I Didn't Steal Your Boyfriend...Yet!
 

1. I've noticed in my daily living activities, that girls and guys can be rather possessive of their girlfriends/boyfriends, quite unnecessarily. Would you guys consider yourselves in that boat with your partners? Do you get annoyed at your boyfriends talking to beautiful girl 'mates'?

For example:

I was in the pub the other night, and I ran into a guy who tried kissing me about a month ago even though he had a girlfriend, who treated him like ass. So we were chatting away and the gf comes over, he introduces me and she says "yeah I know.", looks around without looking at me in the eyes, and then starts complaining about the pub and walks away. He shrugs and says "sorry she gets mad when I talk to other girls."

Is this acceptable? I think not. Fair enough to not flirt with other people, but if you're only just talking to someone then what's the problem? Surely you can trust the one you are with? If there's no trust, then theres no point in being with them.

Maybe it comes down to how insecure the possessive individual is? I would be very interested to hear your views people! How secure are you about yourselves?

2. Has anyone been the victim of having your boyfriend/girlfriend stolen off you, or have you been someone who has done that? What, when, where, why, how?

/to tune of Ashlee Simpsons ear mortifying song.

Urgh, girls are far more jealous than guys, from my experiences anyway... They tend to get sh*tty with me for just talking to them, literally. A year or so ago, when I was still in school, I used to get in about ten minutes before the bell rang, and my best friend's boyfriend had to get in quite early too. So we used to meet up in the mornings and talk and all that jazz, which was fine, seeing as we'd been friends for about three years before this. But, my friend got pretty pissed off about it, and forbid him to talk to me in the mornings, as she wasnt there to watch over us like a hawk, I guess. She had severe jealousy issues.. And still does =/ I cant even talk to her exes now, and she's always the one that ends the relationships.

Thing is, from what Ive seen, guys are normally too afraid to say anything if they're worried their gal is straying off. This guy I know, his girlfriend used to be really close to other guys, sitting on their lap and literally licking their face, right infront of her boyfriend. He wouldnt say anything to her, but I knew he couldnt stand it, so I had to bring it up.. Oof, was painful. Tis all good now though, so I guess thats something.

being a guy i know that we can get way more jealous. not myself personally i have no problem with my gf having other male friends or hanging out with them without me i could care less. but all of my female friends have problems witht heir uber possesive boyfriends it really makes me sick. like my friend jocy, her boyfriend won't even let her go out to a bar with eric (he's ***, whats going to happen) and krista without him, just to watch a band. and he's the one thats cheated on her countless times... and just to bash this ******* a little, more, he's hitting on the singer in my bands' little sister, she's 14, he's 20. can you say PEDOPHILE! anyways, yeah guys are much much worse. girls can be bad too but none of them i know ever seem to show it. but maybe she just natters behind my back ;)

You're a guy, no offence but you probably fall for the whole "Im so innocent Im just worried 'cause I love you so much" thing that hot girls can get away with. Specially if they do the puppy dog eyes and shove their breasts in yer face. Girls are vindictive and malicious, they'll do what they want with guys cause they know they can. Gah, I just dont get on with girls too well, I stick with guys, they dont get all two-faced and such..

no i don't fall for that whole routine, i trust her and respect her enough to let her do what she wants without me interfering, and i think thats whats lacking in a lot of relationships. respect. its a broad stereotype to say women are malicious. sure they are, but only the dumb bitches. guys can be malicious too, but only the *******s. it all depends on what KIND of person you are not what sex you are. my most trustworthy friends are girls. in my experience guys are usually the bigger douchebag. but its not always the case i suppose

I think us women have to be possesive of our guys, 'cause, lets face it, we (women) are vicious, and guys have beer-goggle-lazer vision.

And yes, my b/f has been stolen from me by some bitch named Erica.

I think women are more possesive because, women are mean. And, how often do you hear a guy complaining about his girlfriend being stolen? ..I could be completely wrong here, but from what I see, boyfriends are "stolen" far more often than girlfriends.

It's not like they're stolen. Just, they don't want to be with you anymore, something better has come along.
Which. Actually is pretty fxcking ghey.
It's happened to me. Kinda. Well. You have someone, then you don't. Gah.
Roziii, the greasy guy. Eww.
& when people say they don't want a relationship, then get one with someone else...yeh..well.
I have a friend. And Her Bf is one of my best friends, and i always say 'aawh. I love him' and she doesn't mind. It just makes me angry when people don't like you talking to their bf/gf when nothing is ever going to happen.
Im rambling.
It probably doesn't make sense.

^It did make sense... But, it can be like they're stolen, in a way. If someone is really badly coming on to someone in a relationship, literally tempting them to switch from person to person, it is kinda stealing.. In a non-possesive way though. If that makes sense. Cause you can't own someone and all...

And ewww, that greasy guy *Shudders* He was.. weird. To say the least.

Andandand, that "when people say they don't want a relationship, then get one with someone else" thing.. Yeah, my friend uses that excuse all the time. She says its 'cause she doesnt like to let them down any other way.. Well, she's a good friend anyways, she's just not so good at the relationship thang..

Don't think she has a problem to be honest. She really ought to be giving him a kicking if he's trying to get inside your mouth. If his excuse for that is that she treats him badly, then he should grow a set of balls and walk away instead of trying to get a cheap thrill somewhere else.

Maybe the Pub did suck

you're right about the trust thing. some girls are just way too....what's the word...f-ing paranoid. my boyfriend can talk to other girls and it doesn't bother me at all. most girls are different though.

im not jealous, in my sick mind if she does something that most people would consider over the line I have a get out of jail (or this relationship) card to use whenever I want.

Also, im not violent but im stubborn as all hell, if I know im not doing anything wrong and someone tells me im too flirthy, thats when we drop the axe, or at least mention its falling. I don't really have a problem with being single, and I don't listen to many people who try to be authoritative.

You're right, he should get some balls and get out of the relationship, but strangely enough, he really likes her. She treats the relationship casually, she doesn't even like others thinking they are boyfriend and girlfriend. She has slept with other guys during their relationship, so I guess he has got frustrated and has given in to girls at the pubs. But trust me, she was being possessive, she didn't know about him kissing other girls. Even if she did, why would she get possessive when she is the one calling the "casual" shots.

AITA: I completely feel you on this one. Guys are so much easier to get along with, as long as they know you only want to be friends. Girls are bitchy, scatty, and liers. I have three girl mates that I can completely trust, but that's all.

Guys are innocent either, they lie and manipulate girls who are interested in them, just for attention, then when bored, turn them away with lame excuses. Pathetic.

Do guys/girls ever grow up when it comes to relationships? Even just a bit? Because so far I havn't had any.

That was completely irrelivant. Is it humanly possible for you to post something half decent in threads, that doesn't involve prog? Or were you dropped on your head when you were a baby?

i dno't know. everyone is different. i'm not jealous at all. i'm still young if i was in any type of relationship w/ anyone it wouldn't be serious it wd b just for fun. i don't want any guys falling in love w/ me yet. so if i c my 'guy' talkin w/ another grl and he ends up liking her better, the hell w/ it he'd prbly b happier w/ her anyway. i think i'm too apathetic some times. i never take life too seriously. who cares bout love, it's so decieving sometimes, it either ruins ur life or makes it better. as Green Day put it: i don't want u hangin around me like a leech. so stay the **** away from me, this may sound a little rough don't wanna fall in love.

That happens on both sides, and I feel bad for no one unless they get ****ed over once and walk away. If you don't tell someone to get ****ed the first time, then you condone what they've done.

I don't think what they've done is right, and honestly I think its selfish and repulsive, but too many of my friends keep wlaking back in allowing it to happen, I just can't go "oh you poor thing, your so controlled by your emotions you cna't help yourself"

Male or Female, thats just lazy and pathetic.

Yeah, I don't get why people keep going back to people who screw them over. It's like there isn't 100,000 other people you could be dating instead!

For one..i truly dont post that much about prog unless it is brought up.....and also...That wasnt about prog:):nono:

GOD!! it's so amazing how stupid people are.

whinge, whinge, whinge, nag, nag, nag. God half your posts are spam from telling people they're spamming. You get a high by thinking you're superior. Just stop spamming the site will you Vanilla.
:laughing:

*Takes a deep breath*

Spikey when was the last time you mentioned music in one of your 500 posts?

Well this isn't exactly a music tread is it?! I'm not posting on many or any music ones anyway..Plus she gets at people for no reason. And yes it is about 500 now;)

try never......take this one for example..

in which she gives a perfect description of herself.

stop being mean to spikey she's actually very sweet unless u corner her like y'all are doing. let's just be friends and love eachother. okay.

We know she's sweet. Too sweet.
If I said I hate you, she'd say "Aw yay someone notices me!"

It's actually very sad to say the least.

They do when they meet "the one". And even then it's touch and go.

Thank you:love:

you know you're right but it's not really sad we need more people like that in the world, it would be more intresting and fun. wow think about that!

Back to topic for once ...
Yeah, I know what you mean. I wasnt really trying to make it out like guys are perfect and all, it just sounded like it I guess.. I just have no faith in wimmen any more. Theres two gals I can trust, and I think the world of them. When girls want to be nice and trusting, theyre brilliant at it, but they could just turn that right around at any point.

Some of us are. Well ok, I am.

Yeah. I seem to keep a girlie best friend for a year or two, then they stab me in the back and act like it's my fault. That pretty much sucks. But then almost immediately another one will come along and take their place as the girlie best friend. I have a strange, slightly surreal life.

depends how good looking the guy my girlfreind talks to is i guess. but no not really, kind of trust her.

^Fatal^

Boys will be boys.

Girls will be hoes.

Spikey is very nice. And very sweet.

I don't think there is such a thing as too sweet. We need more people like her, like you said. It would be a better place, definatly.

I bet you guys didn't know Spikey has her own band...look at the picture she posted in the Members pics, and look at the link in her sig.

If I'm wrong I look like an idiot...oh well. Can't hide something for too long.:D

Oh I wasn't suggesting you were suggesting that love, I was just carrying on the points!

And yes I agree! Is it true that people trust unattractive people more than attractive people, or the other way around? I can't remember but I know I heard it somewhere!

Jealousy right here from Spikey!

P.s. hypocrite.

nice....

im taking it this doesnt reflect your true opinion on women?