Is it cool for guys to cry? (members, shows, quote)

holdyoualways · 10-10-2007, 04:48 PM

here's why i thought of this
yesterday i got in a little...tiffy with my boyfriend & was kind of pissed off at him & he pretty much assumed we were gonna break up & decided to leave me several messages on my voicemail, one of which he was crying in
now this isnt the first time ive heard/seen him cry & in a way i find it kind of endearing that hes not afraid to cry, being a guy & all
but im curious as to what is exactly is the right amount of crying a guy can do before people start considering him to be a total puss
i personally dont see anything wrong with it, although an excessive amount of male tears will probably make me uncomfortable
im very intrigued to see if any male members here have shed a tear or two without being ashamed of it

jackhammer · 10-10-2007, 04:50 PM

My son whacked me dead on in the crackerjacks yesterday-I shed a few tears alright.

holdyoualways · 10-10-2007, 04:51 PM

haha i guess physical pain counts too

anticipation · 10-10-2007, 04:52 PM

boys don't cry ~ robert smith.

Kevorkian Logic · 10-10-2007, 05:00 PM

I dislike it when boys cry.
It is not cute or endearing.
It makes me feel very uncomfortable.

I let every guy I date know this.

jackhammer · 10-10-2007, 05:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kevorkian Logic

I dislike it when boys cry.
It is not cute or endearing.
It makes me feel very uncomfortable.

I let every guy I date know this.

If a guy blubs at inconsequential things and is generally emotionally insecure, then it is not an attractive quality. If a man shed's a tear (not blubbing) when watching a certain movie or a genuinely distressing news story (child abuse etc). Then I think it's not a bad thing. I have done and have no qualms saying it either. Many females I have talked to find it enormously attractive if a man shows emotion.

Wayfarer · 10-10-2007, 05:11 PM

Well...it's never "cool" for anyone to cry, but yeah, it's only natural to cry at times, male or female.

cardboard adolescent · 10-10-2007, 05:14 PM

I would never grant someone that much insight into my emotions on principle.

jackhammer · 10-10-2007, 05:18 PM

I'm a complicated person. Posting that I shed a few tears wont give anybody and more insight into my personality than my music tastes have already proffered. That's if people gauge musical tastes as an indicator of personality traits that is!

Kevorkian Logic · 10-10-2007, 05:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jackhammer

If a guy blubs at inconsequential things and is generally emotionally insecure, then it is not an attractive quality. If a man shed's a tear (not blubbing) when watching a certain movie or a genuinely distressing news story (child abuse etc). Then I think it's not a bad thing. I have done and have no qualms saying it either. Many females I have talked to find it enormously attractive if a man shows emotion.

Yea, I know many females feel that way. I've gotten in arguments about it with them. It's just an enormous turn-off to me for some reason. I'm not to big in the sharing/showing emotions part of life. It drives my bf crazy.

10-10-2007, 04:48 PM	#1 (permalink)
holdyoualways Elevator to the moon Join Date: May 2005 Location: Snowy, cold, miserable Pennsylvania Posts: 1,088	Is it cool for guys to cry? here's why i thought of this yesterday i got in a little...tiffy with my boyfriend & was kind of pissed off at him & he pretty much assumed we were gonna break up & decided to leave me several messages on my voicemail, one of which he was crying in now this isnt the first time ive heard/seen him cry & in a way i find it kind of endearing that hes not afraid to cry, being a guy & all but im curious as to what is exactly is the right amount of crying a guy can do before people start considering him to be a total puss i personally dont see anything wrong with it, although an excessive amount of male tears will probably make me uncomfortable im very intrigued to see if any male members here have shed a tear or two without being ashamed of it __________________ You're my satellite <3

10-10-2007, 04:50 PM	#2 (permalink)
jackhammer Ba and Be. Join Date: May 2007 Location: This Is England Posts: 17,331	My son whacked me dead on in the crackerjacks yesterday-I shed a few tears alright. __________________ It be my music and film collection. “A cynic by experience, a romantic by inclination and now a hero by necessity.”

10-10-2007, 04:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
holdyoualways Elevator to the moon Join Date: May 2005 Location: Snowy, cold, miserable Pennsylvania Posts: 1,088	haha i guess physical pain counts too __________________ You're my satellite <3

10-10-2007, 05:00 PM	#5 (permalink)
Kevorkian Logic Imperfectly Perfect Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: North Carolina Posts: 1,290	I dislike it when boys cry. It is not cute or endearing. It makes me feel very uncomfortable. I let every guy I date know this. __________________ "it is only through a limitless accumulation of the imperfect that a certain type of perfection can be attained"

10-10-2007, 05:18 PM	#9 (permalink)
jackhammer Ba and Be. Join Date: May 2007 Location: This Is England Posts: 17,331	I'm a complicated person. Posting that I shed a few tears wont give anybody and more insight into my personality than my music tastes have already proffered. That's if people gauge musical tastes as an indicator of personality traits that is! __________________ It be my music and film collection. “A cynic by experience, a romantic by inclination and now a hero by necessity.”

10-10-2007, 04:52 PM	#4 (permalink)
anticipation Music Addict Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 3,565	boys don't cry ~ robert smith.

10-10-2007, 05:11 PM	#7 (permalink)
Wayfarer Registered Abuser Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 573	Well...it's never "cool" for anyone to cry, but yeah, it's only natural to cry at times, male or female.

10-10-2007, 05:14 PM	#8 (permalink)
cardboard adolescent ;) Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: CA Posts: 3,503	I would never grant someone that much insight into my emotions on principle.