The Bitch Box

SGR · 08-03-2022, 11:28 AM

Hard disagree that 'like' is better than 'uhhh' or 'ummm' as a pause interjection. 'Like' is much more jarring and noticeable to me.

I think using them stems from an insecurity that most or at least many people have that they'll lose their interlocutor's focus, attention, or interest when they're speaking and pause for some time as they think of what exactly they want to say next. Using 'like' and 'uhhm' is basically a verbal stopgap to allow them to think of what they want to say next without leaving that scary block of silence between words.

I believe though that it's been shown that in speaking, if you implement silent pauses, it actually makes you more persuasive and likely to keep your audience's attention and interest. Take a look at almost any Ted Talk to see that in action.

music_collector · 08-03-2022, 11:39 AM

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I believe though that it's been shown that in speaking, if you implement silent pauses, it actually makes you more persuasive and likely to keep your audience's attention and interest. Take a look at almost any Ted Talk to see that in action.

I can see that. I try to take silent pauses. There are times where I get stuck and I'll put in the "you know", or the "so...".

I think part of the reason I noticed the "like" stuff is that I used to hear it a lot in high school. I thought it was a kid thing to do. I hear it everywhere I go now.

Trollheart · 08-03-2022, 12:43 PM

Yeah, so I'm a big hater of the usage of "so" in front of everything. "So" is a qualifier, as in, he couldn't get a ticket so he couldn't go to the gig. But now everyone starts every ****ing sentence with the word. "What are you doing tonight?"
"So, I think I'll head down to the bar and..."
AAARRRGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!

Guybrush · 08-03-2022, 12:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Plankton

I think it started with Moon Unit.

Like, gag me with a spoon

Plankton · 08-03-2022, 12:47 PM

Totally

music_collector · 08-03-2022, 12:57 PM

I'm guilty of the "so". I'm also positive that there are ways I speak which annoy others.

Like Ricky said, "what goes around is all around".

Mindy · 08-03-2022, 01:57 PM

The dude in the Incubator discord server tries so hard to be down or known and acknowledged. He spams the channels begging for Twitter likes basically. everything about him is artificial and fake. He tries to tell others what he is doing as he does it, in the chats. It's so odd when no one likes his post, then he reposts it lol I guess I just hope we can have a better relationship. He is all about the levels and thinks they may end up giving him special access to something if he types and becomes high level in the discord. maybe I am just jealous he knows what to type for conversations but whatever. Peace. rant over/ lol

edit: He probably is an awesome person, I don't have a problem with him but I just feel sometimes he comes off not genuine. please incubators possibly reading don't hate me for bitching out my feelings

Trollheart · 08-03-2022, 03:32 PM

The Batlord · 08-03-2022, 04:09 PM

Call him the n-word.

SGR · 08-03-2022, 05:00 PM

There's a discord for incubators!?

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08-03-2022, 12:43 PM	#24633 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,992	Yeah, so I'm a big hater of the usage of "so" in front of everything. "So" is a qualifier, as in, he couldn't get a ticket so he couldn't go to the gig. But now everyone starts every ***ing sentence with the word. "What are you doing tonight?" "So, I think I'll head down to the bar and..." AAARRRGGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018*

08-03-2022, 12:47 PM	#24635 (permalink)
Plankton Just Keep Swimming... Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: See signature... Posts: 7,765	Totally __________________ See location...

08-03-2022, 01:57 PM	#24637 (permalink)
Mindy ask me about cosmology Join Date: Oct 2016 Location: Milky Way Galaxy Posts: 8,991	The dude in the Incubator discord server tries so hard to be down or known and acknowledged. He spams the channels begging for Twitter likes basically. everything about him is artificial and fake. He tries to tell others what he is doing as he does it, in the chats. It's so odd when no one likes his post, then he reposts it lol I guess I just hope we can have a better relationship. He is all about the levels and thinks they may end up giving him special access to something if he types and becomes high level in the discord. maybe I am just jealous he knows what to type for conversations but whatever. Peace. rant over/ lol edit: He probably is an awesome person, I don't have a problem with him but I just feel sometimes he comes off not genuine. please incubators possibly reading don't hate me for bitching out my feelings __________________ https://www.instagram.com/shhons_meme_agency Last edited by Mindy; 08-03-2022 at 02:21 PM. Reason: added more

08-03-2022, 03:32 PM	#24638 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,992	__________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018

08-03-2022, 11:28 AM	#24631 (permalink)
SGR No Ice In My Bourbon Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: /dev/null Posts: 4,325	Hard disagree that 'like' is better than 'uhhh' or 'ummm' as a pause interjection. 'Like' is much more jarring and noticeable to me. I think using them stems from an insecurity that most or at least many people have that they'll lose their interlocutor's focus, attention, or interest when they're speaking and pause for some time as they think of what exactly they want to say next. Using 'like' and 'uhhm' is basically a verbal stopgap to allow them to think of what they want to say next without leaving that scary block of silence between words. I believe though that it's been shown that in speaking, if you implement silent pauses, it actually makes you more persuasive and likely to keep your audience's attention and interest. Take a look at almost any Ted Talk to see that in action.

08-03-2022, 12:57 PM	#24636 (permalink)
music_collector Music Addict Join Date: Apr 2022 Location: Canada Posts: 744	I'm guilty of the "so". I'm also positive that there are ways I speak which annoy others. Like Ricky said, "what goes around is all around".

08-03-2022, 05:00 PM	#24640 (permalink)
SGR No Ice In My Bourbon Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: /dev/null Posts: 4,325	There's a discord for incubators!?