Originally Posted by VEGANGELICA

Then our moderators Urban Hatemonger and Freebase joined in the "joke"-making at your expense:

Originally Posted by Plankton

I don't know about a "Gift From Heaven" but yer alright in my book Whiskey. Maybe a bit socially awkward, but your heart is in the right place, and thats endearing. Keep on doing what you do, don't take no **** from no one and let the bad vibes slide off you like water off a duck.

Originally Posted by FRED HALE SR.

Maybe we should make a poll? Honestly I thought Whiskey was another jayshreddz creation. In the be all end all, none of this matters on a large scale.

Originally Posted by Plankton

I'm on it like white on rice.

Originally Posted by Whiskey

So your poll about me got closed after a few minutes eh?

Originally Posted by VEGANGELICA

Whiskey, I feel your polls are fine as they are. You should be free to create polls that interest you without moderators jumping in and making fun of them.

I'm sorry that moderators aren't consistently polite here. I feel sad whenever I see them mock someone's contributions like I see them doing to you.

I think quite a few moderators and members want to make the climate here be one where those in power feel free to mock and belittle others. I want MusicBanter to create a climate where members are welcomed to share their opinions and interests, while putting other members down and being rude to them is discouraged.

Some people seeing this thread will probably say that when you feel you are being mocked or teased, pointing that out to defend yourself is "over-reacting" or being "too sensitive." I disagree. Defending yourself is being assertive and is standing up to people who are choosing to be verbally/emotionally abusive.

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Whiskey, I get the same impression as you, and the reason (to state the obvious) is that a moderator, Vanilla, said your polls are generic and dull and created a thread and poll to mock them:



Then our moderators Urban Hatemonger and Freebase joined in the "joke"-making at your expense:





Finally, moderator Burning Down denied that anybody has a problem with your polls, even though that ignores the reality of what people have said in this thread. That makes it harder for you to trust your own emotional reaction to the thread, when your reaction is in fact justified.

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Play doesn't involve many members belittling someone and putting her down. That's called bullying, and I see moderators doing it a lot on this forum. People get their thrills by being mean. I don't, and I wish mods would squelch bullying rather than be main perpetrators of it here at MusicBanter.

Mods, I wish you'd stop creating and contributing to threads that mock members' contributions. If someone isn't being playful with you, then your "play" with them isn't play, especially since you are in a position of power here.

This thread isn't reciprocal playful interaction. This means moderators are simply using your Internet time to make people who have done nothing wrong (other than join MusicBanter) feel uncomfortable by putting them and their contributions down.

Whiskey, I agree with zevokes: it is good not to take it personally when people go out of their way to mock someone. The reason is that whenever people make fun of you, it is due to their *own* issues and problems, and not yours.

Originally Posted by Janszoon

I haven't been involved in this thread at all so I don't have dog in this fight. But I just wanted to say that this passive-aggressive lecture by Vegangelica is by far the rudest thing in the thread.

Originally Posted by Freebase Dali

I don't see the following option:

"Whiskey had long ago set out to be the world's largest pole collector. As an admirer of poles, he sought to find and/or create as many as he could, simply to be surrounded by such a variety of poles of all lengths, girths, and hues. When he arrived here at this forum, he saw the option to create a poll in threads. 'Silly forum administrators', he thought, 'you spelled poles wrong.' He then began to create polls. But much to his dismay, nothing was happening. 'Stupid forum, you are inadequate at pole creation', he thought. Yet, Whiskey was a determined young man, and no matter how many silly, illiterate administrators there were here, nor how bad this forum is at creating poles, he fought on. And to this day, he is still fighting."

Why is this not an option?
It should be.

Originally Posted by zevokes

passive aggressive? hardly. that was about as head-on as it comes.