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02-01-2015, 04:58 PM | #2582 (permalink) |
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If they've led a good life and you've had a chance to spend time with them, there's no reason to feel guilt and no shame in not feeling great sadness. The reason I was so broken up when my aunt died was that I'd only known her for eighteen months.
I'm really bad at consoling and cheering up people in general. If you don't mind me asking, have you lost someone?
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02-01-2015, 05:29 PM | #2583 (permalink) | |
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Your q: It's likely a relative will die sooner rather than later. I got the news earlier and didn't know how to respond or feel. Then I felt bad cos I felt like I wasn't that arsed when I should be. I have lost a close relative in the past, same then, but that's not what made me post in this thread. |
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02-01-2015, 05:34 PM | #2584 (permalink) |
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in my experience it's best to just take it as it comes. don't repress grief intentionally but don't conjure it up for the sake of it either. just make sure to let the person in question know how you feel about them before it's too late.
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02-01-2015, 05:37 PM | #2585 (permalink) | |
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02-01-2015, 06:03 PM | #2587 (permalink) | |
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Although it can't hurt faking it just a bit when someone who's all weepy assumes you're all weepy too, just on the inside. Don't gotta pretend to be all sad, just commiserate a bit until they go away.
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02-01-2015, 06:59 PM | #2590 (permalink) |
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@ batlord
i do show sympathy to sad people, i just try not to let them bring me down with them but i don't think there's any right answer to how specifically to act. everyone reacts to stuff in their own way @ vwls i was only uncomfortable cause you kept making passes at me |
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