badassness is one of the more attractive traits in a guy, it's been proven countless times. To be honest, I have a theory that it's not that girls particularly like guys who treat them like ****, it's more that guys like that tend to also have a plethora of other traits (confidence, power and mystery for example), which leads to the "I know he's horrible to me, but he's so damn sexy" situation.

My beloved Shakira has been recently "kidnapped".... :( sniff... sniff... sniff....

http://img19.imageshack.us/img19/408...yshakira01.jpg

....by a football (soccer) player.... of my most hated team. :mad: I'm deeply disheartened by this unfortunate accident. So I'd like to ask you: is it normal for a girl to be "abducted" by a guy like this one?:

I would like to know that as well

I can never forgive or FORGET what Derek Jeter did to poor Jessica Alba

http://webspace.webring.com/people/g...erek_jeter.jpg

I'd definitely want to watch all his movies. :)

I'm not surprised. When someone is disrespectful or cruel, that is an issue to work through not an ideal to shoot for in a partner, I'd say.

Has it really been proven? I don't see how anyone could seem sexy while also being horrible. In my experience, when people do mean things in those moments they aren't sexy but scary and undesirable, and unless the troubling incidents are resolved, the feeling of attraction wanes.

I imagine most people appreciate someone for the "traits" they like (confidence, power, mystery, honesty, humor) enough to accept some behaviors they don't like, especially since none of us are "perfect." Also, once you love someone, you probably see the totality of the person and so like him how he is. But if someone were almost consistently a jerk, I can't imagine anyone (except people with masochistic tendencies) liking to be with that person and having a serious relationship with him.

You hit the nail on the head right there. They choose to overlook and not see those mean things that they do to others or to the girl they are with. It's crazy looking at it from the outside but these girls that are in the relationship don't see that there is anything wrong. It boggles my mind sometimes.:crazy:

One reason, dj, may simply be that people have only experienced a limited number of relationships and so may not realize how much better a more functional relationship would be compared to the one they are in.

Back to the topic on hand, I think Marc Bolan was cute. I have no idea what I'd really want to do with him if he were alive and I knew him, but there's just something about him and the various sides of his personality (what little I know of it) that interests me. He seemed very much to be his own person, and friendly, and I like that.

Marc Bolan

http://www.images.noizesolution.co.u...slidermow.jpeg

http://www.famouswhy.com/pictures/people/marc_bolan.jpg

And here in this video I think he's adorable! He makes me smile. :) It's too bad he died so young. :(

Vegangelica: there are of course always exceptions, but it's no coincidence that almost every girl I've talked to about relationships has at some point been attracted to /gone out with some total *******s. As I said, I don't think it's the fact that they are so mean that is so attractive, but rather the traits that generally come with such a person that does it, but the end effect is that the "bad guy" tends to be much more the sex symbol than the good guy. Sure, the girl might eventually settle down with the nerdy guy who makes a great husband, but while they're looking for fun... in most cases, there's only ever going to be one winner. It's a sterotype, in film and in real life, and stereotypes exist for a reason.

LOL! My bad....I meant 'continually' not 'continuously'. :p:



Awe...sorry to hear about your beloved Shakira. As far as whether it's normal for a girl to be 'abducted' by a guy like the one above....perhaps, lol. I don't find him particularly attractive. He's good looking, but....meh. Unless he also had a great personality.

And as for some women being attracted to (millionaire) sportsmen. My guess, because....

-they excel (in order to be millionaire sportsmen)
-they are millionaires
-they are/appear powerful/confident/successful

No denying that those traits aren't appealing in and of themselves. Maybe you don't actively seek them out in a man, but if he possess them, you're not going to complain. Although there are girls that prowl for these men and that's all they appear to care about. But in general, I'd like to think most women aren't like that.

I know for me personally, those are not in any way 'make it or break it' traits. The only exception I think, would be the confidence one. I had a ex bf that was ALWAYS needing reassurance; saying he didn't get why I was w/ him, that I was 'slumming', wanting me to tell him I love him like every single text, yada, yada. And the thing is, I honestly liked him a lot when we were first talking/hanging out, etc. But as soon as we got together, he started w/ all that nonsense and it totally changed the dynamic :/ It was like, 'So you're questioning my judgment in wanting to be w/you?" Wtf?? Plus it was just really annoying. I dunno...needless to say, it didn't work out. lol


:( Poor Jessica. She seems so sweet, honestly. And I don't think he is cute at ALL. One of my friends was SO in LOVE w/ him too, lol. Meh...

I agree :) I would never date a guy that treated me poorly, no matter how hot he was. Besides, a guy can't be truly 'hot' to me anyway unless he also has a personality that appeals to me (witty, bright, kind, considerate, etc.)... which a jerk undoubtedly wouldn't, lol.

Also, 'Badassness' can take different forms, imo. I think a guy can be badass w/o being an a**hole

And same for guys who date mean girls, too. I know a guy who is in love w/ a girl who treats him quite terribly. And he asked her to marry him! (which btw, she said yes IF he would change all these things on a list she handed him. And they weren't little things like 'pick up your clothes off the floor'. It was like stuff about who he was. ) And he is still going to marry her....I don't get it.


gotta end on a good note

chris carrabba-- shag, probably marry too (depending his personality of course, haha):D

http://www.tattooblog.org/images/chr...sleeves_49.jpg

Best explantion of rock ever

I get how that can be annoying but confidence is pretty hard to learn for some guys. It's almost just like how it's pretty hard for some women to get over their self esteem issues.

Actually, it's that's not all true. The jerks/douches can fake that pretty well and that's how they get certain girls. Well they are witty across the board but the fake the kindness and being considerate part enough to get by and once they have had the girl or are in a relationship then they show their true colors. The girl then decides to stay with the guy because of her falling in love with the image that he used to portray when they first met and she feels like he can be that person again but he can't really because his true colors can't be changed.

that's rare, they usually go hand in hand.

:yikes:

omfg! no she DIDN'T! After reading that list I would rip it up in her face and blow the torn pieces at her. What a sad little beta male. it's a shame.