Originally Posted by Darkest Hour (Post 639166)

dude, i don't look like the typical virgin type. I'm not weird looking, nerdy, or anything like that, i'm just shy when it comes to girls. How i even managed to nearly **** 3 hot chicks is beyond me. I set my standards pretty high for girls, and i'm not going to have sex with a girl who is mediocre ever. There's like no way around it, other than taking my chances with some chick and hoping i don't totally suck. It's a freaking embarrassment just to admit i am a virgin to people. Not that i really care personally, but jesus christ, who waits this long to lose their virginity these days?

Originally Posted by Veridical Fiction (Post 639167)

Dude, since when has getting your nut off had ANYTHING to do with how a girl looks at you?

You've got to get something into your brain: If you're provided the opportunity to shag a broad and she doesn't know you're a virgin, then dive right the hell in and get it done. I don't care if it's 3 minutes or 3 seconds. Fuk her. Literally and figuratively. Get the whole virginity headcase mentality out of your brain. It's only clouding your judgment.
Yea, so what, you come in 3 minutes. When the girl asks you why it happened, you just tell her she was THAT GOOD.
She won't believe you, but it's the least you can do.

Then after that, you know what it feels like, you know what to expect, and you just work on your self control.

Guys have too damn much to worry about with women much less "what they'll think of them" during sex. Last I checked, sex was a self gratifying process just as much as a giving one. Guys need to stop being so damn sensitive and start giving credit to themselves and realize that girls find that confidence sexy too.

Originally Posted by 333 (Post 639172)

Great advice. I still get annoyed when a guy can't **** me twice in a row. I feel like a lot of the times, it's a mental block. I know there are physical aspects of it, too, but there's nothing worse than when you're on a roll and the sex is short-lived. Not that I don't like a guy who expresses his emotions, but sensitive guys who are WAY in-****ing-touch with themselves tend to just piss me off. Ex: If you cry during sex, I'm going to laugh in your face and leave.

Originally Posted by Veridical Fiction (Post 639173)

Exactly. There is a balance that is LEARNED. (take note of that, Darkest)
You can't begin to learn that balance until you start putting it into practice.
Your first lay is never the best one. It's a learning experience. You find out where things go and you work with what you have.

333, Yea some guys take it to an extreme. Crying after sex is probably something I'd stay away from.
If some chick cried after I did my thing, I'd feel like the cops were coming.
Not good.
I can't imagine why a guy would cry after sex if I were a female... I'd be freaked.

Originally Posted by Veridical Fiction (Post 639173)

Exactly. There is a balance that is LEARNED. (take note of that, Darkest)
You can't begin to learn that balance until you start putting it into practice.
Your first lay is never the best one. It's a learning experience. You find out where things go and you work with what you have.

333, Yea some guys take it to an extreme. Crying after sex is probably something I'd stay away from.
If some chick cried after I did my thing, I'd feel like the cops were coming.
Not good.
I can't imagine why a guy would cry after sex if I were a female... I'd be freaked.

Originally Posted by Darkest Hour (Post 639175)

yeah, the whole crying thing is weird. I couldn't imagine that either, lol

Originally Posted by 333 (Post 639179)

Haha, I repeat: Cried DURING sex. It was the most awkward moment of my sex life. Who wants to be showered in tears while they're boinkin'? He was only the second guy I'd ever had sex with, and it wasn't even a special, candlelit moment. It was in the back of his goddamn '88 mustang, which was parked in some dark street. It wasn't meant to be some beautiful, touching sex. If I want a good cry, I'll call my girls up. Getting sensitive when we're banging is a no-no. And yes, he cried when I broke up with him a few days after.

Originally Posted by 333 (Post 639179)

Haha, I repeat: Cried DURING sex. It was the most awkward moment of my sex life. Who wants to be showered in tears while they're boinkin'? He was only the second guy I'd ever had sex with, and it wasn't even a special, candlelit moment. It was in the back of his goddamn '88 mustang, which was parked in some dark street. It wasn't meant to be some beautiful, touching sex. If I want a good cry, I'll call my girls up. Getting sensitive when we're banging is a no-no. And yes, he cried when I broke up with him a few days after.

Originally Posted by Veridical Fiction (Post 639180)

But you do get my point right?
You have to put yourself out there if you expect to get any results. You have to let yourself make mistakes in order to learn how to do things better.
When it comes to sex, you can't just take a person's advice as gold.
It takes personal experience to gauge where you stand on things like that.

If you simply rely on your personal fears, being a virgin, they're largely unfounded and simply holding you back from your own possibilities.

Give yourself a chance.
Discard your fears and dive in.
Make self judgments when there's actually something to judge.