Advice thread

[Bloozcrooz]

Friends with benefits can still stll be friends. Id recommend at at least giving it a shot man.

[Janszoon]

Originally Posted by Boozinbloozin

Friends with benefits can still stll be friends. Id recommend at at least giving it a shot man.

Yes, everyone.

[djchameleon]

Originally Posted by James

Have feelings for my best friend, anyone been in a situation like this before? What should I do?

you would know your best friend better than us.

Is she the type that would date a friend, has she in the past? you have to play it by ear and pick the right time to bring it up to her if she has.

Some girls don't like to date friends because if it turns out bad they think they will lose the friendship, which is stupid imo.

Dating a friend is the best thing because if it doesn't work out you can just transition back to being friends again. I have done it three times before.

[Bloozcrooz]

Originally Posted by Janszoon

Yes, everyone.

I wont make judment of your personal prefference of who you like to befriend Jans lol.

[ThePhanastasio]

Originally Posted by James

Have feelings for my best friend, anyone been in a situation like this before? What should I do?

I've had crushes on my good friends before, in addition to some of my best friends having crushes on me. Neither situation has ended badly; the worst case scenario was like a week of me being like, "Oh, shit, I'm going to act awkward around them and they can't see me acting awkward!" which led to about a week of semi-awkwardness. It wasn't devastating, just uncomfortable, and for a very brief time.

The thing is, usually if you're really close friends with someone, it's not going to come between you two. The worst that I've seen happen between close friends, like I said, is a brief period of awkwardness just because one or both of the people were concerned that things would be weird, when they really weren't; it was just psyching themselves out.

Also, as best friends, she will be concerned about your feelings, even if the feelings aren't returned. From my own personal experience, this isn't something which causes complete devastation. Like I said, again, just a little bit of awkwardness.

It basically comes down to, "Oh, they don't have the same feelings, and that blows, but I still like chilling with this person," and it was easier to get over because I was already their friend and content with that on some level.

And keep in mind, that's only if the feelings aren't returned, and it's still not complete devastation. If the feelings are returned, then KICK ASS! You've got a thing with someone with whom you actually like to talk and hang out!

Basically I guess what I'm saying is that if you really are that tight, the odds of it legitimately ending badly are probably one in a million. And the payoff if she digs you too - so worth it.

[Dirty]

James let me throw some golden knowledge your way since I am a genius

be realistic, do you have a real shot with her? if the answer is no, dont waste your time trying to win her over or impress her because you'll just dig deeper and depper into the friend zone until you can never climb out.

if the answer is yes, become slightly distant from her. and by that I mean don't always jump at the chance to hang out whenever she asks. it's like, if she asks you to go shopping or something 'friendly' decline. when you get a crush on someone you want to make a good impression on them and basically make them happy so you end up trying too hard and she realizes how happy she is with you... as a friend.

that was not golden advice, i lied, but there may be a small nugget of solid advice in there somewhere. im trying to tell you to be careful to not bury yourself in the friendzone cause it can sneak up on you like that. im saying dont do stuff like talk on facebook chat for 3 hours every night and dont ever give any advice on anything having to do with her relationships or previous relationships or anything to do with guys she likes.

i am dead serious right now when i tell you to start drinking. drink with her sometime, and see what happens. you're young enough where you can get drunk and act totally ridiculous or be fake drunk and make a move and blame it completely on the booze.

tl;dr get hammered around her, kiss her, dont become best friend

[Howard the Duck]

my best fren ended up getting me smashed and half-raping me

[Bloozcrooz]

I was waiting on that response from duce

[Howard the Duck]

^^she was a chubby chick BTW

[Bloozcrooz]

Fat chick...oh well thats terrible Duce im sorry to hear that