Yeah, well I didn't go to my father's funeral and my sister disowned me for it. I HAVE to go to my mother's funeral because I'm the one that did all the planning/organizing for it.

Why wouldn't you? I've seen plenty of heavy set women dressed like that. I know it's a personal preference thing but that didn't stop them from dressing that style.

You're honoring the body of your loved ones. How is that being "left behind?"

That's rough. On both accounts. :(

The living are left behind, that's what I was trying to say.

The living aren't even there. If anything you're dishonoring a part of the person who was living by leaving them to rot on the sidewalk or throwing them in a dumpster. A funeral is a gathering of respect, not being in a box.

Personally speaking, I wouldn't look as good according to my style.

A funeral is mostly for the people left behind that have a hard time coping with the person that has passed and needs help grieving so they gather for it and they say it's to pay their respects but it's really just for them not for the dead.

If you want to pay respect for the dead you can do that any time you want at their grave site/cemetery.

I just don't like the whole impromptu family reunion-ness of it. Also the type of families that only have a reunion during a funeral but every other time they don't give two shits.

First let me say people can choose to honour the dead however they want, are free to do whatever it takes to help come to terms with a person's passing. But to me personally once they're dead, they're dead, and I ain't gonna pay their corpse too much mind. Buried in a posh box, or thrown in a ditch, it's all the same to me. I wanna love, honour and respect people while they're alive, not when they're dead.

It doesn't matter about how the person feels, we're talking about the symbolization of a funeral. You can go in there with a machete slice open your chest and rip your heart out cry boo, that doesn't change what it is initially representing.

So how is that different from grieving at a funeral?

If they didn't give two ****s they wouldn't be at a funeral. They'd be on a family holiday in hawaii.

Of course people can choose how to honor the dead, that's what a funeral gives the option of doing.

Exactly, it's an option. Some choose it and some don't. It works for some but not others.

The bit the annoys the shyte out of me is how at a funeral everyone says what a great person the deceased was...ffs if the person was a c*nt don't lie about it...I'd expect nothing less at mine should anyone even show