The Sexual Experience Thread

[Dirty]

I mean yeah it makes you happy, thats not really what i consider emotional sex though

[simplephysics]

There's a difference between having sex for the sake of having sex and it feeling good, and having sex with someone you want to share the expirence with. Sex with my boyfriend can be very rewarding emotionally and bring us closer together in our relationship, but it can also be very unemotional, in a "let's bang" kind of way at times... depends on the situtation, or how many drinks are in both of us. Either way, it's always a good time.

[s_k]

Originally Posted by thirtiesgirl

Interesting how you assume that simply because she's an attractive woman, she must have a lot of sexual partners, or constant offers to have sex.

I never said that.
But I know she gets a lot of offers. She appears pretty confident and she knows she is beautiful. She's happy with the way she looks and the way she is. So that's not the issue .
You just assume that, since she's had quite some partners (not a very slutty amount, but still enough to gain some sexual experience), you'd come to think that she must have had some good sex in her life so far.
So I just wonder why she doesn't like sex. I don't mind, but it is quite remarkable.

People who are less confident tend to have fewer sexual partners.

Well I'm pretty confident with myself and I only had one girl I really had sex ("it") with. But that's probably because I'm very, very picky. And I've been with her from my 18th up till last year.

But I'd agree that this woman most likely hasn't had a good sexual experience yet if she doesn't enjoy or see the point of it.
Unfortunate. If you're dating her, I hope you're patient with her, show her lots of love and support and are hopefully able to help her have a better sexual experience at some point in time.

I'm not dating her. She's just a friend. Altough I must admit that, though she is entirely not my type, she really has something.
And don't worry, I'm really really very patient with the people I choose to be with. I can get annoyed really quickly if I'm forced to be with people who are not my kind at all, though.
Eitherway, I'm not the pushy type and if my girlfriend wouldn't want to have sex with me for any reason, I wouldn't mind. I wouldn't be able to live with a girl I can't hold, cuddle or hug, but I can live without sex, kissing, the lot. I don't mind. Don't get me wrong, I love sex. And I do think it's really good for a relationship. But it's not a requirement for me.

[s_k]

Originally Posted by dreadnaught

There's a difference between having sex for the sake of having sex and it feeling good, and having sex with someone you want to share the expirence with.

I may have already pointed this out at some point in this topic, but the way I look at it. I can have sex with any girl I love. It doesn't matter if that's in a manner of friendship or in an actual relationship.
I would never want to have sex with just 'some' girl. One night stands for instance.

The next thing might sound rediculous, but it's true.
I have 8 close female friends.
And all of them are beautiful. I guess everyone would think so, but at least I do. And I would have sex with any of them. Not because I'd like to have a relationship with them, but just because I want to be close to them because I love them. One of the girls would probably make a nice girlfriend for me. But her boyfriend is the nicest guy, I wouldn't want to mess that up. And she uses some pretty heavy drugs now and then. I wouldn't consider her addicted, but still, I just don't want my girlfriend to use any drugs apart from maybe marihuana. And another problem, she absolutely wants to live in a city. And I won't. Ever. I would go mad.
So that's not going to work anyway.
As I said, I'm picky .

Eitherway, what I was on about. Sex, for me, isn't something that should be limited to a relationship. But I'd never ever want to have sex with someone I don't have strong feelings for.

[Goblin Tears]

Y'all are such sweethearts.

[thirtiesgirl]

Originally Posted by Urban Hatemonger

I thought it was kind of obvious that when people talk about lack of emotion in sex it's pretty clear they mean their feelings for the other person they're referring to, not their own gratification.

One doesn't have to have feelings for another person to feel happy about having and getting sex. Happiness is still an emotion, whether one has feelings for their partner or not.

Originally Posted by s_k

I never said that.

Um, yeah, you did:

Originally Posted by s_k

But still... Strange thing for a (really, really beautiful an sexy) girl to say.

This implies that you think because she's an attractive woman, you think she must have a lot of sexual partners and get frequent offers.

Originally Posted by s_k

You just assume that, since she's had quite some partners (not a very slutty amount, but still enough to gain some sexual experience), you'd come to think that she must have had some good sex in her life so far.

Hon, I make no assumption about the number of sexual partners she's had. Nor do I care. Based on the fact that you say she doesn't enjoy or see the point in sex, I'd actually guess that she's had very few sexual partners. If you don't enjoy something, why would you engage in it on a repeated basis? And what, exactly, is a "slutty amount" of sexual partners? Please don't tell me you're judging people on the number of sexual partners they've had.

[Urban Hat€monger ?]

Originally Posted by thirtiesgirl

One doesn't have to have feelings for another person to feel happy about having and getting sex. Happiness is still an emotion, whether one has feelings for their partner or not.

I never said it wasn't

Maybe you didn't read my post properly.

[thirtiesgirl]

Originally Posted by Urban Hatemonger

I never said it wasn't

Maybe you didn't read my post properly.

I know you didn't. I was just kind of re-making my point.

[s_k]

Originally Posted by thirtiesgirl

This implies that you think because she's an attractive woman, you think she must have a lot of sexual partners and get frequent offers.

I can see how you see that, but that's never what I meant to say.
It was you who interpreted it that way. Sorry .

Hon, I make no assumption about the number of sexual partners she's had. Nor do I care. Based on the fact that you say she doesn't enjoy or see the point in sex, I'd actually guess that she's had very few sexual partners.

You should probably stick to the facts then .
And please don't go 'hon' on me if you don't agree with what I say.
I don't mind discussing things with you, but I don't like to be treated as the inferior person. Got that? Good.

If you don't enjoy something, why would you engage in it on a repeated basis? And what, exactly, is a "slutty amount" of sexual partners? Please don't tell me you're judging people on the number of sexual partners they've had.

Stop guessing, you're all wrong, again.

Please try to read what people (not just me) say, not what you think they say or what you want them to say. You're creating arguments for things that were never said.
And I personally don't mind. But I don't think this way of putting things works very well on a form.
It's text based only, you can't see expressions here. So all you have is the text you read. Stick to that. It works better.

[Dirty]

Originally Posted by thirtiesgirl

One doesn't have to have feelings for another person to feel happy about having and getting sex. Happiness is still an emotion, whether one has feelings for their partner or not.

You are using a different definition for 'emotional sex.' Most people I doubt consider anything involving any emotions as 'emotional,' as that would include near everything.