Originally Posted by Trollheart

I think it comes mostly from the experience with my sis. There are days I'd love to just vent, but hell, it ain't her fault and you just learn to keep these things in. Or rather, not quite. What you learn to do, what I learned to do anyway, is think before opening my big gob. Which is not to say we don't have blazing rows --- I'm no saint and she's no angel. But I would never want to use the "I gave up my life to look after you!" line in an argument (unwinnable at that point). While all of this has little to do with negativity per se, I think it does force you to be more tolerant. Which is not to say I haven't kicked the garden shed door or nearly broken my own bedroom door slamming it (and once, destroyed the light switch by angrily punching it out when she had called me for the third time at 4am) but you do tend to get a slightly more zen view on things. Most of the time.