my girlfriend hates indie rock

DoctorSoft · 03-01-2011, 07:53 PM

Unless it's to the point where she's breaking your CDs and pissing on your iPod, it doesn't matter at all. If you HAVE to listen to music when you're around her, use headphones.

Zer0 · 03-02-2011, 03:24 AM

Musical tastes should have no real effect on relationships. I've gone out with girls who were into the likes of My Chemical Romance, Linkin Park and Nickelback and it didn't bother me the slightest. Likewise they didn't mind whatever music i was into either, we did have some overlap though. If you both have strong feelings for each other then your musical interests should have no effect.

Howard the Duck · 03-02-2011, 03:26 AM

all my exes and my fiancee hates all the music I listen to except maybe for slow jazz and classical

my fiancee hates country and black metal the most

s_k · 03-02-2011, 04:29 AM

Hahaha, I disagree with all of you ;D.

I guess it depends more on how important music is for you, than on how important your girlfriend is for you. You guys may have noticed my ex was (is) very important to me but I can assure you that we wouldn't have been together if she hadn't had a huge interest in music. I wouldn't want to be together with a girl that didn't share the love for music. It doesn't have to be the same music, but it has to be a proper music freak. Not some top 40 follower.

djchameleon · 03-02-2011, 05:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Mr Grieves

My gf cannot stand any indie bands I am into. Even bands I consider to have strong pop elements like r.e.m., pixies, spoon, she can't get into. For some reason this bothers me more than I feel it should, to the point that I am almost ready to give uo on the relationship because in past relationships I have felt a stronger bond and understanding with women when we relate to each others tastes in music. Am I being to harsh or does anyone else feel the same?

Dump her ass. Kick her to the curb.

I don't feel the same way you do when it comes to music and I'm okay with my future girlfriend not liking anything that I like but I know that it's a big part of being in a relationship for you. Listen to your heart if it doesn't feel right then let her go. You probably take music a bit too seriously and let it hinder relationships but that's fine. If it turns you off that she doesn't like a certain genre then who are we to judge you for it. It is NOT harsh.

Howard the Duck · 03-02-2011, 05:23 AM

^^only one of my exes was seriously hip to Indie - she likes Radiohead, Jesus and Mary Chain and Placebo

TockTockTock · 03-02-2011, 05:45 AM

Can't say I don't agree with her though. Sometimes indie music can get so repetitive, and I end up not being able to tell other bands apart from each other. Albeit, not all indie is like this (some of it can be fantastic). A bit off topic...

indienerd · 03-02-2011, 11:26 AM

I'd prefer that my girlfriend and I both enjoy what each other chooses to play on our many car rides. And I'm really glad that we do. If your significant other hates what you love, whether it be music, sports, video games, hiking, surfing, or anything for that matter, I feel like you should search elsewhere.

~~someonecompletelyrandom~~ · 03-02-2011, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by indienerd

I'd prefer that my girlfriend and I both enjoy what each other chooses to play on our many car rides. And I'm really glad that we do. If your significant other hates what you love, whether it be music, sports, video games, hiking, surfing, or anything for that matter, I feel like you should search elsewhere.

That's a touch... egotistical. You'll never have all the same preferences. Besides, I'm sure in time she'll come around.

Mr November · 03-02-2011, 02:12 PM

People have had strong relationships despite differences much greater than music taste in the past.

That being said, I find music taste is a large dictate of personality (not a determinant but a component). And if your music is important to you, than why shouldn't you be disappointed that this person is having trouble appreciating something you're so invested in.

No advice, just words.

03-02-2011, 03:24 AM	#12 (permalink)
Zer0 ∞ Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Ireland Posts: 3,792	Musical tastes should have no real effect on relationships. I've gone out with girls who were into the likes of My Chemical Romance, Linkin Park and Nickelback and it didn't bother me the slightest. Likewise they didn't mind whatever music i was into either, we did have some overlap though. If you both have strong feelings for each other then your musical interests should have no effect. __________________ Last FM \| RYM \| The Final Sound

03-02-2011, 04:29 AM	#14 (permalink)
s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	Hahaha, I disagree with all of you ;D. I guess it depends more on how important music is for you, than on how important your girlfriend is for you. You guys may have noticed my ex was (is) very important to me but I can assure you that we wouldn't have been together if she hadn't had a huge interest in music. I wouldn't want to be together with a girl that didn't share the love for music. It doesn't have to be the same music, but it has to be a proper music freak. Not some top 40 follower. __________________ Click here to see my collection

03-02-2011, 11:26 AM	#18 (permalink)
indienerd Music Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Ithaca, NY Posts: 52	I'd prefer that my girlfriend and I both enjoy what each other chooses to play on our many car rides. And I'm really glad that we do. If your significant other hates what you love, whether it be music, sports, video games, hiking, surfing, or anything for that matter, I feel like you should search elsewhere. __________________ [link removed by mod, no advertising] Last.fm

03-01-2011, 07:53 PM	#11 (permalink)
DoctorSoft Rocket Appliances Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1,335	Unless it's to the point where she's breaking your CDs and pissing on your iPod, it doesn't matter at all. If you HAVE to listen to music when you're around her, use headphones.

03-02-2011, 03:26 AM	#13 (permalink)
Howard the Duck Live by the Sword Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia Posts: 9,075	all my exes and my fiancee hates all the music I listen to except maybe for slow jazz and classical my fiancee hates country and black metal the most

03-02-2011, 05:23 AM	#16 (permalink)
Howard the Duck Live by the Sword Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia Posts: 9,075	^^only one of my exes was seriously hip to Indie - she likes Radiohead, Jesus and Mary Chain and Placebo

03-02-2011, 05:45 AM	#17 (permalink)
TockTockTock They/Them Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 1,914	Can't say I don't agree with her though. Sometimes indie music can get so repetitive, and I end up not being able to tell other bands apart from each other. Albeit, not all indie is like this (some of it can be fantastic). A bit off topic...

03-02-2011, 02:12 PM	#20 (permalink)
Mr November Music Addict Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Halifax, Canada Posts: 429	People have had strong relationships despite differences much greater than music taste in the past. That being said, I find music taste is a large dictate of personality (not a determinant but a component). And if your music is important to you, than why shouldn't you be disappointed that this person is having trouble appreciating something you're so invested in. No advice, just words.