Sexual Orientation

ThePhanastasio · 12-07-2010, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Nine Black Poppies

In conversations with gay men, I've been told that part of the flamboyance is... overcompensation, I guess, in being able to really express that side of one's personality--that it's something one tends to grow out of as one becomes more comfortable in the self.

I can't speak to the experience of a gay male (perhaps someone else could better), but it seems observationally true based on those that I've known.

A friend of mine told me that was the case with him as well. I know that as a gay female, that was true of me. I was completely normal, then finally came out of the closet and wore more guy-ish clothes, no makeup...all of that. Rainbow bracelet to go with. The whole deal.

When I actually became really comfortable with it, I realized that I don't have to do that anymore. It was kind of like my way of making it okay to me. Like telling people, "I'm obviously gay. I'm SO happy and sure of myself and not afraid to be out at all..." when in all honesty, I was terrified.

~~someonecompletelyrandom~~ · 12-23-2010, 03:51 AM

I'm a little surprised we have 3 asexuals among us. That's a pretty rare thing, asexuality. Tbh I'm a little envious, to have no sexuality actually sounds pretty appealing for some reason. But I guess it would be difficult to be in a relationship with an asexual person.

zachsd · 12-23-2010, 04:21 AM

Yeah man, being asexual would be absolutely terrible. Not because I can't imagine life without sex, but because it would be pretty much impossible to have a normal relationship with anyone. Unless of course you find another asexual person that you love.

s_k · 12-23-2010, 05:04 AM

But then still you miss the stuff sex does for a relationship. It does bind.
I wonder if a relationship between two asexual persons (if any, hard to find I guess) would work as good as a relationship between two sexual persons.

I do by the way have the impression that some youngsters (say up to about 16 years

) could have been the ones voting for 'a seksual'. Some kids aren't interested in any of that until they've really hit puberty.

~~someonecompletelyrandom~~ · 12-23-2010, 05:10 AM

I think it could definetely work. I've seen a lot of non sexual friendships seem stronger than marriages. Then again, I don't have very much relationship experience so I don't know.

And yeah, that might be it also.

s_k · 12-23-2010, 05:16 AM

Yeah, but in that case it's mainly a friendship, not so much an actual relationship.

BananaPhish · 01-16-2011, 08:10 PM

Perfect example of an asexual relationship, the bond between a brother and sister. There is love there, stronger than most, with no sexual expectations. An asexual marriage, would essentially be the same exact thing.

Of course an asexual couple would have to have a romantic attraction to each other, honestly, why else form a bond with another if you were asexual? Does not quite make sense otherwise.

s_k · 01-16-2011, 08:47 PM

I'm an only child (I actually had an older sister but she only grew to be a month before she died

) and I can't imagine what it's like to have a sister. I just can't imagine not thinking she's looking good when she's looking good.

But then I should add, when I look at my mother when she was 20, I can tell that she's a beautiful girl, but I'm in no way sexually attracted to her. Strange how these things work...

TockTockTock · 01-16-2011, 09:00 PM

I chose the last option on the poll.

s_k · 01-16-2011, 09:16 PM

I always thought you types were rare. Seems there's plenty of 'em.

View Poll Results: What is your sexual orientation?
I'm a guy who likes girls	104	50.98%
I'm a guy who likes guys	11	5.39%
I'm a girl who likes guys	26	12.75%
I'm a girl who likes girls	4	1.96%
I'm a guy who likes guys and girls	14	6.86%
I'm a girl who likes guys and girls	18	8.82%
I haven't figured out what I like yet...	3	1.47%
I'm asexual	4	1.96%
I'm an ostrich who likes badgers	20	9.80%
Voters: 204. You may not vote on this poll

12-23-2010, 04:21 AM	#193 (permalink)
zachsd Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 347	Yeah man, being asexual would be absolutely terrible. Not because I can't imagine life without sex, but because it would be pretty much impossible to have a normal relationship with anyone. Unless of course you find another asexual person that you love. __________________ lastfm rym

12-23-2010, 05:04 AM	#194 (permalink)
s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	But then still you miss the stuff sex does for a relationship. It does bind. I wonder if a relationship between two asexual persons (if any, hard to find I guess) would work as good as a relationship between two sexual persons. I do by the way have the impression that some youngsters (say up to about 16 years ) could have been the ones voting for 'a seksual'. Some kids aren't interested in any of that until they've really hit puberty. __________________ Click here to see my collection

12-23-2010, 05:16 AM	#196 (permalink)
s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	Yeah, but in that case it's mainly a friendship, not so much an actual relationship. __________________ Click here to see my collection

01-16-2011, 08:47 PM	#198 (permalink)
s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	I'm an only child (I actually had an older sister but she only grew to be a month before she died ) and I can't imagine what it's like to have a sister. I just can't imagine not thinking she's looking good when she's looking good. But then I should add, when I look at my mother when she was 20, I can tell that she's a beautiful girl, but I'm in no way sexually attracted to her. Strange how these things work... __________________ Click here to see my collection

12-23-2010, 03:51 AM	#192 (permalink)
~~someonecompletelyrandom~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,538	I'm a little surprised we have 3 asexuals among us. That's a pretty rare thing, asexuality. Tbh I'm a little envious, to have no sexuality actually sounds pretty appealing for some reason. But I guess it would be difficult to be in a relationship with an asexual person.

12-23-2010, 05:10 AM	#195 (permalink)
~~someonecompletelyrandom~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,538	I think it could definetely work. I've seen a lot of non sexual friendships seem stronger than marriages. Then again, I don't have very much relationship experience so I don't know. And yeah, that might be it also.

01-16-2011, 08:10 PM	#197 (permalink)
BananaPhish Groupie Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 46	Perfect example of an asexual relationship, the bond between a brother and sister. There is love there, stronger than most, with no sexual expectations. An asexual marriage, would essentially be the same exact thing. Of course an asexual couple would have to have a romantic attraction to each other, honestly, why else form a bond with another if you were asexual? Does not quite make sense otherwise.

01-16-2011, 09:00 PM	#199 (permalink)
TockTockTock They/Them Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 1,914	I chose the last option on the poll.

01-16-2011, 09:16 PM	#200 (permalink)
s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	I always thought you types were rare. Seems there's plenty of 'em. __________________ Click here to see my collection