my girlfriend hates indie rock

Mr Grieves · 03-01-2011, 05:27 PM

My gf cannot stand any indie bands I am into. Even bands I consider to have strong pop elements like r.e.m., pixies, spoon, she can't get into. For some reason this bothers me more than I feel it should, to the point that I am almost ready to give uo on the relationship because in past relationships I have felt a stronger bond and understanding with women when we relate to each others tastes in music. Am I being to harsh or does anyone else feel the same?

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 03-01-2011, 05:28 PM

I think that's kind of dumb.

s_k · 03-01-2011, 05:29 PM

I feel the same.
Only I check this out before I start a relationship

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I don't mind if her taste is different, but there has to be some similarities so we can enjoy music together. It's the most important thing in my life. Must be shared.

Sneer · 03-01-2011, 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Grieves

My gf cannot stand any indie bands I am into. Even bands I consider to have strong pop elements like r.e.m., pixies, spoon, she can't get into. For some reason this bothers me more than I feel it should, to the point that I am almost ready to give uo on the relationship because in past relationships I have felt a stronger bond and understanding with women when we relate to each others tastes in music. Am I being to harsh or does anyone else feel the same?

What does she like?

Freebase Dali · 03-01-2011, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Grieves

My gf cannot stand any indie bands I am into. Even bands I consider to have strong pop elements like r.e.m., pixies, spoon, she can't get into. For some reason this bothers me more than I feel it should, to the point that I am almost ready to give uo on the relationship because in past relationships I have felt a stronger bond and understanding with women when we relate to each others tastes in music. Am I being to harsh or does anyone else feel the same?

Why the hell would you gauge any important aspect of your relationship with another woman on the basis of music preference? What, are you guys also in a band together? If not, then it doesn't matter. Let her listen to her music and you can listen to yours. If you're trying to force your taste down her throat then the issue lies with you. And if you're only finding a connection with a woman via music, then maybe you should hold off on dating until you're a bit older...

The only caveat I have to this is the matter of mutual respect. If either of you can't NOT blare your unwanted preferences in front of each other 24/7, then that's a problem. Otherwise, you should both be seeing more important things in each other than what style of music you like or can talk about. And if you do, then you shouldn't have any problems respecting each other's personal differences.

Dr_Rez · 05-18-2011, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Freebase Dali

If you're trying to force your taste down her throat then the issue lies with you.

Issues definitely lie with me then.

~~The Virgin~~ · 05-20-2011, 06:12 AM

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Originally Posted by RezZ

Issues definitely lie with me then.

exactly. just because she's your girlfriend doesn't mean you can force your muscial taste to her. what if she likes celine dion, will you also like celine dion?

Dr_Rez · 05-20-2011, 10:53 AM

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exactly. just because she's your girlfriend doesn't mean you can force your muscial taste to her. what if she likes celine dion, will you also like celine dion?

I was referring to just putting my taste down her throat. Im not sure what what said about music.

Queen Boo · 03-01-2011, 06:04 PM

I think you should watch High Fidelity

Urban Hat€monger ? · 03-01-2011, 06:14 PM

I say dump her.

Not because she doesn't share your taste in music but because you'd use something as insignificant as taste in music to find an excuse to question dumping her.

03-01-2011, 05:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
Mr Grieves Groupie Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 32	my girlfriend hates indie rock My gf cannot stand any indie bands I am into. Even bands I consider to have strong pop elements like r.e.m., pixies, spoon, she can't get into. For some reason this bothers me more than I feel it should, to the point that I am almost ready to give uo on the relationship because in past relationships I have felt a stronger bond and understanding with women when we relate to each others tastes in music. Am I being to harsh or does anyone else feel the same?

03-01-2011, 05:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	I feel the same. Only I check this out before I start a relationship . I don't mind if her taste is different, but there has to be some similarities so we can enjoy music together. It's the most important thing in my life. Must be shared. __________________ Click here to see my collection

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Urban Hat€monger ? The Sexual Intellectual Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Somewhere cooler than you Posts: 18,605	I say dump her. Not because she doesn't share your taste in music but because you'd use something as insignificant as taste in music to find an excuse to question dumping her. __________________ Urb's RYM Stuff Most people sell their soul to the devil, but the devil sells his soul to Nick Cave.

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~~Sansa Stark~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The Eyrie, Vale of Arryn, Westeros Posts: 3,234	I think that's kind of dumb.