Conversation or Sex? (Kiss, quote)

Barnard17 · 03-14-2007, 08:09 PM

So intimacy is an important part of sex?

So when somebody is raped, is that sex? What about people on a porn set? What about prostitution, is that only sex for one person?

On the other hand, is a sensitive massage therefore sex?

Sex=vaginal intercourse. Anal sex=anal sex. Oral sex=oral sex. Sexual activities=vaginal, anal, oral, handjob whatever you want.

You seem to be confusing emotional attachment with physical activity. If I go home with someone and the next day my friends ask "OLOL did u have sekz?!" when she only gave me a sucky, I don't say yes unless I'm trying to look cool.

~~TheUsedToolguy~~ · 03-14-2007, 08:21 PM

I think it's just a difference of opinion between an older generation & a newer one. In the older days, the beej was considered more intimate than sex itself, nowadays it's passe. A lot of people will do that in a relationship before they go all the way, where in the old days it was vice versa.

Barnard17 · 03-14-2007, 08:26 PM

Older generation? Your profile says 26. Unless you have self-perceived hyper maturity like Hoffa I really doubt that "generation gaps" are a major factor in this. If you were like 35 or 40 maybe, but most people I know who are knocking on mid twenties are still able to get out and about without the aid of a walking stick, and are certainly able to have easy sex without much care for it. I mean, how else would Graham Norton's TV shows have a half way decent size of viewer base?

~~TheUsedToolguy~~ · 03-14-2007, 08:33 PM

Well, actually I do have a lot of care for it, that's why I hardly ever do it. I think it's a precious experience, that should be enjoyed when you've worked very hard to know someone, and when you begin to trust one another, you both feel that the other one deserves your love, and you do it with them. I think the biggest difference between you and I is you seem to have no qualms with casual sex. I have no problem with it being practiced safely, but I just don't like to do it. I feel I have a lot of time in my life to make those choices.

Trauma · 03-15-2007, 12:00 AM

I don't know if you can speak for Fal's opinion on sex, you don't know if he has no problems with casual sex.
I don't support casual sex, but also feel that only vaginal sex truly classifies as sexual intercourse.
All else is void of that description.

enemyat_thesix · 03-15-2007, 12:54 AM

So you would consider someone who's given/received anal sex a virgin? That just seems weird to me.

Trauma · 03-15-2007, 03:10 PM

Plenty of people get raped in prison.

enemyat_thesix · 03-15-2007, 04:20 PM

I can agree with that: receiving anal rape does not constitute losing your virginity. However, willfully giving or receiving it does, in my opinion.

Barnard17 · 03-15-2007, 05:24 PM

I consider them no long an anal virgin. They're still a vagina virgin though. I doubt I'd go about saying "yeah they're a virgin" in the same way I would if they'd done nothing at all.

Kevorkian Logic · 03-15-2007, 07:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fal

So intimacy is an important part of sex?

So when somebody is raped, is that sex? What about people on a porn set? What about prostitution, is that only sex for one person?

On the other hand, is a sensitive massage therefore sex?

Sex=vaginal intercourse. Anal sex=anal sex. Oral sex=oral sex. Sexual activities=vaginal, anal, oral, handjob whatever you want.

You seem to be confusing emotional attachment with physical activity. If I go home with someone and the next day my friends ask "OLOL did u have sekz?!" when she only gave me a sucky, I don't say yes unless I'm trying to look cool.

Random question, do guys actually ask each other of they have had sex? That's a taboo topic around my girl group of friends (except for one of my best friends who told me in a running hug in the hall, then proceeded to ask me how to give oral sex. I got very uncomfortable and pawned her off to her other best friend)

03-14-2007, 08:09 PM	#61 (permalink)
Barnard17 My home? Discabled, Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 204	So intimacy is an important part of sex? So when somebody is raped, is that sex? What about people on a porn set? What about prostitution, is that only sex for one person? On the other hand, is a sensitive massage therefore sex? Sex=vaginal intercourse. Anal sex=anal sex. Oral sex=oral sex. Sexual activities=vaginal, anal, oral, handjob whatever you want. You seem to be confusing emotional attachment with physical activity. If I go home with someone and the next day my friends ask "OLOL did u have sekz?!" when she only gave me a sucky, I don't say yes unless I'm trying to look cool. __________________ Vita brevis, Occasio praeceps

03-14-2007, 08:26 PM	#63 (permalink)
Barnard17 My home? Discabled, Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 204	Older generation? Your profile says 26. Unless you have self-perceived hyper maturity like Hoffa I really doubt that "generation gaps" are a major factor in this. If you were like 35 or 40 maybe, but most people I know who are knocking on mid twenties are still able to get out and about without the aid of a walking stick, and are certainly able to have easy sex without much care for it. I mean, how else would Graham Norton's TV shows have a half way decent size of viewer base? __________________ Vita brevis, Occasio praeceps

03-15-2007, 12:00 AM	#65 (permalink)
Trauma snickers Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: detroit Posts: 2,194	I don't know if you can speak for Fal's opinion on sex, you don't know if he has no problems with casual sex. I don't support casual sex, but also feel that only vaginal sex truly classifies as sexual intercourse. All else is void of that description. __________________ A mi no me importa nada Para mi la vida es un sueño

03-15-2007, 03:10 PM	#67 (permalink)
Trauma snickers Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: detroit Posts: 2,194	Plenty of people get raped in prison. __________________ A mi no me importa nada Para mi la vida es un sueño

03-15-2007, 05:24 PM	#69 (permalink)
Barnard17 My home? Discabled, Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Bristol, UK Posts: 204	I consider them no long an anal virgin. They're still a vagina virgin though. I doubt I'd go about saying "yeah they're a virgin" in the same way I would if they'd done nothing at all. __________________ Vita brevis, Occasio praeceps

03-14-2007, 08:21 PM	#62 (permalink)
~~TheUsedToolguy~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Joplin, MO Posts: 468	I think it's just a difference of opinion between an older generation & a newer one. In the older days, the beej was considered more intimate than sex itself, nowadays it's passe. A lot of people will do that in a relationship before they go all the way, where in the old days it was vice versa.

03-14-2007, 08:33 PM	#64 (permalink)
~~TheUsedToolguy~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Joplin, MO Posts: 468	Well, actually I do have a lot of care for it, that's why I hardly ever do it. I think it's a precious experience, that should be enjoyed when you've worked very hard to know someone, and when you begin to trust one another, you both feel that the other one deserves your love, and you do it with them. I think the biggest difference between you and I is you seem to have no qualms with casual sex. I have no problem with it being practiced safely, but I just don't like to do it. I feel I have a lot of time in my life to make those choices.