Yea.. um.. you may as well just prepare yourself for the breakup then, cause if a girl goes lesbo after tasting your man magic, you might as well call it quits right thur.

Good point.

It's called human nature.

Getting into a relationship with someone isn't you signing a contract to only masturbate to the image of one person for the rest of your life, if that's what a long term relationship is then count me out man. http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y28...cons/uhoh2.gif

^ I just didn't get how letting your partner sleep with other people makes your relationship 'strong'?

I mean, all the good long-term relationships I've had involved not wanting to be with anybody else, and that's what made them so good.

There's a difference between wanting to be with someone and wanting to have sex with someone.

I'm not saying it's excusable to cheat on your partner, but I doubt being in a relationship is going to put a halt on your usual sexual urges and you shouldn't expect it to.

The key is being able not to act on them, of course.

So do you guys think it's cheating to mentally fall in love with another person while you're with someone, but without physically doing anything about it?

Yes. It's emotional cheating. Being with someone involves body and mind. Although it's not something you can often control. If you're in a relationship and in love with someone else obviously the relationship needs rethinking.

no. every girl I've dated has known that I adore all of my female friends, some of whom I used to date. Only a few of my ex's had a problem with it, I guess they saw my friends as a threat, but those girls weren't too smart to begin with. Looked good tho ;)

So how would you feel if you were with a girl who you knew was totally in love with another guy? You wouldn't mind?

That's just the thing...
I'm not condoning cheating or anything... But if, at any point, you're in a relationship with a significant other and you fall out of love/like with that person... Are you cheating?
What if you're realizing that the person is completely wrong for you?
You may even have fallen in love with someone else during this process...

What I'm saying is that a person should break the relationship off, before pursuing another. But it can't be cheating if you're subject to your own emotions. The things that make a strong relationship are not based on whimsical emotion.

Honestly, no. I'm at a point in my life now where I don't feel threatened by my girl's male friends, because if I did it would just be a sign that our relationship isn't meaningful or solid enough for me to trust her. There was a time when I might've gotten jealous, but nowadays I really look for intelligence and a mental connection on top of that initial physical attraction. I know I'm not the most handsome guy, and I don't try to be. I'm more comfortable with being myself, and my dating habits have changed accordingly. If she's in love with another guy then so be it, I'm not trying to control her or play all kinds of mind games. It just wasn't meant to be.