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innerspaceboy · 08-18-2018, 08:11 PM

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Originally Posted by grindy

Is your skin that smooth or is it shopped?

No shopping. That's just the camera / compression of my phone.

**Frownland** · 08-18-2018, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by adidasss

That's not what should happen in a normal, civil, supporting community (jury is still out if MB is or wants to be that kind of community).

Get over yourself dude. You're basically jumping into a wrestling match and demanding that everybody just get along because you're not familiar with that type of humour.

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I don't find negative comments on someone's looks "good-natured" or funny. And I also don't see where the other party gave their consent to be ridiculed, unless you think sharing something on an online forum is an open invitation for abuse.

You do not speak for everyone. If that **** bothers you then people will respect that but let other people interact as they please.

adidasss · 08-18-2018, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Frownland

Get over yourself dude. You're basically jumping into a wrestling match and demanding that everybody just get along because you're not familiar with that type of humour.

I'm familiar, I've been on the internet for a while now...I just don't condone it. For reasons explained above. I also try to unpack some of the reasons for this type of behavior here

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You do not speak for everyone. If that **** bothers you then people will respect that but let other people interact as they please.

I'm well aware that I don't speak for everyone, I speak for myself and am trying to engage in a rational debate about the behavior of others that I see as problematic. If you want to be a bully, that's absolutely your right, just like it's my right to question your values and motives and maybe make you think about how your behavior affects others, since apparently, lots of people are not aware.

**Frownland** · 08-18-2018, 09:02 PM

Framing it as bullying is really misleading. Almost like suggesting that S&M is inherently abusive. I guess you just lack a sense of humour since you say you understand it but still show a total misunderstanding of our perspective.

Key · 08-18-2018, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Kiiii

^Im just playing devils advocate but you did sort of come back to a different mb. I imagine the jokes thrown at Lucem were not meant to be harmful. Knowing the people telling them definitely helps. Also elph has also been getting **** on so it just sort of happens. I get it too. Everyone does.

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adidasss · 08-18-2018, 10:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Frownland

Framing it as bullying is really misleading. Almost like suggesting that S&M is inherently abusive. I guess you just lack a sense of humour since you say you understand it but still show a total misunderstanding of our perspective.

Sigh. S&M is a consensual sexual fetish, taking abuse from online people is not inherent in the social contract of forum posting, or at least it shouldn't be, and is definitely not something people enjoy or get off on. If you took a canvas of the people here and asked them what would they prefer, insults being hurled at them whenever they post pictures or normal, friendly and/or supportive messages, what result do you think you would get? Sorry to tell you, most people are not masochists :/

Oh and I definitely lack your "bro-ey" sense of humor. It's macho sh!t I was never interested in. Doesn't mean I don't have A sense of humor. It's just not based on abuse. :/

adidasss · 08-18-2018, 10:50 PM

I should point out that this type of behavior is almost exclusively between men and other men, which perpetuates the atmosphere and culture of toxic masculinity, because "feelings" are for "whiny-ass pussies".

**Frownland** · 08-18-2018, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by adidasss

consensual

^^^^

You don't want to see my point. Peace out and good work on being so mature. I think you see a lot of us as something we're not.

Key · 08-18-2018, 11:16 PM

Adidasss, man, we all do it. We all insult each other all the time but we also all talk about various things every day. That's just how we are. I wouldn't change it.

DwnWthVwls · 08-18-2018, 11:25 PM

Its consensual and when it isnt mods do a pretty good job of stepping in.

Notice that no one speaks to Lisna or spaceboy or you (if youre not okay with it) in that way.

08-18-2018, 09:02 PM	#36824 (permalink)
Frownland SOPHIE FOREVER Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: East of the Southern North American West Posts: 35,541	Framing it as bullying is really misleading. Almost like suggesting that S&M is inherently abusive. I guess you just lack a sense of humour since you say you understand it but still show a total misunderstanding of our perspective. __________________ Studies show that when a given norm is changed in the face of the unchanging, the remaining contradictions will parallel the truth. d e a f b o x

08-18-2018, 10:50 PM	#36827 (permalink)
adidasss Slavic gay sauce Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Abu Dhabi Posts: 7,993	I should point out that this type of behavior is almost exclusively between men and other men, which perpetuates the atmosphere and culture of toxic masculinity, because "feelings" are for "whiny-ass pussies". __________________ “Think of what a paradise this world would be if men were kind and wise.” - Kurt Vonnegut, Cat's Cradle. Last.fm

08-18-2018, 11:16 PM	#36829 (permalink)
Key . Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13,153	Adidasss, man, we all do it. We all insult each other all the time but we also all talk about various things every day. That's just how we are. I wouldn't change it.