Advice thread

[Freebase Dali]

Originally Posted by djchameleon

I've come across this in the past and I decided to go with what I'm passionate about as opposed to taking the big payday.

I rather do something that I'm passionate about than just work at something because it generates more income but be miserable and uninterested in it.

Sure there are plenty of people doing that but I don't feel that's a good way to live. To just join the rat race and do a job/career that you don't like but it pays well.

Some people say well that's what grown-ups do they make sacrifices and throw away their dreams to be more realistic and earn money but I don't even think that's connected to maturity at all.

There are just different ways to live your life either you can be happy and barely getting by or you can be miserable but make a stupid amount of money.

You CAN get to the point where you are happy and generate a large income but it takes time and if you are impatient then you might as well go the miserable route.


after I said all of that I'm not even sure if I answered your question or was of any help sorry.

I think it's largely circumstantial.
Most people I've met that go into careers that aren't part of their dream are because they end up with a family and mouths to feed, and the "me" aspect becomes less of a factor than the "us" aspect. I think there's a pretty big difference between a single person with only him/herself to answer to in regards to career, and someone needing to take care of a family with more pressing issues than personal ventures.

It's pretty fortunate if you can do what you love and become so successful at it that it covers "me" AND "us", but when that's not the reality of the situation, most responsible adults may (and in my opinion, should) forsake any unrealistic dream for the sake of their family.
I think, often times, that's just the choice many people make out of necessity, and is completely natural and not something that shouldn't be looked down on.

[djchameleon]

Originally Posted by Freebase Dali

I think it's largely circumstantial.
Most people I've met that go into careers that aren't part of their dream are because they end up with a family and mouths to feed, and the "me" aspect becomes less of a factor than the "us" aspect. I think there's a pretty big difference between a single person with only him/herself to answer to in regards to career, and someone needing to take care of a family with more pressing issues than personal ventures.

It's pretty fortunate if you can do what you love and become so successful at it that it covers "me" AND "us", but when that's not the reality of the situation, most responsible adults may (and in my opinion, should) forsake any unrealistic dream for the sake of their family.
I think, often times, that's just the choice many people make out of necessity, and is completely natural and not something that shouldn't be looked down on.

I understand that but it just seems horrible and I understand when people end up committing suicide because of it.

it's horrible to throw away your dreams because reality slaps you in the face.

[ThePhanastasio]

Well, I've just got "me" to take care of. If I had kids and a family and all of that, I'm sure that it'd be completely different. I just don't know what to do about me. It's completely ridiculous and upsetting.

I mean, I'm glad that it's at least dealing with the arts in some manner, but it's just about the least interesting aspect of the arts in tems of myself that I could find. If it was dance, I'd be even more confused.

[djchameleon]

I have a question though, why do you find it upsetting?

are you working on a time table where you need to have this decision made as soon as possible?

give yourself a break you are still young.

[The Virgin]

Originally Posted by coryallen2

well last night at exactly 4:47 in the morning i woke up too some noise...it was my moms bf telling her he would kill her...so i did what everyone else would do...i grabbed a bat and chased him with it...what should i have done?

if i were on your shoe, i would have done the same thing.

[Farfisa]

I'm just going to get this out. I deep down am a truly hateful person, when I see certain kinds of people I just get so pissed off I'd rather be dead then see them again. I always go on about things I hate and how people should be beaten to death for making horrible music or doing horrible things to humanity. Note, this is just me as I've asked a few music listeners in which I relate to taste wise. How should I be less hateful? How can I see the good in things without becoming overly psychotic and dramatic over the bad? I feel like this continues I'll alienate myself from everyone and be a vulgar, hateful, bastard.

[Howard the Duck]

i feel like killing every bystander i meet on a bad day

i'm the last person to ask about being less hateful

[EvilChuck]

Originally Posted by loose_lips_sink_ships

I'm just going to get this out. I deep down am a truly hateful person, when I see certain kinds of people I just get so pissed off I'd rather be dead then see them again. I always go on about things I hate and how people should be beaten to death for making horrible music or doing horrible things to humanity. Note, this is just me as I've asked a few music listeners in which I relate to taste wise. How should I be less hateful? How can I see the good in things without becoming overly psychotic and dramatic over the bad? I feel like this continues I'll alienate myself from everyone and be a vulgar, hateful, bastard.

More than likely its something about yourself you dislike, and you either project that dislike onto others or you see the same traits in other people that you dislike in yourself and instantly dislike them as well.

Basically, you probably should do alot of self reflecting, and see what you dislike about yourself, and then set about righting the things you see that are wrong with yourself.

[FETCHER.]

My sister absolutely insists I'm gay. This wouldn't be a problem, if I WAS. I feel like my family is talking about me behind my back constantly and she's basically pressuring me to come out. It's really starting to grate on me and obviously I don't like the accusations when I'm inclined otherwise. I genuinely have no idea how to go about it, or even what to say. I've told her I'm not, and all I get is a raised eyebrow and 'hmm'. It's very, I don't know? Patronising? And it's pissing me off.

[Freebase Dali]

Originally Posted by Aurora

My sister absolutely insists I'm gay. This wouldn't be a problem, if I WAS. I feel like my family is talking about me behind my back constantly and she's basically pressuring me to come out. It's really starting to grate on me and obviously I don't like the accusations when I'm inclined otherwise. I genuinely have no idea how to go about it, or even what to say. I've told her I'm not, and all I get is a raised eyebrow and 'hmm'. It's very, I don't know? Patronising? And it's pissing me off.

What reason would they have for doubting your sexual preference?