Advice thread

[right-track]

Originally Posted by TheCunningStunt

If you take the plunge and it falls to bits, I'm sure you can always move back with your folks.
They're getting a house by next July? 8ish months to find a job.
Go for it.

This is good advice downspiral.

Although I don't encourage the migration of scousers to anywhere (apart from Wales) the advice is sound.
What have you got to lose?

[TheCunningStunt]

Originally Posted by downwardspiral

I don't know if I'm bothered or what still about my friends all ****ing off and not speaking to me over some ridiculous lies. I'm not sure. I spoke to one of my friends the other day for the first time in two years on Facebook, it was odd.

Why did you not go to Uni Michael?

I'd imagine so, if you're that type of person.
I'm the type of person who isn't really bothered if I lose people, other than deaths in the family of course.
But I've found friends come and go and I just don't feel particularly bothered.
I've only ever had 1 friend who we've been on the same wave length, our sense of humours are exactly alike.
Even if our music and film tastes aren't, I'd be gutted if we weren't friends anymore. But they're the only exception to the rule.
Most people are just people to go out for a drink with, I don't expect friendships to last forever. I think I'm dead inside, but I generally don't need people.

I didn't go to Uni because I couldn't be arsed with a load of self-richeous cunts living the uni life.
My friends have pissed me off.
They're all in Uni living this crazy life where they get drunk at 2AM and don't go to sleep until 5AM when they have a lecture at 9AM.
I had no interest in taking part in any of that bullshit, I have no interest in taking a course like law or another course a friend of mine is doing, involving the EU. I didn't want to do something where I pretend like I can make a difference.
I just want to do as little as possible and still get paid.

Originally Posted by right-track

This is good advice downspiral.

Although I don't encourage the migration of scousers to anywhere (apart from Wales) the advice is sound.
What have you got to lose?

I have friends in North Wales.
Flint is practically Liverpool laa

[duga]

Originally Posted by Freebase Dali

Well that's the thing... I know there's no pressure, and there are outs, and that I would like to be in a relationship with someone who isn't either a slut, nor a slut who cheats on you with a fry cook while you're in Iraq, nor a Dirty Gertrude McHelga. So in this scenario, it's very likely to be a win.

So why am I finding the idea both compelling and repulsive, for lack of a better word? I know I'm not afraid of commitment, as I was engaged to a woman who, afterward, cheated on me with a fry cook while I was in Iraq... So could it be that? Or have I just grown too fond of being free to do what I want, even though it's neither emotionally nor physically healthy in any way when it comes down to how I spend my free time?
Or am I just thinking?
I gotta say, I never thought my way into a relationship before. They all just kinda happened before I knew they were happening, over the course of being intoxicated. Maybe that's my problem. Being sober... (as an alcoholic, this is awesome news)

Honestly, I would find relationships repulsive if someone did something like that to me. I've been ****ing around for a good while now since I broke up with my ex. I dated that girl for 4 years. I'm also the kind of guy that likes to be in relationships, though...so I'm kind of looking around myself. At the same time, even if I really like a girl I end up imagining the relationship ending the same way my last one did and I become very apprehensive. If I'm having these kinds of concerns while my break up was relatively calm, I can't even imagine what you must be thinking.

I think the key has to be to just stop thinking so much about what something could become and just focus on what it is. Just go with it and take it day by day. My ex was the first really serious relationship I ever had, and I remember when I started dating her I just went with it. I didn't have these concerns, and I really didn't think about the future so much. I went with it and we had 3 really great years. I definitely don't regret those years. I think we have to try to start new relationships the same way as that.

Now, I'm going to do something really corny...but this is MB and music has definitely helped me with a lot of issues. One day when I was thinking about all this relationship crap, I played this and it really fit:

[Freebase Dali]

Originally Posted by duga

Honestly, I would find relationships repulsive if someone did something like that to me. I've been ****ing around for a good while now since I broke up with my ex. I dated that girl for 4 years. I'm also the kind of guy that likes to be in relationships, though...so I'm kind of looking around myself. At the same time, even if I really like a girl I end up imagining the relationship ending the same way my last one did and I become very apprehensive. If I'm having these kinds of concerns while my break up was relatively calm, I can't even imagine what you must be thinking.

I think the key has to be to just stop thinking so much about what something could become and just focus on what it is. Just go with it and take it day by day. My ex was the first really serious relationship I ever had, and I remember when I started dating her I just went with it. I didn't have these concerns, and I really didn't think about the future so much. I went with it and we had 3 really great years. I definitely don't regret those years. I think we have to try to start new relationships the same way as that.

Now, I'm going to do something really corny...but this is MB and music has definitely helped me with a lot of issues. One day when I was thinking about all this relationship crap, I played this and it really fit:

I don't think I'm traumatized by it or anything... I just think it's hilarious because of the situation, and I have no problem mentioning it. And I totally forgot to add the part about the fry cook appearing as though he had a slight touch of Down's syndrome. I'm talking like... maybe a little bit of his DNA was mutated, but not enough to be a full fledged Corky. Real morale booster right there.. I know...

Yea, maybe I am still hung up on that. I realize that that broad was just a really dirty slut. But I guess I just end up questioning whether my judgment should be trusted, seeing as how I almost married a Corky fucker.

[FaSho]

I need new shoes.
What should I get?

[Burning Down]

Originally Posted by FaSho

I need new shoes.
What should I get?

They would totally suit you

[FaSho]

Yeah, that's totally my style.

[Burning Down]

Just kidding

[s_k]

Vans .
Obviously

(come to think of it, I don't like boots or high heels on girls)

[Burning Down]

Vans are great. I still have a pair from four years ago. And they're cheaper then a good pair of running shoes, usually.