Am I paranoid?

Freebase Dali · 06-17-2009, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by xxawwxsugarxx

I don't completely agree with that.

Half the time, I don't know how to react to compliments.

It was so bad with some guys that I don't even believe when people call me beautiful anymore.

But you're right about guys with a lot of beautiful women.

Thus, the bumblefuck of human emotion.
But regardless of how many people tell you you're beautiful, it's still dependent on you believing it for yourself. It's not so much what they are or aren't saying, it's more what you think about yourself. You shouldn't have your self confidence relying on what people are saying about you.

You also don't need to react to compliments. A compulsory need to react to compliments often leads to compulsory decisions based on them as a way to reciprocate. You can answer a compliment with a smile and simply walk away.

If you've been hurt by reciprocating to praise, you should be careful, because, as you know, a lot of guys will just say things to stroke the ego as a way to get... um... jiggy with it?

Arya Stark · 06-17-2009, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Veridical Fiction

Thus, the bumblefuck of human emotion.
But regardless of how many people tell you you're beautiful, it's still dependent on you believing it for yourself. It's not so much what they are or aren't saying, it's more what you think about yourself. You shouldn't have your self confidence relying on what people are saying about you.

You also don't need to react to compliments. A compulsory need to react to compliments often leads to compulsory decisions based on them as a way to reciprocate. You can answer a compliment with a smile and simply walk away.

If you've been hurt by reciprocating to praise, you should be careful, because, as you know, a lot of guys will just say things to stroke the ego as a way to get... um... jiggy with it?

Cute, darling.

I understand what you mean, though. I don't rely on their compliments as much as I had wanted to trust they meant what they said. "You're beautiful" always leads to them saying something more meaningful.

Freebase Dali · 06-17-2009, 10:43 PM

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Originally Posted by xxawwxsugarxx

Cute, darling.

I understand what you mean, though. I don't rely on their compliments as much as I had wanted to trust they meant what they said. "You're beautiful" always leads to them saying something more meaningful.

Well, just to provide you a little insight from this side of the fence, a guy who up and says "you're beautiful" and you barely know him... He's spinning a line.

Someone who's interested in YOU is going to comment on deeper things than what you look like. You'll have more of a connection than a physical one.
I mean... that applies if you're looking for something meaningful.
Otherwise, looks is all it takes if you're just trying to score.

Arya Stark · 06-17-2009, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Veridical Fiction

Well, just to provide you a little insight from this side of the fence, a guy who up and says "you're beautiful" and you barely know him... He's spinning a line.

Someone who's interested in YOU is going to comment on deeper things than what you look like. You'll have more of a connection than a physical one.
I mean... that applies if you're looking for something meaningful.
Otherwise, looks is all it takes if you're just trying to score.

Mm. True, I suppose.

I like how we're talking on both of the threads in circulation, now. xD

jackhammer · 06-18-2009, 07:30 AM

If anyone says that I'm OK looking then what's not to like about that? Compliments are food for the ego and soul. do you know how many times I see certain women and I just want to go up to them and tell them that they are pretty? Not for any other purpose than just to say that they are good looking but alas they would probably think you were some sort of sex creep

That's why I do comment in the members gallery a lot. I like giving compliments and it doesn't mean I'm on the make or anything.

boo boo · 06-18-2009, 08:04 AM

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Originally Posted by JayJamJah

@ The Delightful young lady who'll soon be changing her username

You should watch the Postman, Captain Corelli's mandolin and Waterworld, great Costner epics.

@ Bryan (2Boo): I'm married, so obviously I don't get laid, but when I did, acting like I didn't care (not to a comical degree, be convincing) was my most successful tactic.

Also important to have standards if you want to be a repeat winner.

Women, subconsciously want to things, what doesn't want them and what other women want.

The sick flaw in nature is that finding out a guy really likes them is a pretty major turn off.

I understand what you're saying, I never try to approach a woman directly, I already learned that the hard way.

Kevorkian Logic · 06-18-2009, 01:21 PM

this whole thread is angsty as ****.

Arya Stark · 06-18-2009, 01:37 PM

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Originally Posted by jackhammer

If anyone says that I'm OK looking then what's not to like about that? Compliments are food for the ego and soul. do you know how many times I see certain women and I just want to go up to them and tell them that they are pretty? Not for any other purpose than just to say that they are good looking but alas they would probably think you were some sort of sex creep

That's why I do comment in the members gallery a lot. I like giving compliments and it doesn't mean I'm on the make or anything.

That makes sense, though.

boo boo · 06-18-2009, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Kevorkian Logic

this whole thread is angsty as ****.

Well Ethan has been slacking in that department lately so I'm his placeholder for the moment.

sleepy jack · 06-18-2009, 08:01 PM

Yeah but even at my most angsty (see middle school) I was still getting more ass than you.

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