DearJenny

So this is a strange situation...
The assistant manager at my old work place started hitting on me. He is 30-years-old(I'm only 18!). I found old at the end of my employment there that he had like an "older man-crush" on me. To be honest, I thought he was a really cool guy, we hung out a few times outside of work but always in groups with other coworkers.

Well by the time I found he liked me, I was already in a relationship and have been ever since. Well all of a sudden my assistant manager(lets call him Ed) pops up out of nowhere and is Im'ing me and texting me and eventually it starts getting creepy.

He has said stuff like "whatever happens between us is completely off the record", "You know you like the attention", and at one point I texted him at 1 in the morning with "you already in bed old man?" and he responded "you wish." Now I'm sure we'd all agree thats a bit creepy since he knows I'm in a relationship and he ignores the fact there is a twelve year age gap between the two of us.

Well I told him the other day I thought he was being creepy and he said we should speak face to face because he doesnt feel I'm really getting what he's saying through texting and such. I told him I'd let him know when I was free. I also said it would be a public place. Thing is that he's gotten in my head, like I cant stop thinking about the things that he has said.

So a few questions:
A)What would you do in this situation?
B)He's working tomorrow, should I go speak with him then?
C)Any other suggestions helpful.

I've thought about baiting him and getting him for sexual harassment. Or baiting him then meeting up with him just to kick him in the balls then remind him if he tried to get me for assault I'll press sexual harassment charges, that would be a little off-the-record retribution and I think I'd enjoy option B more.

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MHDTV

Just wait it out, and if he does anything just get him in trouble. Maybe you'll get a promotion.

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Let's agree to disagree.

Urban Hat€monger ?

Why are you texting him back if you want nothing to do with him?
Why are you even meeting up with him if you want nothing to do with him?

Also I don't see how you can get him done for sexual harassment if you don't work there anymore and you are sending him texts about being in bed. I think he has a point , I think you do like the attention in some way , maybe not how he thinks but I think you like being in the centre of a little drama.

I say break all contact with him , block him IMs , ignore his texts & if he keeps on tell your boyfriend and let him warn this guy off.

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Alexander the Grape

I was in a situation very similar to this one. The manager at the place I used to work had a huge crush on me and my friend (luckily I think she liked my friend more). She was always flirting with us and brushing up against us and ****. One time she was drunk at the Christmas party and broke into tears and went on about how much she loved us. She was in her 40's and very large.

At least it allowed us to get aways with all sorts of crazy ****. We seriously should have been fired at least 100 times in the 2 years we worked there.

If you don't work there anymore, isn't it easy enough to avoid him? If he has your cell number just tell him not to contact you anymore. If he persists, press charges. Just be straight forward with him.

Baiting him into anything would be highly unfair, even if he is a perv.

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DearJenny

To Urban's response:
Well I AM a bit of a flirt but I know my limits. Like at clubs I'll talk to a guy until he suggests going somewhere after the club, thats when i say that its been nice talking but I'm engaged. But with "Ed" it was out of the blue and startling but I DO like the fact that some guys want me but can't have me sort of thing. Until it gets creepy and I've told him he was getting creepy and thats the bait point. He's keeping this up and I'm only responding friendly and innocently. I want to get him in trouble. I'm waiting for him to say something incredibly perverse. Thats why I'm also taking a friend tomorrow, she can confirm things and be my backbone. I mean, things WOULD be completely different if he had since all of this like a year ago, because I did have feelings for him then.

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DearJenny

Actually after he said all this and I looked back I was definately treated better than the rest of the employees. I could always talk him into giving me my check early. He would let me sit in the back and have a few cigarettes with him even if I was over my break time. And everyone always thought he was a dick, I was the only one who didnt think that because he wouldn't be an ass to me.

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dirt mcgirt

what the **** wrong wif 30 an 18 son? r kelly done a bigger spred than dat.

suck his **** or stop flirtin, naamean?

adidasss

I agree with Urbs, which basically makes you a cock tease and generally not a very nice person. :-|

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groin shot, then run.

pheurton

I concur.


Edit: Tell him you're really a man.