Key

I think that just means she doesn't want to sleep with you.

P A N

whiskey. please change your name to goldschlager.

Whiskey

What makes you think that way?

I like my name the way it is right now.

P A N

but everything you say is gold.

P A N

whiskey, i like you. you are nice.

Whiskey

I wish people like Freebase Dali and Janszoon would think that way.

P A N

bah... don't take them personally. they're just playing. but, more importantly, don't take the way anyone else thinks personally. other peoples' opinions are none of your business. nor your concern. you just keep on doing what makes you happy and you're, well, golden.

VEGANGELICA

Whiskey, I feel your polls are fine as they are. You should be free to create polls that interest you without moderators jumping in and making fun of them.

I'm sorry that moderators aren't consistently polite here. I feel sad whenever I see them mock someone's contributions like I see them doing to you.

I think quite a few moderators and members want to make the climate here be one where those in power feel free to mock and belittle others. I want MusicBanter to create a climate where members are welcomed to share their opinions and interests, while putting other members down and being rude to them is discouraged.

Some people seeing this thread will probably say that when you feel you are being mocked or teased, pointing that out to defend yourself is "over-reacting" or being "too sensitive." I disagree. Defending yourself is being assertive and is standing up to people who are choosing to be verbally/emotionally abusive.

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Whiskey, I get the same impression as you, and the reason (to state the obvious) is that a moderator, Vanilla, said your polls are generic and dull and created a thread and poll to mock them:

Then our moderators Urban Hatemonger and Freebase joined in the "joke"-making at your expense:

Finally, moderator Burning Down denied that anybody has a problem with your polls, even though that ignores the reality of what people have said in this thread. That makes it harder for you to trust your own emotional reaction to the thread, when your reaction is in fact justified.

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Play doesn't involve many members belittling someone and putting her down. That's called bullying, and I see moderators doing it a lot on this forum. People get their thrills by being mean. I don't, and I wish mods would squelch bullying rather than be main perpetrators of it here at MusicBanter.

Mods, I wish you'd stop creating and contributing to threads that mock members' contributions. If someone isn't being playful with you, then your "play" with them isn't play, especially since you are in a position of power here.

This thread isn't reciprocal playful interaction. This means moderators are simply using your Internet time to make people who have done nothing wrong (other than join MusicBanter) feel uncomfortable by putting them and their contributions down.

Whiskey, I agree with zevokes: it is good not to take it personally when people go out of their way to mock someone. The reason is that whenever people make fun of you, it is due to their *own* issues and problems, and not yours.

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Whiskey

First of all, thanks for the sympathy and appreciation that you show towards this issue.

Secondly, you're right....I shouldnt take these kind of things personally. Its sometimes difficult to do so, especially when its many people trying to mock you at the same time(like in this thread), but I still manage to do it.

Honestly, ever since I joined this forum Ive had a strong feeling that nobody likes me. Sure a "wow you're so cool whiskey" kind of comments here and there, but other than that, I felt like nobody cares about me and regard me as a pathetic troll that only tries to cause problems on the forum with his polls and awkward replies to threads. Obviously these things are not true at all, and Ive never tried to cause problems on the forum at all from the very first moment that I joined here. I truly want everyone to understand that, and I hope Im clear enough about this right now.

If I had to judge myself, I'd say Im probably a gift from heaven to this forum for deciding to join, as Im posting actively everyday and contributing significantly to the forum in various ways. So instead of mocking me, the moderators need to appreciate that.

Plankton

I don't know about a "Gift From Heaven" but yer alright in my book Whiskey. Maybe a bit socially awkward, but your heart is in the right place, and thats endearing. Keep on doing what you do, don't take no **** from no one and let the bad vibes slide off you like water off a duck.

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