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DontRunMeOver 05-26-2006 03:21 AM

I have a similar question.

Why is it that women will decide that they're not interested in a guy just because their friend is interested in the same guy. I've seen this happen lots of times before, where Girl 1 is interested in a man, but then changes her mind and says she's not interested because her friend Girl 2 was already interested?

This is particularly stupid when the man in question is clearly not interest in Girl 2, but likes Girl 1. Then Girl 1 and the man can't get together because of Girl 2.

This happened to one of my friends a couple of weeks ago when she went back home to Ireland. She kissed a guy who one of her friends turned out to be interested in and a few people were going "you shouldnt have done that, she was interested in him", but my thought was -

If the guy was actually interested in the other girl, he wouldn't have kissed my friend, would he? He would have kissed the other girl.

That's a ramble. Here are my questions:

1) Can you explain why girls do this "'I'm not interested in that man because my friend is interested in him" thing?
2) Do girls really think that they can win over a guy who isn't too interested in them to begin with?
3) Why do girls bother trying to do 2)?
4) How well do you think you can judge whether a guy IS interested in you?

And this is a question for the other guys.

5) Would you agree that you could say within 2 minutes of meeting a girl whether you'd be interested (relationship-wise) in her? Are there really any exceptions?

rudgrljungalist 05-26-2006 03:25 AM

I relate all that sort of behaviour to some sort of primal mating weird territorial thing. Besides men say they don't do that sort of thing, yet I've seen it happen a few times, men & women. And don't generalize, not all women fall under the category of "hoes", some of us are just b*tches, like me :) !

DontRunMeOver 05-26-2006 03:30 AM

I can kind of understand the competing side, women generally judge other women's boyfriends as more attractive than you're average single man - partly because they think "well she's interested, so he's got to have something going for him", whereas they might tend to think "why's he still single, must be a tosser" for single guys.

But why the not going for a single man because your friend is interested viewpoint? I'd view that as friends treading on the toes of other friends. If so, then why do women do it?

Stone Magnet 05-26-2006 06:21 AM

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Originally Posted by explosions-in-my-pants
well thats guys for you.:laughing:

Yet you continue to date these stupid guys.

explosions-in-my-pants 05-26-2006 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by DontRunMeOver
Why is it that women will decide that they're not interested in a guy just because their friend is interested in the same guy. I've seen this happen lots of times before, where Girl 1 is interested in a man, but then changes her mind and says she's not interested because her friend Girl 2 was already interested?

girls sometime seem to be thoughtful like that.. but then she also knows that it won't go anywhere, but she thinks and feels that where she let go of him for her, knowing he wasn't interested that at least she wasn't the one to hurt her friend.. so now she can be there for her.. or something (i really have no clue, if i ever liked a guy and my friends did, i didn't give a ****...)
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1) Can you explain why girls do this "'I'm not interested in that man because my friend is interested in him" thing?
read up.
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2) Do girls really think that they can win over a guy who isn't too interested in them to begin with?
sometimes yes.. first we get to know them well as friends, get to know there loves likes, hate's and dislikes.. fears, and pains.. we study them like books.. if we still liek them after this, they'll notice that we'll do anything for them... them maybe realizing there missing out..
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3) Why do girls bother trying to do 2)?
hmm..
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4) How well do you think you can judge whether a guy IS interested in you?
not very well..we (i) just go with my gut.
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Originally Posted by Stone Magnet
Yet you continue to date these stupid guys.

no i don't. I'm with the most perfect guy on earth.

mosesandtherubberducky 05-26-2006 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by DontRunMeOver
3) Why do girls bother trying to do 2)?

of course man, everybody poops

Barnard17 05-26-2006 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by explosions-in-my-pants
sometimes yes.. first we get to know them well as friends, get to know there loves likes, hate's and dislikes.. fears, and pains.. we study them like books.. if we still liek them after this, they'll notice that we'll do anything for them... them maybe realizing there missing out

As if that's gonna get you laid. We realise we have excellent wench service, if we go out with you we're expected to reciprocate. And that would ruin it all:usehead:

ArtistInTheAmbulance 05-26-2006 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by DontRunMeOver
1) Can you explain why girls do this "'I'm not interested in that man because my friend is interested in him" thing?
2) Do girls really think that they can win over a guy who isn't too interested in them to begin with?
3) Why do girls bother trying to do 2)?
4) How well do you think you can judge whether a guy IS interested in you?

1. most girls dont do that. they'll go for the guy, no matter what. if they do, theyre probably trying to guilt-trip the other one into stepping down so that they can nab the guy.
2. yes, girls think they are more seductive than they really are, which doesnt come over as too attractive.
3. because they think they can? its like a proof thing. like guys have to do manly things to prove they have a penis, girls have to turn guys to butter to prove theyre women.
4. pretty well. we just dont admit to it ourselves, for some reason.

EIMP: so so so sorry if youve already answered those questions with my answers. to be honest, i didnt read yours, but dont get shitty if i just repeated. yeah. :)

Raine 05-26-2006 04:58 PM

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Why is it that women will decide that they're not interested in a guy just because their friend is interested in the same guy. I've seen this happen lots of times before, where Girl 1 is interested in a man, but then changes her mind and says she's not interested because her friend Girl 2 was already interested?
Not all women are like that. And for the women that are like that then I guess theyr eally aren't friends or they're just stupid.

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This is particularly stupid when the man in question is clearly not interest in Girl 2, but likes Girl 1. Then Girl 1 and the man can't get together because of Girl 2.
In the real world this particular statement amounts to a bunch of crap.

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1) Can you explain why girls do this "'I'm not interested in that man because my friend is interested in him" thing?
First, once again, not all girls are like that.
Second girls are competitive. And third any girl that does this is stupid. And the reasoning behind this is that girls are vicious, vindictive, and evil trolls when they want to be. If my my best friend and I fall for the same guy but I only have a crush on him then I'll let her have him because she actually wholeheartedly loves him. If on the off chance the guy likes me and not her I will tell her this and i will prove it to her and the situation will be solved and I'll probably dump the poor sap anyhow just because it's friends before guys everyday of the week. Would I really want my best friend to see me dating the guy I only have acrush on while she freaking loves him? hell no. Besides I usually don't date crushes cause they don't last long.
I hope that answered your question.

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2) Do girls really think that they can win over a guy who isn't too interested in them to begin with?
Yes. And I've seen this happen. All a girl has to do is use her feminine wiles get a guy ina corner while she's half naked and bang.

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3) Why do girls bother trying to do 2)?
We don't like feeling rejected.

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4) How well do you think you can judge whether a guy IS interested in you?
How he treats you compared to other females or by asking him.

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5) Would you agree that you could say within 2 minutes of meeting a girl whether you'd be interested (relationship-wise) in her? Are there really any exceptions?
I'm not a guy so i feel like I'd be overstepping my bounds by answering this but I'll try to anyway.
No to the first question and yes to the second.
One, anything can happen in two minutes, and second, under any variety of circumstances, the rules on the battlefield of love can change.
Battle field of love sounds so cheesy doesn't it.

Peace

right-track 05-26-2006 05:06 PM

There are no rules on the battlefield of love...just utter carnage.


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