savannah

i think this is a GREAT question and have been thinking about that alot lately

for the past few months i've been basically living in a house with three guys two nights a week,.....and while i've lived with men before, it has never been in this type of setting where i was not in a relationship, nor did i want to pursue one, with any of them,....it has been quite different to have some much male energy around me that i've thought about what it would truly be like to be male

i think certian aspects of me would enjoy it.
boys are kinda gross, but in 'their' own element, like their home,....boys at peace are kinda cool

they are pretty even keel, there's no judgment, they are so open
i think i would enjoy that aspect of being a boy, the way they exchange socially with each other

i feel like women are so much more competitive, even when they share the same home, or comfortable space
its like no matter how close we become with each other, there will always be a twinge of competitiveness

as for physically,....yes, i love being a girl and experiencing as a girl

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boo boo

It seems the great majority of females here give the "love physically being the girl but envy the social life of being a boy" answer.

I know there are guys who are pretty openminded but there are also a lot of girls who are very openminded (all the broads here for example) and vice versa there's a lot of dudes who are superficial judgemental f*ckwads and it's as common for men as it is with girls if not more so. Overall I'd say that personality flaw is a basic human nature thing and isn't exclusive to any one sex.

On the flip side from how some girls here feel, I've always been way more comfortable talking to girls (at least when it's girls Im not trying to persue and thus fear rejection from) because I don't feel that kind of pressure to not say anything that makes me sound like a "fag" like it is when I talk to members of my own gender. That's a huge reason I don't have any interest in being "one of the guys". If I do find me a guy I can communicate easily and comfortably with, the odds of him being queer are probably high.

I'm a girly man, and if you like being girly you'd find being a girly man would be hella difficult if you have any hopes for a social life with people of your gender. Thankfully I don't so I'm kewl with being a pussy who doesn't pee standing up.

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jibber

I'm not convinced that guys are as difficult to talk to as you say. I have a lot of guy friends, and I'm usually regarded as just "one of the guys." I agree with savanah that a lot of the time is DOES feel more comfortable and relaxed. Maybe your problem is the type of guys in your social circle at the moment. I have a lot of friends who I could describe as "girly men," and yes, they get made fun of by the other guys, but so does everyone in the group, it's how we all relate to each other. Our group dynamic is to joke around a lot, but there's no actual malice behind any of the comments, it's all just friendly banter. I'm assuming you're not the crazy over sensitive type who would be hurt by this kind of thing, so my guess is the guys in your social circle are mostly just assholes. It's a shame because I'm sure if you found a good group to hang out with you'd feel just as comfortable with guys as with girls.

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boo boo

I thought you were one of those types of homosexuals known as "bears".

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boo boo

Well heres a new question I want to ask everyone, how many male friends do you have and how many female friends do you have? And how would you describe your relationships with them depending on how masculine/feminine they act or whatever. And what would you say are the pros and cons of dealing with each of the genders?

Even the girls who say they prefer the company of men still seem to have a lot of lady friends, and the girls here tend to be more tightly social with each other than anyone else.

Of course I can get along with some dudes, on this forum and irl but overall I find it rarer and more difficult and tend to be more easily put off by the behavior of males.

I think one thing we all (myself included) need to realise though is that personality types aren't gender exclusive and our opinions are almost always based on perceptions and our own experiences rather than any kind of fact. I know women who are relaxed and carefree because that's a personality type any person can have no matter what their genitalia is, any personality type from the myers briggs typology or whichever typology you prefer, it's not gender exclusive.

The problem is that it can be harder to find the individual behind the public persona and women do have a lot of pressure to act a certain way. Men do too though and overall any kind of social stigma makes it difficult for people who don't quite fit in with whatever their "gender role" is. Overall it's really all about finding friends with a compitable personality type, no matter what their gender is.

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Janszoon

I would say I get along equally well with men and women. That said, most of my closest friends are male though I do have a few close female friends as well.

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I have more female friends than I have male.. I think that's due to me being a pervert.

I don't really like males. Being one of the lads, having banter, oioiiiiiii. I can't stand that manly bollocks where they insist on calling you 'mate'. Far too blokey, that's why I have more female friends. But the male friends I do have, I act the same way I do with them as the females. Just talk about shit and have a laugh.. I treat my friends the same regardless of gender, though I treat men and women differently if I don't know them.

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I hate bros, and I guess blokes are the UK version of that.

For those who don't know what a bro is.



These are bros.

And bros definitely DON'T come before hos for me. If I had my way, I'd have all of them shot.

*David Gilmour riff*

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TheCunningStunt

Yeah, they look like the US version of blokes. Blokes are just full on LADS. None of this sitting down to wee business, they will piss up a wall because of how manly they are. Basically macho men that are probably really insecure about their manhood, so they have to really display how manly they are.

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