Originally Posted by rubber soul (Post 2193268)

You may want to consider getting a restraining order. Do you fear for your safety?

Originally Posted by ribbons (Post 2193260)

Feeling anxious as my ex-husband has been leaving voicemails saying he's breaking up with his girlfriend and moving to a new apartment and wants to talk. We rarely talk and this only happens when he's in between relationships. I wish he wanted to talk to his own children more than once or twice a year. He's very narcissistic and it triggers me when I hear from him. Last time he started contacting me (again, during a breakup) he insinuated he would like to reconcile (a completely crazy notion given our history and his non-involvement with our children) but I gingerly changed the topic and he started showing his temper to me. Anyway, I may or may not call back this weekend (else his messages will become more hostile) but just the thought of it is making my hands shake as I type this.

Originally Posted by Celladorina (Post 2193280)

Ribbons, let me just say, I have been with a man like this also. We were together for a few years and he was verbally and emotionally abusive. He was also a narcissist. He would hack my phone to find out who I've been texting and track me via GPS on Viber. It took many years for me to recover after I broke it off with him, therapy being one of them.

I completely understand how uncomfortable it is trying to keep them at an arms length. If you ever want to talk about this with me, please PM. Even just as someone to be your sounding board. Narcissists like to gaslight you into responding to their rhetoric. *hugs*

Originally Posted by Marie Monday (Post 2193293)

Oh hell, I'm sorry you both have (had) to deal with that. Take care and don't strain yourself too much, ribbons

Originally Posted by rostasi (Post 2193297)

Tell him that he can stay on the bus, and forget about “us.”
Just don’t tie yourself around an old oak tree.

Originally Posted by Plankton (Post 2193329)

My daughters mother was very abusive, verbally, and physically, so I had to separate myself from the equation completely to keep her from using our daughter as a tool against me. One of the hardest yet best decisions I had ever made concerning that mess. Many years later, after she had no one to target and disappeared, she had some sort of epiphany and apologized for everything she'd done to both Hanna and myself.

I hope you can find some comfort in the people around you and eventually get some sort of closure ribs. You don't deserve that kind of abuse. No one does.