Scarlett O'Hara

1. I've noticed in my daily living activities, that girls and guys can be rather possessive of their girlfriends/boyfriends, quite unnecessarily. Would you guys consider yourselves in that boat with your partners? Do you get annoyed at your boyfriends talking to beautiful girl 'mates'?

For example:

I was in the pub the other night, and I ran into a guy who tried kissing me about a month ago even though he had a girlfriend, who treated him like ass. So we were chatting away and the gf comes over, he introduces me and she says "yeah I know.", looks around without looking at me in the eyes, and then starts complaining about the pub and walks away. He shrugs and says "sorry she gets mad when I talk to other girls."

Is this acceptable? I think not. Fair enough to not flirt with other people, but if you're only just talking to someone then what's the problem? Surely you can trust the one you are with? If there's no trust, then theres no point in being with them.

Maybe it comes down to how insecure the possessive individual is? I would be very interested to hear your views people! How secure are you about yourselves?

2. Has anyone been the victim of having your boyfriend/girlfriend stolen off you, or have you been someone who has done that? What, when, where, why, how?

/to tune of Ashlee Simpsons ear mortifying song.

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ArtistInTheAmbulance

Urgh, girls are far more jealous than guys, from my experiences anyway... They tend to get sh*tty with me for just talking to them, literally. A year or so ago, when I was still in school, I used to get in about ten minutes before the bell rang, and my best friend's boyfriend had to get in quite early too. So we used to meet up in the mornings and talk and all that jazz, which was fine, seeing as we'd been friends for about three years before this. But, my friend got pretty pissed off about it, and forbid him to talk to me in the mornings, as she wasnt there to watch over us like a hawk, I guess. She had severe jealousy issues.. And still does =/ I cant even talk to her exes now, and she's always the one that ends the relationships.

Thing is, from what Ive seen, guys are normally too afraid to say anything if they're worried their gal is straying off. This guy I know, his girlfriend used to be really close to other guys, sitting on their lap and literally licking their face, right infront of her boyfriend. He wouldnt say anything to her, but I knew he couldnt stand it, so I had to bring it up.. Oof, was painful. Tis all good now though, so I guess thats something.

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half_baked87

being a guy i know that we can get way more jealous. not myself personally i have no problem with my gf having other male friends or hanging out with them without me i could care less. but all of my female friends have problems witht heir uber possesive boyfriends it really makes me sick. like my friend jocy, her boyfriend won't even let her go out to a bar with eric (he's ***, whats going to happen) and krista without him, just to watch a band. and he's the one thats cheated on her countless times... and just to bash this ******* a little, more, he's hitting on the singer in my bands' little sister, she's 14, he's 20. can you say PEDOPHILE! anyways, yeah guys are much much worse. girls can be bad too but none of them i know ever seem to show it. but maybe she just natters behind my back

ArtistInTheAmbulance

You're a guy, no offence but you probably fall for the whole "Im so innocent Im just worried 'cause I love you so much" thing that hot girls can get away with. Specially if they do the puppy dog eyes and shove their breasts in yer face. Girls are vindictive and malicious, they'll do what they want with guys cause they know they can. Gah, I just dont get on with girls too well, I stick with guys, they dont get all two-faced and such..

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half_baked87

no i don't fall for that whole routine, i trust her and respect her enough to let her do what she wants without me interfering, and i think thats whats lacking in a lot of relationships. respect. its a broad stereotype to say women are malicious. sure they are, but only the dumb bitches. guys can be malicious too, but only the *******s. it all depends on what KIND of person you are not what sex you are. my most trustworthy friends are girls. in my experience guys are usually the bigger douchebag. but its not always the case i suppose

madeinNY

I think us women have to be possesive of our guys, 'cause, lets face it, we (women) are vicious, and guys have beer-goggle-lazer vision.

And yes, my b/f has been stolen from me by some bitch named Erica.

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BlueEyedSuicide

I think women are more possesive because, women are mean. And, how often do you hear a guy complaining about his girlfriend being stolen? ..I could be completely wrong here, but from what I see, boyfriends are "stolen" far more often than girlfriends.

Imonlydancing

It's not like they're stolen. Just, they don't want to be with you anymore, something better has come along.
Which. Actually is pretty fxcking ghey.
It's happened to me. Kinda. Well. You have someone, then you don't. Gah.
Roziii, the greasy guy. Eww.
& when people say they don't want a relationship, then get one with someone else...yeh..well.
I have a friend. And Her Bf is one of my best friends, and i always say 'aawh. I love him' and she doesn't mind. It just makes me angry when people don't like you talking to their bf/gf when nothing is ever going to happen.
Im rambling.
It probably doesn't make sense.

ArtistInTheAmbulance

^It did make sense... But, it can be like they're stolen, in a way. If someone is really badly coming on to someone in a relationship, literally tempting them to switch from person to person, it is kinda stealing.. In a non-possesive way though. If that makes sense. Cause you can't own someone and all...

And ewww, that greasy guy *Shudders* He was.. weird. To say the least.

Andandand, that "when people say they don't want a relationship, then get one with someone else" thing.. Yeah, my friend uses that excuse all the time. She says its 'cause she doesnt like to let them down any other way.. Well, she's a good friend anyways, she's just not so good at the relationship thang..

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franscar

Don't think she has a problem to be honest. She really ought to be giving him a kicking if he's trying to get inside your mouth. If his excuse for that is that she treats him badly, then he should grow a set of balls and walk away instead of trying to get a cheap thrill somewhere else.

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