I really need your help

MUSE girl · 01-07-2005, 03:44 PM

ok im in a relationship, the guy got my mate pregnant before we went out and she still has it now. she wants to get rid, but he really wants it, baring in mind he already has a young kid. he is 2yrs older than me and im completely stuck what to do. i feel hurt that he wants the child, but i respect him for not wanting to kill it, he says he loves me and i love him, but i dont want to leave him, what do i do?

Fenixpunk · 01-07-2005, 03:46 PM

baby-mama drama sucks, i speak from experience...think about what youre getting yourself into.

MUSE girl · 01-07-2005, 03:48 PM

i have fort bout it, but i love him too much to leave him, its just upsetting me to much, i hate thinking about it.

blackTshirt · 01-07-2005, 03:58 PM

aren't you way too young?
ok didn't mean it to sound like that...i think it's not up to you, though...cause he should make the choice...leave the girl alone or be with you...and it's that girl's choice too...if she keeps the baby or not....f*cked up situation

MUSE girl · 01-07-2005, 04:10 PM

im 15?! hes 17, i think shes going tonight to get it gone, but im really good friends with her, so its kinda screwed.

blackTshirt · 01-07-2005, 04:13 PM

how old is she?

MUSE girl · 01-07-2005, 04:18 PM

same age

ArtistInTheAmbulance · 01-07-2005, 04:23 PM

Id just let them decide what they're going to do with the baby. You can still be with him if he helps with the kid, as long as he doesnt get involved with your friend, who hopefully wont cos she sounds like a really close friend..
But anyway just let them decide about this, he shouldnt leave you if he loves you as much as it sounds like you love him, but its not exactly a great situation. Just dont influence either of them on what to do with the baby, its a big decision theyve got to decide with each other. Be there to help them, and things'll sort themselves out.

Ok im fairly sure im no help at all, but i wanted to try

good luck with what ever you do!

camarochick71 · 01-07-2005, 04:24 PM

That is one screwed up situation, but honey keep in mind that you have your entire life in front of you. You haven't even begun to live yet, I say leave him and let him figure things out in his life and then if you both have feelings then go back, but straighten out everything first.

MUSE girl · 01-07-2005, 04:32 PM

you guys have really helped me, thankyou so much, even though iv been crying for the past hour, ill sort this out.

thankyou so much for your advice x

01-07-2005, 03:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
MUSE girl Eat my ****. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Merry old England, Forest Of Dean Posts: 104	I really need your help ok im in a relationship, the guy got my mate pregnant before we went out and she still has it now. she wants to get rid, but he really wants it, baring in mind he already has a young kid. he is 2yrs older than me and im completely stuck what to do. i feel hurt that he wants the child, but i respect him for not wanting to kill it, he says he loves me and i love him, but i dont want to leave him, what do i do? __________________ Just when you thourght things couldnt get much worse, just when you thourght things were going to get better...... it all returns with reinforcments.

01-07-2005, 03:46 PM	#2 (permalink)
Fenixpunk The Erroneous Hoodlum Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: West Side Phoenix Posts: 2,057	baby-mama drama sucks, i speak from experience...think about what youre getting yourself into. __________________ This message has been approved by Shawn Erroneous - The Declaimed

01-07-2005, 03:48 PM	#3 (permalink)
MUSE girl Eat my ****. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Merry old England, Forest Of Dean Posts: 104	i have fort bout it, but i love him too much to leave him, its just upsetting me to much, i hate thinking about it. __________________ Just when you thourght things couldnt get much worse, just when you thourght things were going to get better...... it all returns with reinforcments.

01-07-2005, 03:58 PM	#4 (permalink)
blackTshirt The Randomness Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: romania.. shut up Posts: 854	aren't you way too young? ok didn't mean it to sound like that...i think it's not up to you, though...cause he should make the choice...leave the girl alone or be with you...and it's that girl's choice too...if she keeps the baby or not....f*cked up situation __________________ My rims never spin, to the contrary You'll find that they're quite stationary.

01-07-2005, 04:10 PM	#5 (permalink)
MUSE girl Eat my ****. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Merry old England, Forest Of Dean Posts: 104	im 15?! hes 17, i think shes going tonight to get it gone, but im really good friends with her, so its kinda screwed. __________________ Just when you thourght things couldnt get much worse, just when you thourght things were going to get better...... it all returns with reinforcments.

01-07-2005, 04:13 PM	#6 (permalink)
blackTshirt The Randomness Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: romania.. shut up Posts: 854	how old is she? __________________ My rims never spin, to the contrary You'll find that they're quite stationary.

01-07-2005, 04:18 PM	#7 (permalink)
MUSE girl Eat my ****. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Merry old England, Forest Of Dean Posts: 104	same age __________________ Just when you thourght things couldnt get much worse, just when you thourght things were going to get better...... it all returns with reinforcments.

01-07-2005, 04:23 PM	#8 (permalink)
ArtistInTheAmbulance enchanted. Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: cornwailles, angleterre. Posts: 2,537	Id just let them decide what they're going to do with the baby. You can still be with him if he helps with the kid, as long as he doesnt get involved with your friend, who hopefully wont cos she sounds like a really close friend.. But anyway just let them decide about this, he shouldnt leave you if he loves you as much as it sounds like you love him, but its not exactly a great situation. Just dont influence either of them on what to do with the baby, its a big decision theyve got to decide with each other. Be there to help them, and things'll sort themselves out. Ok im fairly sure im no help at all, but i wanted to try good luck with what ever you do! __________________ shake your wings like theyre laced with sound!

01-07-2005, 04:24 PM	#9 (permalink)
camarochick71 Groupie Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Somewhere in the world Posts: 10	That is one screwed up situation, but honey keep in mind that you have your entire life in front of you. You haven't even begun to live yet, I say leave him and let him figure things out in his life and then if you both have feelings then go back, but straighten out everything first. __________________ Either you control your attitude... Or you will be put on medication

01-07-2005, 04:32 PM	#10 (permalink)
MUSE girl Eat my ****. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Merry old England, Forest Of Dean Posts: 104	you guys have really helped me, thankyou so much, even though iv been crying for the past hour, ill sort this out. thankyou so much for your advice x __________________ Just when you thourght things couldnt get much worse, just when you thourght things were going to get better...... it all returns with reinforcments.