The Confessional Thread

[TheCunningStunt]

You're a scientist FFS.

Whatever you planned isn't as good as that, unless you were planning to be a rock star.

[Nine Black Poppies]

Originally Posted by duga

^

Exactly. Accepting that change is inevitable is the key to getting through life. People get depressed because they can't get over the fact they can't control what happens in their lives. I found myself thinking far too much about the future when I was younger. When that future didn't pan out I would get really upset. The futures we plan never turn out that way...accepting that is the best thing I ever did.

^ Amen. Me too.

And the odd thing about it is that doing that actually gives you more control, or at least agency, in things that happen to you. It's easier to recognize a real opportunity when you let go of notions about what that opportunity is supposed to look like.

In terms of relationships, it gets easier. Heartache becomes manageable if you let it and--and this is a point my life across the past 15 years or so has beaten me over the head with repeatedly--you never know who's going to come along or what'll happen, you just have to be open to it.

[Jonny Redshirt]

Well, I'm awake after napping and sober again. Thanks to everybody who responded. I've been diagnosed with both depression and social anxiety disorder, and I'm not on meds for either because I want to find a way to deal with them myself without being reliant on drugs, so it's hard for me to connect to people or be very open. Sorry for being dramatic, I try not to be so emo usually.

[DoctorSoft]

Originally Posted by Jonny Redshirt

Well, I'm awake after napping and sober again. Thanks to everybody who responded. I've been diagnosed with both depression and social anxiety disorder, and I'm not on meds for either because I want to find a way to deal with them myself without being reliant on drugs, so it's hard for me to connect to people or be very open. Sorry for being dramatic, I try not to be so emo usually.

It's good that you don't want to take pills for your depression, I know a few people who are on those and they say they either don't work or it makes them feel worse. Hope you get better.

[Dr_Rez]

Originally Posted by theuglyorgan

It's good that you don't want to take pills for your depression, I know a few people who are on those and they say they either don't work or it makes them feel worse. Hope you get better.

They are not there to make your life wonderful and depression free. What they do is stop people from going over the edge and possibly getting so depressed they think about something like suicide.

[Paedantic Basterd]

Originally Posted by RezZ

What they do is stop people from going over the edge and possibly getting so depressed they think about something like suicide.

Thinking about it seems like a totally normal thing to me. I just don't see how meds can stop someone from going like, a couple of inches further. Seems pretty pointless to me if they just keep you in limbo?

[DoctorSoft]

Originally Posted by RezZ

They are not there to make your life wonderful and depression free. What they do is stop people from going over the edge and possibly getting so depressed they think about something like suicide.

Yeah I realise that, but two people I know who took them say that they just made their depression worse and they thought about suicide alot more than before they took them.

And doesn't everyone think about suicide alot? I've thought about it alot in my life and I've never been depressed. Not to the point where I would consider actually doing, but alot, still the same.

[mr dave]

Originally Posted by Jonny Redshirt

Well, I'm awake after napping and sober again. Thanks to everybody who responded. I've been diagnosed with both depression and social anxiety disorder, and I'm not on meds for either because I want to find a way to deal with them myself without being reliant on drugs, so it's hard for me to connect to people or be very open. Sorry for being dramatic, I try not to be so emo usually.

welcome to being a hermit, if only for a while. once you take the time to disconnect yourself and find a way to truly stop giving a crap about what other people/the outside world think you'll find that a significant amount of your anxieties dissipate rather quickly.

that doesn't mean it's quick or easy though. have fun searching your soul and slaying your demons.

[Jonny Redshirt]

Originally Posted by mr dave

welcome to being a hermit, if only for a while. once you take the time to disconnect yourself and find a way to truly stop giving a crap about what other people/the outside world think you'll find that a significant amount of your anxieties dissipate rather quickly.

that doesn't mean it's quick or easy though. have fun searching your soul and slaying your demons.

Haha, I've been a hermit for almost two years now. It's hardly news to me

[CanwllCorfe]

Originally Posted by Jonny Redshirt

Haha, I've been a hermit for almost two years now. It's hardly news to me

All of that actually sounds like me around 3 years ago. Things are a little bit better in the anxiety department. I still think about suicide a bit, but nothing to be worried about. Just the act in itself, the repercussions, and so on. It's nothing really "new" so I'm not too bothered. I still like the same girl from high school. We still talk and everything. I wanna hang out with her, but I wanna make sure I don't make an ass of myself. It usually takes around a half hour to feel comfortable around her. I really wish THAT was gone, but I don't think that'll change unless we hang out a lot more often.