Give or Receive?
 

Oral.

Hello sexual deviants of MB. I am curious.

Do you prefer to give or receive. Does it depend based on how good your SO is?

Most of the guys I have had the conversation with don't appreciate going down on a fine lady, so I figured it would be an interesting poll to create. Interested to see what the ladies think as well.

I prefer to be the receiver, but I don't mind giving it. Getting her off gets me off.

I'm a giver for sure.

Same here. Unless it's some crazy pornstar blowjob, which I've never had the privilege of receiving but imagine I would like very much, I am all for giving.

I guess I can't vote depends until I bang a pornstar.

I fucking hate being given oral. But I do give brilliant blowjobs.

What!? WHY?

Well that trip across the ocean is now canceled...

Yeah I am much more up to giving than receiving. I had a few girls that has no clue.

Depends on the partner/skillset for me. I enjoy giving for sure but I'd definitely be lying if I said anything implying receiving from someone who loves giving isn't best.

So does anyone have advice on going down on women?

I mean, everyone is different but I've had troubles for sure. I'm not ignorant I know where the clit is and ya know, little finger or two or three or ya know whatever else never hurt nobody when they're ticklin' a certain spot but ah. I feel self conscious sometimes. Drunken, risky, casual, anonymous sex is about the only experience I have. Part of me wonders if it would be easier/better sober or with someone I loved or if it would be even more daunting.

I've also never blown a dude. I think I would be okay about it. IDK. I think everyone who has the capability of producing semen has tried their own at least once. Didn't taste that bad. Supposedly a few things help it taste... good? Whatever. I always thought it'd be kinda hot to seduce just a really ****ty, stupid, mentally ugly human male, blow him, and then spit his *** in his face and beat the **** out of him. Really just **** the dude up hard, broken knuckle style.

I would say sexual violence is just an awful thing to do to someone regardless of their gender.

You can definitely try but I never have had a guy that actually can do it where it will turn me on. It's boring. I wouldn't cancel the trip just yet if you want a porn star style blow job.

x2 what the ****

****in prudes

I haven't really had much experience in the art of giving, but I think I've always enjoyed it more than getting. It just feels great having some chick grab your hair while you're canoeing down the Nile river. I think it has to do with me liking having my hair touched and played with as well as watching someone get off. As far as blowjobs, I need someone trained in the art for me to enjoy it, it's really boring dealing with a chick that can't stick an entire dick in her mouth.

Do you consider BDSM/fetish/scene stuff violent? Or are you talking about actual non-consensual violence?

*In my best Austin Powers voice*

Oh behave, baby ;)

You saw the comment I was replying to, correct? If so, I would think it's pretty clear I was referring to something nonconsensual.

x2^. I'm slightly concerned about the fact that your fantasies are going from consensual to, violence.
There's a line between BDSM and hot kink, and violence.
That's something you should exsplore. Wheter it's the violence thats getting you off or the kink.
Im also wondering about your internal rage toward the male receiver.

Ah,

I have no idea where that came from. Last few days are pretty hazy. Not that being drunk or high excuses even mentioning something like that but ya. I think you guys know me well enough to know I wouldn't do something like that ever, I'm just a little predisposed to have some dark, ugly thoughts once in a while

Which there isn't anything wrong with that. Matter of fact I'd worry about you if you didn't have dark thoughts from time to time, it's part of the human condition.
I'm serious on the internal rage that is expressed here and in other threads, twoards the male form. Im pretty sure that most of the gender based issues that you exsperience come from a lack of comfortability in your own skin, but if they ever manifest themsevles in the form of internal or exsternal violence you should see someone.

Well, even though it's rare, brutality on that level does exist in the form of consensual kink, and since Idk WD that well I considered the possibility that he may be into it.

I don't expect you or anyone else on here to be educated about that kind of stuff, but you could be a little less condescending in your response to my simple question. If that was not your intent I apologize but it read that way.

A perfect example happened the other day when WD assumed that rope bondage went hand in hand with sexual foreplay, which is not always the case.

Nah..... I'm a lover. Fighter only if I hafta be..

Someone had to help me off the ground last night because I couldn't stop laughing at "Baker" street.
I'm harmless.

It's kind of funny that you think I was being condescending yet here you are talking about how myself and other members must be not be "educated".

My response to you wasn't condescending, it was me being annoyed at you being incredibly obtuse with regards to a comment that had a very clear context.

I think it's less about me being pedantic and more about different life experiences. I didn't say anything about anyone's lack of education. Everyone on this forum is more knowledgeable about certain topics than others, I don't see how recognizing that is condescending. It seemed pretty clear to me that you know very little about kink based on your reaction, but because I wasn't certain I made sure to include an apology if I was wrong.

I'm not gonna derail the thread any further over a misinterpretation of intent.

You're not going to derail the thread yet you're still going to drop another condescending post. Good work.

Don't talk, HIT HIS ASS!

^The key is consent. The original post WD made had no implication of consent. It's really actually very simple, being opposed to nonconsensual sexual violence is not equivalent to being uneducated or inexperienced in bdsm or kinks.

Exactly this. Thank you.

I completely agree, and I thought I acknowledged that fact when I said "IDK WD very well" so it wasn't clear to me if what he was talking about was consensual or not. It's not the first time that I have read something on here, without knowing the history/person, and misunderstood the comment.

Edit: The lack of education comment was meant to explain that someone who doesn't know much about BDSM/kink may not know there is sex like WD described that is consensual. It had nothing to do with the comparison you are making. Maybe my wording wasn't clear.

I mean, I made the post so I take full responsibility for it but I'd rather not be.associated with it again. Its been on my conscience all day and its not something I meant genuinely. I've expressed it before but I'm a little unstable sometimes and say things I don't mean. I really can't apologize enough for that post and hope you guys realize I'm not really like that.

Don't beat your self up over it doll.It's not worth all that. I worry about you as a friend, only because I know what you struggle with. Gender bend all you want sweetheart, you only get one life to live. I am concerned when it gets to removal of vital organs, or non consensual violent tendencies and it's completely ok to have those thoughts.But when we voice them for all to see,exspect some concerned opinions.And that's all they are concerned opinons,hear them and let them sit in your grey matter.Because that is how people truely learn things,by letting the information set then arriving at their own conclusions. But don't loose a moments sleep over it.

Eh its more how I feel about thoughts like that. I find it upsetting to think that way. On the plus side I found a good supply of weed and while more expensive its definitely a better medication than booze. I was in a lousy mood and i think hadn't gotten my puff on when I posted tha

like a kidney or something?

Yes that exactly. No! Like his penis...

Wow, there's a lot of generous people here!

Receive. Always.

I live to please ;)

Hey you made it. Haven't seen you posting in a while!

@WD - Everything Roxy said. No need to beat yourself up about it. Be happy to have a place where you can post how you really feel and not have to worry about others tearing you down. Idk you that well is all, I didn't associate you with that kind of sex before and I certainly do not now, I was unsure.

The best thing about this forum is that generally everyone can talk about anything and the discussions don't result in flame wars. It's nice to have your ideas challenged intelligently instead of a counter argument consisting primarily of insults.

that was a half assed attempt to point out your misuse of the term vital organs. only it failed cause i then went on to use 'kidney' which is according to google also not a vital organ.

I have been complimented more times than I care to remember on my pussy-eating skills, but I love to fuck some skull. The throat can be my favorite hole on a woman if she knows how to use it.

Oh hai Carpe! I've missed you bb.

Vanilla, I hate receiving oral too! Twinz!!

While I agree that it's boring, my main problem is that I've never been with a guy who seemed to enjoy it that much. I always get the feeling they're just doing it because they think it's what they're supposed to do. I could never get off that way I think so I end up being like "ok let's just move on please."

I also give rockstar quality blowjobs though. Maybe that's why we're extra judgmental about receiving?