know the job market is seriously declining, I also know having kids young is difficult as my own mother was a single parent of two babies by the time she was 18, I mostly sympathise with these girls/guys unless they were major arseholes to me. I'm finally just beginning to have some self-confidence which was obliterated by these people just for the fun of it. I don't think it's funny to purposefully bring someone down which is why I keep my thoughts to myself.

There's also a massive difference between being unemployed and then not even looking for a job. I think there's a few difference circumstances due to us living so far apart, mainly being our benefit system which is regularly abused by people.

FETCHER. · 06-04-2013, 08:07 AM

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Originally Posted by mojopinuk

I think a point that keeps being made is there are certain things people are confessing to here that they are do, that they may even know is not exactly right or fair.

I think if we're honest with ourselves, we all do it.

Yeah exactly, I'm not going to pretend I've been an angel because I've certainly made my fair share of mistakes.

Paedantic Basterd · 06-04-2013, 08:15 AM

I think it's a mistake to make a commitment to who you are in life before you've taken any time at all to figure it out. I judge women under 25, especially under 18, who get pregnant. I think people should live a little, have some experiences, learn who they are, and learn how to be a decent person before they end their opportunities and pass all of that confusion on down the line. Does it turn out fine for people? I'm sure it does in many cases. I'm sure many more settle for it and live happily enough. But it's something that can easily be postponed until you've experienced life some, and to skip doing that is, in my opinion, a huge mistake.

On top of that, I really don't think the world needs any more people in it at the moment, for varying political, environmental, and sociological reasons.

I'm sure that you could pick my standpoint apart quite easily from a feminist perspective, but I'm not claiming it's airtight. It is how I feel, however. I judge people, and I am a flawed individual under the judgment of others.

Mojo · 06-04-2013, 08:35 AM

I think it all comes down to people having the opportunity to be able to take charge of their own life and make their own decisions. Wanna have a kid? Great, go do that. It's none of my business and frankly no interest of mine to say that someone shouldn't have a kid. However some people here have said they judge others for it, and received somewhat of an aggressive backlash. I could normally understand that but again I refer people to the OP. This is a confessional thread. To confess something, don't you already have to know that it's not entirely fair or right of you to think the way you do or to be doing what you are doing?

And for the record, I may not give a **** in the sense that I think that ultimately people should have the right to make their own decisions and have kids and not care less what someone like me may think. I however do think it can often be a mistake, irresponsible, unfair or plain wrong for some people, in some circumstances, to have a kid. Basically, I can respect the right everyone has to create life, but I may not always think its a good idea for them to use it.

06-04-2013, 07:37 AM	#446 (permalink)
Mojo Melancholia Eternally Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: England Posts: 5,018	I think a point that keeps being made is there are certain things people are confessing to here that they are do, that they may even know is not exactly right or fair. I think if we're honest with ourselves, we all do it. __________________ Last.FM \| Echoes and Dust

06-04-2013, 08:35 AM	#450 (permalink)
Mojo Melancholia Eternally Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: England Posts: 5,018	I think it all comes down to people having the opportunity to be able to take charge of their own life and make their own decisions. Wanna have a kid? Great, go do that. It's none of my business and frankly no interest of mine to say that someone shouldn't have a kid. However some people here have said they judge others for it, and received somewhat of an aggressive backlash. I could normally understand that but again I refer people to the OP. This is a confessional thread. To confess something, don't you already have to know that it's not entirely fair or right of you to think the way you do or to be doing what you are doing? And for the record, I may not give a **** in the sense that I think that ultimately people should have the right to make their own decisions and have kids and not care less what someone like me may think. I however do think it can often be a mistake, irresponsible, unfair or plain wrong for some people, in some circumstances, to have a kid. Basically, I can respect the right everyone has to create life, but I may not always think its a good idea for them to use it. __________________ Last.FM \| Echoes and Dust

06-04-2013, 08:15 AM	#449 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	I think it's a mistake to make a commitment to who you are in life before you've taken any time at all to figure it out. I judge women under 25, especially under 18, who get pregnant. I think people should live a little, have some experiences, learn who they are, and learn how to be a decent person before they end their opportunities and pass all of that confusion on down the line. Does it turn out fine for people? I'm sure it does in many cases. I'm sure many more settle for it and live happily enough. But it's something that can easily be postponed until you've experienced life some, and to skip doing that is, in my opinion, a huge mistake. On top of that, I really don't think the world needs any more people in it at the moment, for varying political, environmental, and sociological reasons. I'm sure that you could pick my standpoint apart quite easily from a feminist perspective, but I'm not claiming it's airtight. It is how I feel, however. I judge people, and I am a flawed individual under the judgment of others.