Lemme drop 25 facts


1) I'm now attending my 3rd University
2) Haven't spoke to my father in 3 years
3) Don't plan on seeing him again until his funeral
4) I wanna work with helping kids someday.
5) My general feeling for MYSELF and my occupational goals is that if I'm not helping other people, then I'm not doing enough.
6) I wish I would have majored in something geared towards helping the disabled.
7) I always have a toothpick in
8) I used to be a pothead but not anymore
9) I'm white
10) I rap and think I am really good
11) My brother is 2 years younger than me and my best friend
12) I'm a sports junkie
13) I'm colorblind
14) My mom is my hero
15) I have a dog named Shea who is named after my beloved New York Mets old stadium
16) I wear Timberland boat shoes
17) Playing basketball is my favorite hobby
18) I gamble on sports
19) My first concert was in like 6th grade. I saw Linkin Park with Cypress Hill and Adema. My first up-close exposure to tits and weed.
20) I don't have any songs in my Itunes other than my own. I just go on YouTube for all my songs. Haven't downloaded anything in a long time.
21) I'm allergic to cats.
22) I love bonging and chugging beers, and beer in general.
23) I'm a binge drinker
24) I drive a '94 Honda Integra
25) I have witnessed one of my best friends and former room mate of several years to do the following things to a room mate we didn't like: Hump his homemade bagels, piss in his lemonade, put a pube in his tea, spit and sneeze all over his homemade meals, rub his ass all over his face towel, toothbrush, and girlfriends toothbrush, rub his ass cheeks on his door and door handle, blow cigar smoke under his door, etc.

Maybe this is a cultural thing or maybe you have a different reason on going there than I think, but... why would you want to attend someones funeral if you obviously dislike that person?

Well I've debated whether or not I'd attend in my own head for awhile now. I can't imagine seeing or talking to him ever again. And he lives a really unhealthy life so I think he will die pretty young. But I guess it'd be just to make my final peace. Still have some old good memories, he still gave me life and got me interested in stuff like sports even though he's a piece of shit. I figure I would go, say whatever I have to say both good and bad and then leave and it's over with after that.

Allright. I understand.

Next thing isn't really a reaction to your posting, but I'll just put it up here anyway.
I have this strange thing with funerals.
I've been to one and I try to avoid them like ****.
It really feels like a forced way to say goodbye. I'd rather do this in my own time.
I don't need to see a coffin.
I have an uncle I really really like who is probably going to die of cancer really soon.
I'm not sure if I'll be going. I should talk about this with him. It's a pretty nasty thing but I just can't see why I should go...

Exactly, you and I view funerals the same way. One reason I hate funerals is because it's basically an impromptu family reunion and I really don't like some of my extended relatives.

Two, funerals are a way for people to cope with the person they have lost. I rather do it on my own terms and in my own time. I don't need the support system of others. My stupid step sister got off contact with me after my dad passed because I didn't show up for his funeral. She didn't want to understand my point of view on funerals.

Third reason I don't like funerals is because I have this weird defense mechanism that when too much sadness is around I tend to get happy and smile inappropriately. If i'm forced to attend a funeral it's very hard for me. One time, I busted out laughing during the Eulogy and was kicked out of a proceedings because of my mechanism.

I like most of my relatives. But I dislike the fact that there's people there who go there because they 'have to'. Please stay away.

**** yeah. You're the first one to understand exactly what I mean.
That's really the first time in my life that someone gets the point :)

I'm afraid about this when it comes to funerals too... That's why I already told my grandparents years ago I won't be there. I'm just afraid they don't remember...

That's just sad. It's not like you can help yourself.
I don't have that, but it's definitely a valid reason :).

my uncle is a sort of spiritual medium to Taoist-Buddhist gods and he advised my mother that I shouldn't go to funerals as it would upset my "lifeline"

i believe in that even though I'm a Christian

so I have a valid excuse NOT to attend funerals - unless it'ss inevitable like my granny as I was the eldest grandson on the male lineage - even then, Taoist-Buddhist funerals tend to be quite fun - there's a lot of atonal dissonant music and bizarre chanting

I see where you guys are comin from but I think it's selfish and disrespectful to not go to a funeral cause it makes you uncomfortable or you don't want to see Aunt Susy for an hour. It isn't about you. It's to pay your respects to someone else.

yeah but we can pay our respects at our own time at say like the cemetery. why do we have to pay our respects in front of people that we don't like it is so forced and unnecessary.

I am paying my respects at home. Not at a funeral where I feel ****ed up.
These things make me really numb and not being able to talk or function.
There's no worse way of paying respects for someone.
How can I pay respects when it's 'organized' in a way I don't feel?