my girlfriend hates indie rock

Mr Grieves · 03-01-2011, 06:27 PM

My gf cannot stand any indie bands I am into. Even bands I consider to have strong pop elements like r.e.m., pixies, spoon, she can't get into. For some reason this bothers me more than I feel it should, to the point that I am almost ready to give uo on the relationship because in past relationships I have felt a stronger bond and understanding with women when we relate to each others tastes in music. Am I being to harsh or does anyone else feel the same?

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 03-01-2011, 06:28 PM

I think that's kind of dumb.

s_k · 03-01-2011, 06:29 PM

I feel the same.
Only I check this out before I start a relationship

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I don't mind if her taste is different, but there has to be some similarities so we can enjoy music together. It's the most important thing in my life. Must be shared.

Sneer · 03-01-2011, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Grieves

My gf cannot stand any indie bands I am into. Even bands I consider to have strong pop elements like r.e.m., pixies, spoon, she can't get into. For some reason this bothers me more than I feel it should, to the point that I am almost ready to give uo on the relationship because in past relationships I have felt a stronger bond and understanding with women when we relate to each others tastes in music. Am I being to harsh or does anyone else feel the same?

What does she like?

Freebase Dali · 03-01-2011, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Grieves

My gf cannot stand any indie bands I am into. Even bands I consider to have strong pop elements like r.e.m., pixies, spoon, she can't get into. For some reason this bothers me more than I feel it should, to the point that I am almost ready to give uo on the relationship because in past relationships I have felt a stronger bond and understanding with women when we relate to each others tastes in music. Am I being to harsh or does anyone else feel the same?

Why the hell would you gauge any important aspect of your relationship with another woman on the basis of music preference? What, are you guys also in a band together? If not, then it doesn't matter. Let her listen to her music and you can listen to yours. If you're trying to force your taste down her throat then the issue lies with you. And if you're only finding a connection with a woman via music, then maybe you should hold off on dating until you're a bit older...

The only caveat I have to this is the matter of mutual respect. If either of you can't NOT blare your unwanted preferences in front of each other 24/7, then that's a problem. Otherwise, you should both be seeing more important things in each other than what style of music you like or can talk about. And if you do, then you shouldn't have any problems respecting each other's personal differences.

Queen Boo · 03-01-2011, 07:04 PM

I think you should watch High Fidelity

Urban Hat€monger ? · 03-01-2011, 07:14 PM

I say dump her.

Not because she doesn't share your taste in music but because you'd use something as insignificant as taste in music to find an excuse to question dumping her.

infantrysgirl18 · 03-01-2011, 07:26 PM

If the exact same taste in music is your standard for staying together then don't. If she has any self respect, she isn't going to change her style of music tastes just to stay in a relationship with you. So either learn how to live with the different tastes of music or find some one with the standards you set.

TockTockTock · 03-01-2011, 07:31 PM

If you really feel that her musical preference is a reason to dump her then you must not have very strong feelings for her. So, unless you can't find a way around this dilemma then I suggest you leave her (but do it nicely and don't tell her the reason). I'm sorry to hear that this is even a problem...

clutnuckle · 03-01-2011, 07:38 PM

I'm personally looking forward to a relationship where me and the girl have nothing musically in common. I'm a sucker for contrast. But it's never a necessity. I honestly never converse with girls about music, if only abruptly. Finding mutual ground is more important in a relationship than looking for mutual ground to already be settled; part of the fun has to lie in discovering your compatibility without it being too obvious, doesn't it?

03-01-2011, 06:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
Mr Grieves Groupie Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 32	my girlfriend hates indie rock My gf cannot stand any indie bands I am into. Even bands I consider to have strong pop elements like r.e.m., pixies, spoon, she can't get into. For some reason this bothers me more than I feel it should, to the point that I am almost ready to give uo on the relationship because in past relationships I have felt a stronger bond and understanding with women when we relate to each others tastes in music. Am I being to harsh or does anyone else feel the same?

03-01-2011, 06:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	I feel the same. Only I check this out before I start a relationship . I don't mind if her taste is different, but there has to be some similarities so we can enjoy music together. It's the most important thing in my life. Must be shared. __________________ Click here to see my collection

03-01-2011, 07:14 PM	#7 (permalink)
Urban Hat€monger ? The Sexual Intellectual Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Somewhere cooler than you Posts: 18,605	I say dump her. Not because she doesn't share your taste in music but because you'd use something as insignificant as taste in music to find an excuse to question dumping her. __________________ Urb's RYM Stuff Most people sell their soul to the devil, but the devil sells his soul to Nick Cave.

03-01-2011, 07:26 PM	#8 (permalink)
infantrysgirl18 Music Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: i reject your reality and substitute my own Posts: 116	If the exact same taste in music is your standard for staying together then don't. If she has any self respect, she isn't going to change her style of music tastes just to stay in a relationship with you. So either learn how to live with the different tastes of music or find some one with the standards you set. __________________ Stand in the closet and scream with me A mind that's like a fire Driven by the pain Better believe it.

03-01-2011, 06:28 PM	#2 (permalink)
~~Sansa Stark~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: The Eyrie, Vale of Arryn, Westeros Posts: 3,234	I think that's kind of dumb.

03-01-2011, 07:31 PM	#9 (permalink)
TockTockTock They/Them Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 1,914	If you really feel that her musical preference is a reason to dump her then you must not have very strong feelings for her. So, unless you can't find a way around this dilemma then I suggest you leave her (but do it nicely and don't tell her the reason). I'm sorry to hear that this is even a problem...

03-01-2011, 07:38 PM	#10 (permalink)
clutnuckle Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: -_-_-_-_~__~-~_-`_`-~_-`-~-~ Posts: 1,276	I'm personally looking forward to a relationship where me and the girl have nothing musically in common. I'm a sucker for contrast. But it's never a necessity. I honestly never converse with girls about music, if only abruptly. Finding mutual ground is more important in a relationship than looking for mutual ground to already be settled; part of the fun has to lie in discovering your compatibility without it being too obvious, doesn't it?