ladyislingering

How do you even get it up?? How is it not weird to meet someone for the first time and 5 minutes later you're fucking? I can see if maybe you were drunk (but in my experience drunk sex is really, truly unpleasant and it seems next to impossible to have a decent orgasm) and not thinking clearly... or you're just strange.

Years ago one of my exes had totally screwed me over but it had not been openly discussed with his family, so when he moved away for special mental treatment, his mother thought it'd just be a great idea to drive me 300 miles to stay in a hotel with him over a weekend. We didn't have sex because I didn't even want him touching me. Any amount of respect or kindness I had for him was totally gone at that point, and some weeks later he picked up a stranger (a male escort) and that's when I decided it was done. Maybe I'm just selective or I have a more specific line of criteria that I require before I let anyone near me beyond a handshake, let alone sex.

I just don't get it. Why have sex with someone you'll probably never see again, or never talk to beyond smalltalk, or never have a reason to know or spend a lot of time with? Why not just masturbate?

It would definitely be physically awkward if you didn't have a feel for their touch in a non-sexual manner firsthand.

Some of us would just rather be loved, I guess.

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djchameleon

One night stands are better than masturbating another night. Don't see how you don't get that. Of course it doesn't compare to sex with someone you love but it definitely above using your hand.

You don't need to know someone on a deeper level to get pleasure out of sex. Atleast I don't.

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Fame, fortune, power, titties. People say these are the most crucial things in life, but you can have a pocket full o' gold and it doesn't mean sh*t if you don't have someone to share that gold with. Seems simple. Yet it's an important lesson to learn. Even lone wolves run in packs sometimes.

The Batlord

Indeed. I am far more sexually attracted to women than I am to my right hand. It does the job, but it's a pretty mechanical way to go about getting off. I only ever had sex a couple times, but even though I wasn't attracted to one, and felt nothing at all for the other, I was definitely more into it than I ever was with Pamela Handerson. And just because I don't have any feelings with the other person doesn't mean there can't be any kind of connection, no matter how short term. It's not an emotional connection so much as a desire for a shared sexual experience rather than just jerking off with another human being, but it still heightens the experience.

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Engine

Thanks for the advice though.

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Like an arrow,
I was only passing through.

The Batlord

Any time.

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Engine

Disagree completely. My hand is clean, guilt free, and knows exactly what I like. No one night stand can offer that.

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I was only passing through.

djchameleon

that's just because you don't want to put the effort into EVEN getting a one night stand.

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Fame, fortune, power, titties. People say these are the most crucial things in life, but you can have a pocket full o' gold and it doesn't mean sh*t if you don't have someone to share that gold with. Seems simple. Yet it's an important lesson to learn. Even lone wolves run in packs sometimes.

Engine

Truth. I forgot to mention that one night stands require effort, money, time, etc.

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Like an arrow,
I was only passing through.

The Batlord

It's a rare hand that's dynamite in the sack. To get anything much more than a half-way decent orgasm without saving it up for a couple days, I'd need more than the one hand if you know what I'm sayin'.

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DwnWthVwls

Maybe if you ask nice you can get it in with Icky Vicky on the weekends. Just buy Roxy a bottle of wine.

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