VEGANGELICA

I definitely agree that one improvement society needs is for workplaces and childcare to be arranged so that having a baby is easier. Your job should stay secure, and you shouldn't get penalized for taking time off (when promotions are considered). It's a lot better now than it was, but not good enough. Ideally, for example, childcare centers would be close to workplaces so that women can visit to breastfeed a child during breaks but still go to work. That's awful that you lost your job simply because of being pregnant! Firing someone for having a baby sounds illegal, too.

I agree with you that bleeding every month is a pain, literally...and I'm lucky that it doesn't hurt much for me...but I still like the emotional changes. Plus, giving birth did hurt (during contractions, but then there were painfree pauses), though actually by the time I was pushing, I was used to the pain and it didn't bother me much. I just wanted to get my baby out because I was worried about him. And the soreness afterwards! It lasted weeks! No one had told me about that. Sitting down hurt. But for me childbirth wasn't the worst pain I've experienced in life...and it was a very memorable experience, something out of the ordinary, something new. Of course, I didn't have "back labor"...which is supposed to be excruciating!

The pill...I never considered using the pill because I didn't want to mess with my hormones and cause all the bad side effects you mention.

Condoms...if some man said he wouldn't be willing to wear a condom, I'd say the possible pleasure doesn't outweigh the risks. To even things up, I'd use foam, so that we're both doing *something* to protect ourselves from pregnancy and infections. I actually never met anyone who wasn't prepared to wear a condom...all the men had them...it was never even a question. I remember being quite charmed when a significant other not only had a condom, but also contraceptive foam for me to use. I thought that was very thoughtful and sexy. It is nice when someone makes you feel safe and protected and loved, all at the same time. Sigh!

My point is that being your own advocate and not letting society's norms crush you, regardless of your gender, is really important.

I feel it is an extreme turnoff if a man sleeps around, because it means to me that sex is meaningless to him. It's difficult for me to imagine women (or men) wanting to have sex with someone who really doesn't care if it is you or someone else they're with.

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midnight rain

while I'm not disputing what you say, it does appear as if your talking of this from a guy's POV with the whole 'stud' and 'slut' terminology. and the only thing I have to add is you must remember that we're sleeping with the girls not the guys. obviously sleeping around is a bigger issue when you want to put your junk inside someone's when it's been around too many a-times. if a guy sleeps around, that's his choice not my problem. If a girl sleeps around, it'd be more a medical concern.

i don't speak for all guys either, but i definitely don't think 'stud' when i overhear a guy talking about getting laid every night. i'm more inclined to think douchebag

i hope you can make sense of what i'm saying, my mind isn't at its clearest right now, i'm a lil drunk...

Sansa Stark

dude...

Sansa Stark

daww that was sweet

boo boo

Also I find it depressing that women would rather wish they had d*cks so they could fit in better than to continue fighting for equal rights in all respects. That's just a cop out if you ask me. I also feel like it's giving in to the idea that men really are superior to women and that certainly bothers me. Women can only have equal rights AS women if they fight for it. My criticism of radical feminism has always been that they seem like they want very badly just to be men which I don't consider true feminism at all.

I think both sexes should take pride in their gender distinctions. Yeah I did vote "not sure" on this thing, because I do think being a chick would be interesting but on the other side I'm not really disatisfied with being male, there are reasons I'm glad to be one and I think sex changes are stupid. I think it's best to be satisfied with who you are instead of wanting to persue some unrealistic ideal about yourself.

It's true that women do have issues that nothing a man has can compare to. Such as pregnancy. I have no idea how women do it but I think that perseverance is a big reason why I admire women a lot more than I do men. Any idiot male can learn how to play basketball, it's the women who are keeping the human race going in the end.

If one of the alternatives is getting your lazy ass boyfriend to use a condom then I say you tell the f*cker to get on that sh*t because that's just not fair. You get the worst end of the stick if you do get pregnant, the least guys can do is make their own sacrifices.

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Astronomer

I'd never thought I'd say this to you in regards to this particular topic, but I agree with you boo. In regards to women's right, if women just want to be like men or would rather be men, it's pretty much like they are copping out and admitting that men are superior to women.

That being said, the poll question was 'are you satisfied with your gender' as opposed to 'would you rather be the opposite gender' so I answered it 'no'... retrospectively I should have answered 'yes' or 'not sure.'

But yeah I could have said it better myself.

Damn straight. I do in the end. But you wouldn't believe the amount of guys who think it's not fair that they have to wear a condom when girls can simply take a little pill every day. Because condoms are "uncomfortable" - don't get me started on the uncomforts girls have to experience in terms of sex/ sexual health/ contraception/ reproduction/ etc!

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boo boo

Yeah the REAL question was meant to be "would you rather be the opposite gender".

And it's good to know at least a few girls are satisfied with their sexy selves.

Maybe John Travolta would prefer you as a dude but I wouldn't.

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adidasss

Wait, hold on here partner. People who go through a sex change are transgender, meaning their gender identity doesn't conform with their biological gender. It's incredibly dismissive and shows a deep lack of understanding to simply say that everyone should learn to accept what they've been dealt with by some random biological occurrence. Obviously a sex-change is a major step which no one decides to go through without a significant amount of forethought. People who do decide to go through it usually come to a decision that they can't continue living in the wrong body and would be much happier once their inner identity matches their biological one. It's a disorder which thanks to modern medicine has a successful cure. And I don't see anything stupid about curing people who are deeply unhappy and giving them a chance at a better life...:\

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glastonelle

I have to agree with you here. They say its about feeling comfortable in your own skin and they didnt feel right being a man/woman so sex change was the only solution.

I just dont understand it. Maybe because I've never felt the need to get a penis to feel like myself, but I believe to be yourself you just need a bit of self-respect, and I dont see how having a sex change can do that for you. If you want to have a sex change, whatever floats your boat, go for it, but its not something I fully agree with.

adidasss

It's the same sort of logic which homophobes use. I don't understand therefore I don't agree with it. It's not your body or your life so there's nothing to agree or disagree with.

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