Why is music so polarizing for so many people?

grtwhtgrvty · 04-13-2015, 06:57 PM

I was gay before I liked post-rock so whatevz.

**Janszoon** · 04-13-2015, 07:56 PM

It's only polarizing because there are some people who fail to see that my musical tastes are right and theirs are wrong.

Trollheart · 04-13-2015, 08:35 PM

Just like to add, superb thread for a first-poster (no offence)...

tbajas · 04-13-2015, 09:10 PM

All really well formulated and thought out reponses everyone

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

Well first of all your friend should have, in my opinion, asked "Is that all you listen to?" and then made his comment. If I put on Tom Waits and someone says "That's crap! Why don't you listen to something good like Iron Maiden?" I would happily advise them I'm a big fan. Or if they expound on how great classical music is, I listen to that too. My tastes are relatively wide and varied, and for someone (esp someone I knew for a long time) to denigrate my musical taste on the basis of one artist is I think being very narrow-minded.

Of course, the other response could have been "Well what do YOU listen to?" and start a discussion about that. I think a lot of it stems from a misguided belief among people that their music is superior and this certainly holds true if you can point to a band/artiste reviled generally, such as Nickelback, Slipknot or Taylor Swift etc. I get a lot of stick for loving Bon Jovi: doesn't bother me. Many of my friends are not into my music but it doesn't stop us being friends. If someone is going to get the hump over something as small as that, you probably need to address it with them and say something like "Is it that important? Are we gonna fall out over Linkin ****ing Park?"

I suppose I should mention that this friend isn't entirely normal. He has some social disorders that make it very difficult for him to improve his mood if something upsets him enough.

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

Just like to add, superb thread for a first-poster (no offence)...

haha thanks

RoxyRollah · 04-13-2015, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Nameless

I think it's kind of a leftover tribal thing. Ways people identify themselves in groups, like with sports teams or geographical areas of origin.

*....Welcome to music banter.

This caught my attention, and is a fabulous response.

Nameless · 04-13-2015, 10:59 PM

lol Thanks. I mean I could be talking out my ass but all of the arbitrary groups people form just make me wonder and I sit around wondering a lot.

Ninetales · 04-13-2015, 11:44 PM

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Originally Posted by grtwhtgrvty

Music is the biggest part of my life, and if I learn that my friend, let's call her Anne, only listens to Nicki Minaj and Katy Perry, both incredibly one dimensional artists, that's a huge part of my life that I can't discuss or enjoy with that person. If he wants to talk about Tchaikovsky and you can't meet his standard for refined musical discussion, I can't really blame him for feeling a strain in the relationship because that is an interest of his you can't address.

People say that musical taste should have no baring on who you are friends with, but I think that's bull****, because musical taste is an interest, and you are friends with people that you have interests in common with. If I love Nascar, and I meet someone who is just as into Nascar as I am, and Nascar is totally my favorite thing in the world, we are going to have a better chance of being friends..

having friends that are into predominantly chart pop helped me to stop chastising it and now I love a great deal of it.

grtwhtgrvty · 04-14-2015, 12:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Ninetales

having friends that are into predominantly chart pop helped me to stop chastising it and now I love a great deal of it.

I have a lot of friends like that and it doesn't really help me. I can enjoy pop music on a very basic level but 70%-85% of it I just have to tune out. I'm not chastising anyone. It's just different interests.

And when i say pop music I'm referencing like.. mainstream chart pop. Pop music as a whole is actually my favorite genre.

Ninetales · 04-14-2015, 12:12 AM

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Originally Posted by grtwhtgrvty

And when i say pop music I'm referencing like.. mainstream chart pop.

yes that's what im referring to as well. you wont find many people more excited about Carly Rae Jepsen's new album than me.

Dylstew · 04-15-2015, 03:58 AM

Me and my friends **** on eachother's tastes all the time (not just in music), it's not really a big deal. It's fun to discuss the differing opinions.

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grtwhtgrvty jiojoijoi Join Date: Feb 2015 Posts: 398	I was gay before I liked post-rock so whatevz.

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Nameless Fat girls in yoga pants Join Date: Mar 2015 Posts: 152	lol Thanks. I mean I could be talking out my ass but all of the arbitrary groups people form just make me wonder and I sit around wondering a lot.

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Dylstew Music Addict Join Date: Feb 2014 Posts: 1,366	Me and my friends **** on eachother's tastes all the time (not just in music), it's not really a big deal. It's fun to discuss the differing opinions.