the middle sucks
 

ok so i have a little situation that needs taking care of and im not sure how to really...take care of it. my two best friends came up from college for a couple of days and we were all planning on going out on saturday (not a definete plan yet but im crossing my fingers). the thing is, my other friend wants to coem along too. and the college girls and my sister dont really like her and to be honest she gets on my nerves a lot. so im basically the one who has to somehow politley tell her if she calls that we dont really want her there. i mean she would pretty much be a downer just talking about herself the whole time and trying to get all of my attention and plus i havent seen my college friends in 45820381 years so this is pretty important that we hang out. so this proposes a problem. i dont really wanna hurt her feelings cuz im kind of like her only friend so...what do i do? keep in mind that im a pretty nice girl so id rather not say to her "go **** yourself" like im sure some of you would suggest. any help would be greatly appreciated-im shaking in my snowboots over here.


yeah this might be a rather pointless thread but who the **** cares?

Say there was a change of plans and you aren't going to the mall. Than go to the mall anyway. If you see her at the mall anyhow, tell her how you feel. Leading someone on like that is mean.

yeah i thought about doing that. im not too big on lying though. she cant drive though so she wouldnt unexpectedly show up at the mall. thats part of the reason why we dont really want her around because its totally out of our way to have to go pick her up and stuff.

I think you need to spend more time with her. I'm sure she's a very nice person...I'd take her the more the merrier. She can talk to the others too, you know. Tell that she can make more friends while she out with you guys. Then she'll be their problem. You need her to get involved with more people. You're her only friend...Treat her like one, you'll find that you can get the best friend you need for the rest of your life. It's happened to my dad. I swear just try. She loves your company, make her feel needed and she'll do anything for you:)

But that's just my suggestion:)

^Seriously read her post oprah.


Well if your not big on lying.
Just dont go to the mall with your friends.
and go somewhere else.
and say "i tried to tell you but your phone was busy"
Barely any lying involved.

...you do realize where i live right?

Yeah...twould be hard to avoid her in a car underwater ;)
Well then i suggest.
Saying "Listen *insert other friends name who you dislike the most here* doesn't like you much i mean i do! but she doesnt shes stupid so shes making me tell you not to come so im sorry i want you to but she doesnt. Yeah bye.

yes...that is where i live. this is what i was thinking of saying. and to avoid sounding like a retard im using their real names.

"vicky cant really pick you up because its completely out of the way for her and its a waste of gas."

which is the truth but there could be so many other things that would come flying out of her mouth to try to get herself to go. im thinking of just letting my sister or vicky herself handle it, seeing as how shes done this before and has no problem telling people theyre stupid. im such a ***.

Or that.
Hahha or just dont pick her up.

did YOU read my post oprah?

What does Oprah mean? I'm sorry if you don't like my suggestion but that's all it was.

haha....the English, Oprah...like, the talk show host.......geez

NO OFFENCE TO THE ENGLISH......since i know that AITA is viewing this thread

I KNOW!

Just tell this lass that you havent seen these friends in forever, and one of them has some big news that they'd want to tell in privacy... Or something like that, but put in nicer words I guess. Im not good with words. Or advice really. :)

Know what?

La réponse à la question.. In other words, the whole point of this thread =)

Tu parle le francais? Moi aussi

Le francais est le mieux! Je vais aller en France encore un fois en juin..

Buuuut thats offtopic. And probably, very bad french, knowing me..

I understood.....French is the best and you are going there in June?
:offtopic:

Yes :D Im going there again in June.. I cannae wait, I love it.. I was trying to get on the exchange to go to Morlaix too, but my college is super ghey and wouldnt let me.

that is very exciting......I have never been to France, I have been to Spain though...it was awesome

...so anyway, back on track here.

thankfully for me my friend messaged me on myspace and told me that shes sicker than she was the other night and doesnt really have the energy to go running around in the mall. so thats good.

and our report cards came in the other day. and apparently my sister didnt do so good. so shes not going.

so i have to call vicky and check to see that we are still going since they werent there last night.

hopefully the one thing ive been looking forward to for a couple of days will happen.

Damn I missed out on giving my shrink level advice...

When I first saw this thread I thought it was about being a middle child. And how the youngest and oldest get all the priviledges while the middle gets the hand-me-downs and the "show some maturity to your little sister".

soooo if anyones interested heres what happend:

i called my friend at about 10 thinking shed be up already and her dad told me theyre still sleeping. so she called me back at a much later time in the afternoon and said we could just hang out at her house. so we get over there and hang out for a couple of hours. they wanted to go bowling, i didnt really want to cuz...i suck. but i went anyway. i knew two of her friends there already and i ended up having a pretty good time and got myself a suedo name, which is pretty common among their circle of friends. and i also got a sexual suedo name. so all in all, a good weekend. cant wait till xmas break. apparently her friends all loved me and they wanna hang out more. they mustve been drunk.