Why do people do this?? Maybe that scared her.

Just because someone tells you they want to know everything there is still some stuff you gotta ease on them. You can't go around confessing some insane desire for every girl you date a couple months and really enjoy spending time with. Enjoy fucking, talking, having a good time together. Don't sit and be each other's therapist. Complain about your day and how your parents pissed you off or the dick you have to work with, not how you were locked in a closet as a child and it makes you resent your parents.


^I'm not saying you did any of this Seq, this is just a general critique of relationships.

I don't have any experience with this in romantic relationships, but I can definitely agree with this in general. When you have a relationship based around trauma bonding (swapping stories about how much both your lives suck, usually while drunk at two in the morning), it just becomes a mutually one-sided, parasitic arrangement, where both parties are more concerned with someone else validating their own issues than actually connecting with each other.

This also has the side effect of both of you quasi-passive aggressively trying to one-up each other with how ****ed up both your stories are. If the other person's life sucks more than yours does, then you don't get to be validated, since you got it easy, right?

for a second when he said complain about the dick you have to work with i thought he meant complain about his dick being too small :laughing:

Nobody complains about that. That's something you bitch about in your own head. As far as the world is concerned, you're working with nothing less than 8".

dunno i could see a woody allen type complaining to his girlfriend about his small penis

Woody Allen has had that problem his whole life, so yeah you are right.

imo though for people in general try not to complain too much in general

or if you're gonna complain then complain about something your average person can relate to, like the jewish banking and media cartels or being excluded from beyonce's illuminati sex parties

I've been a bit more conservative with how I felt when we would talk. She would get all gooey, and so would I, we enjoyed our humor and talks, but hanging around each other we did a lot of things and enjoyed our company. We didn't share many pity parties, some, but not many.

We didn't just make out btw, we got farther than that. Since not many people on this forum know who I am, I guess it's okay to say exactly the farthest we got. I did play with her a bit, but she never moved my hand away or told me to stop. We were laying next to each other with her head on my shoulder as we kissed, and would make little gasps as she grinded her hips. Every sign I got told me she was enjoying what I was doing.

i just think about it like this... if she lead you on that she wanted to fool around and then afterwards turned cold towards you on some 'all you want is sex' bull****, then she is most likely either a) making **** up to back out of a relationship she's turned sour on for whatever reason or b) a legit crazy woman who has all sorts of issues and hang ups that you're better off avoiding. if she started to freak out on some bull**** and you told her the best you could that she was reading you wrong and all that... and she continued to freak out and say **** you... then honestly drop it and move on... and count your lucky stars that she manifested this behavior after only a month or so, so it should be relatively easy to recover from

imo

All actually really good advice. You have to accept that everyone's got their ****, and even though you're sometimes involved in someone else's **** it's not usually about you.