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VeggieLover · 10-07-2009, 08:01 PM

thats a tough one. The only things you can really do are to just keep listening and doing what you can at your own expense or to just let them know "hey you know what, this is just getting to be too much for me to handle. I'm really sorry i'd like to help you work through this, but I have other things on my mind right now and i just can't handle it. I still love you both though"
Other than that, there really isn't anything unless you want to get really creative and have them write things down instead. You can be there for them without having to let yourself get toxic waste dumped all over you. There is a middle ground, its just a little bit harder to stay there.

Arya Stark · 10-07-2009, 09:33 PM

I've been in that situation way too many times. Don't get in the middle of it. Love them. Show them you love them. Talk about the situation only sometimes. Try to get their minds off of it. It's not your pressure, don't do this to yourself.

jkm008 · 10-08-2009, 09:50 AM

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Originally Posted by AwwSugar

I've been in that situations way too many times. Don't get in the middle of it. Love them. Show them you love them. Talk about the situation only sometimes. Try to get their minds off of it. It's not your pressure, don't do this to yourself.

Great advice Savy. Take it.

FETCHER. · 10-08-2009, 10:05 AM

its not your place to take sides as their boths friends, I would take a step back and explain your buckling under the pressure they're putting on you to pick sides. you have to explain that to them, and explain how you feel about their split the "its almost like my parents are divorcing again" i think they would then realise its unfair to put this sort of pressure on you!

savannah · 10-08-2009, 10:39 AM

thank you,...all of you,...

i dont even know that they realize what they are doing to me,...and to each other,...
krista just cries, and jake is doing this thing where he says the worst things he can think of,...and i know he only does that because he has to get angry at her to get over her,....i dont want to take that anger away from him, i think he needs it,....

i'm just not answering my phone these days

Arya Stark · 10-08-2009, 12:49 PM

Good. Just leave them be. They need to do this by themselves first.

You have yourself to focus on.

And your mascara. ^_^

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VeggieLover Music?! Lets boogie! Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: CO Posts: 215	thats a tough one. The only things you can really do are to just keep listening and doing what you can at your own expense or to just let them know "hey you know what, this is just getting to be too much for me to handle. I'm really sorry i'd like to help you work through this, but I have other things on my mind right now and i just can't handle it. I still love you both though" Other than that, there really isn't anything unless you want to get really creative and have them write things down instead. You can be there for them without having to let yourself get toxic waste dumped all over you. There is a middle ground, its just a little bit harder to stay there. __________________ "Not remotely! Because iocaine comes from Australia, as everyone knows. And Australia is entirely peopled with criminals. And criminals are used to having people not trust them as you are not trusted by me, so I can clearly not choose the wine in front of you."

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savannah afrocentric Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: texas Posts: 753	thank you,...all of you,... i dont even know that they realize what they are doing to me,...and to each other,... krista just cries, and jake is doing this thing where he says the worst things he can think of,...and i know he only does that because he has to get angry at her to get over her,....i dont want to take that anger away from him, i think he needs it,.... i'm just not answering my phone these days __________________ i changed my mind; i changed my mind;now i'm feeling different all that time, wasted i wish i was a little more delicate i wish my i wish my i wish my i wish my i wish my name was clementine - sarah jaffe