i wont lie, i laughed HARD at that

So I think I'm failing at this TOO nice thing.

Because I'm too nice.
Just last night my girlfriend had said that she has me on such a leash.

She thinks she can walk all over me, at this point in the relationship, she probably could. I need ultimate wisdom in regards to changing this fact.

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Dude, don't bang here for 3 months. Don't get near that thing. Make her want you. Get her ass on a leash. We guys have the ability to do these type of things because we have hands.

Nah, I'm not that kind of dude. I don't want my girl on a leash. I don't mind being on a leash, I just need her to know when it comes down to it, I will stand my ground.

You are'nt on a physical leash are you? Like does she beat on you and stuff.

Woman are just like men, if something in a relationship is screwed-up the people in it need to practice good communication, trust, and good boundaries. Not exactly easy. If you have those three then you don't have to "figure out" the other person. You should never have to analyze your partner in order to understand a situation or how to work toward a solution, that's an example of bad communication. You should never let your partner walk all over you, that's an example of bad boundaries. You can't have either without trust, and you can't have real trust unless you're able to say things that sound like your a dick just because it's truthful, or you'll never be able to communicate, and your boundaries are probably screwed in that situation too. It's having that type of real-world, ground in reality honesty that eventually (if worked on) will lead to the above three guidelines. It takes a lot of self-work on both sides, and is not the easy answer to everything but rather tools to deal with pretty much anything. I've been going on two years of this and is nowhere at all near having all three, but continually trying has made my relationship increasingly strong, so problems are simply (not easily) dealt with- even the hardest of them.

What? No.

O thats good. I just get the mental image of a fist punching you in the face sayign I have you on a leash why were you out past 8.

..Have you seen me? Most people think twice about punching me just by stature alone.

She's really good about letting me do what I want. I think it's more over in the way I approach situations with her. I've always been with girls who take the lead, and I'm cool to follow.
She wants me to take the lead now and it's just new territory for me.

She likes how overly sweet I am, and how silly I get.
I just think I need to man up and show her that I do have some kind of bite.

I'll just do it gradually, I guess, that way it's nothing too shocking or drastic.

I think I just gave myself the advice I needed.

You did just give yourself the advice you needed =]