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Old 03-19-2013, 05:11 PM   #11301 (permalink)
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Has anyone here's parents divorced?

My mum and dad are threatening divorce n it has come up a few times recently, I don't know if they're just saying this or if it'll actually happen. I can't take the stress of constantly crying over them if they're going to stay together. It devastates me each time it comes up and I wish they would just make their mind up.

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For me, it was awesome. I lived with both of them at different points. I liked it because my mom was way less restrictive than my dad, so I got all my fun experiences from living with my mom. That was the time where I was in bands and all that during the high school years. Good times. (also it alleviated years of constant bickering and being at odds in front of us as we were kids. Sometimes it got pretty hectic)

Eventually they got re-married, but that was well after I had left home and went out on my own. Looking back, when they divorced, I was too young to really understand much about what was going on, and by the time I was older, I was worried more about having fun than what my parents' relationship was like. Honestly, I can't say I'd be very affected if it had happened when I was your age, but it's a different situation between the two of us.
By now, reality should be pretty familiar and you know that sometimes it's best for people to just call it quits when they can't make any headway in learning how to deal with one another, but I think the "idea" of them no longer being together is more painful than the actual effect, at your age.

The worst part is simply the fighting that leads up to such a decision. It's not something you can tune out.
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Old 03-19-2013, 05:25 PM   #11302 (permalink)
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Has anyone here's parents divorced?

My mum and dad are threatening divorce n it has come up a few times recently, I don't know if they're just saying this or if it'll actually happen. I can't take the stress of constantly crying over them if they're going to stay together. It devastates me each time it comes up and I wish they would just make their mind up.

What was it like for you ?
There's no divorce in Ireland but my parents split up in about 1983. Was delighted to see the back of the old bastard. Nobody missed him, wife-beating ****ing peado that he was. Our lives improved immensely once he was gone; it was like a dark cloud lifted off us. We got our first video recorder(which he would never have in the house) and there was no more horse-racing all Saturday with us having to stay out of the house while he bet his ****ing 10p wagers.

Sorry. Not likely to reflect anyone else's situation, but that's how it was for us. My ma found it hard to cope on her own but she did, and we all did our best to help.

Kay, I hope things work out for you but if it happens I suppose all I can say is it's better for two people to be apart who no longer love each other than to pretend and stay together, unless there are young kids involved. Can you not talk to them about it?
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Old 03-19-2013, 06:02 PM   #11303 (permalink)
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Thanks Jess. 1991, February 7. The big C got her, and she never smoked in her life. Dammit, life's very unfair sometimes... Still, she knew how much she was loved, and she was. Nobody --- nobody --- ever had a bad word to say about her. I wrote a sort of poem about her for I think it was the tenth anniversary or something; found it recently. If I can find some appropriate thread or section I may post it.
Aww I'd really love to hear that. It really does happen to people who don't deserve it.

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Has anyone here's parents divorced?

My mum and dad are threatening divorce n it has come up a few times recently, I don't know if they're just saying this or if it'll actually happen. I can't take the stress of constantly crying over them if they're going to stay together. It devastates me each time it comes up and I wish they would just make their mind up.

What was it like for you ?
I'm sorry hun that must be absolutely dreadful to deal with. I hope for you and your brothers sake that they decide once and for all to either work at their relationship (maybe with counselling) or get a clean divorce. But nothings ever ideal in life.

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We've lived similar lives Fred.

One of the drawbacks of parents divorcing when you're younger is that the divorcing parents will usually use the children as pawns in the court precedings, as well as in the emotional tug of war. Although it may happen if the divorce happens when the children are adults as well, it's not as psychologically damaging since an adult child will have the mental maturity to grasp the complicated concepts of it all. Of course it's going to be painful, change always is, but having the cognitive skills to maintain a level attitude would certainly be beneficial. I never had that choice, and it took alot of soul searching, meditation, and counseling with friends to really let go of all that baggage. My brother chose sides, and in doing so created a mental wall that when viewed from my perspective, is very sad. A child NEEDS both parents, wether they're together or not. My daughters mother did terrible terrible things to Hanna and Me, but I've always told Hanna that no matter what she does to us, she loves her even though it may not seem like it.
Aww that must be really hard, but it shows what a damn good father you are.

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My parents divorced when I was really young too ( I was 2 tho) so I don't really remember much about them even being married. My brother might but idk, I think my mom must have just married him bc she was knocked up or drunk the entire time.

Two Christmases was whack though, my dad's family is cheap as hell.

I hate both my parents though and they hate each other
Why do you hate them? I'm sure it's completely justified but I'm just interested in what happened.
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Old 03-19-2013, 06:03 PM   #11304 (permalink)
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There's no divorce in Ireland but my parents split up in about 1983. Was delighted to see the back of the old bastard. Nobody missed him, wife-beating ****ing peado that he was. Our lives improved immensely once he was gone; it was like a dark cloud lifted off us. We got our first video recorder(which he would never have in the house) and there was no more horse-racing all Saturday with us having to stay out of the house while he bet his ****ing 10p wagers.

Sorry. Not likely to reflect anyone else's situation, but that's how it was for us. My ma found it hard to cope on her own but she did, and we all did our best to help.

Kay, I hope things work out for you but if it happens I suppose all I can say is it's better for two people to be apart who no longer love each other than to pretend and stay together, unless there are young kids involved. Can you not talk to them about it?
Are you serious? No divorce? How is that even possible in this day and age?
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Are you serious? No divorce? How is that even possible in this day and age?
Signed into bill in 1995 actually. I was shocked when it happened.
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Signed into bill in 1995 actually. I was shocked when it happened.
Oh that's cool because bloody hell, got to separate the church from state and all that. I do know how important the church is to the Irish.
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Old 03-19-2013, 06:15 PM   #11307 (permalink)
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Oh that's cool because bloody hell, got to separate the church from state and all that. I do know how important the church is to the Irish.
They've basically been fighting over religion since the beginning of time, I would say religion is extremely important to most. Still kind of strange they don't allow disollution of marriage as revered as Marriage is there.
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Ireland is mostly Catholic, right? As far as I know divorce is a sin or something... that's why Henry VIII went and started his own religion (Anglicanism), so he could divorce all his wives.
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I thought he just cut their heads off.
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That's only two of em, one he just had annulled I think? Cause they didn't consummate cause he thought she looked like a horse and one died naturally and another dies after he did iirc
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