Opting Out Of Parenthood

music_collector · 08-03-2022, 07:23 PM

It's definitely not a split second decision. As a man, I wouldn't take that decision lightly either.

In our case, deciding to have kids took a lot of thought, given the ordeal we went through (IUI, in vitro). There was a big emotional, physical and financial cost.

Carpe Mortem · 08-03-2022, 07:36 PM

I'm sure it took its toll on you, but you're probably superior parents because of it. Too many people just fall into parenthood because of an accident & their feelings on abortion - and too often their children pay the price. Your twins are fortunate to have parents that clearly wanted and love them very much!

Trollheart · 08-03-2022, 08:10 PM

I love kids.
Couldn't finish a whole one, though...

The Batlord · 08-03-2022, 09:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

I love kids.
Couldn't finish a whole one, though...

I usually have the kids finish me.

music_collector · 08-03-2022, 10:00 PM

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I'm sure it took its toll on you, but you're probably superior parents because of it.

I'd like to think we are, but only time will tell. That first year was an absolute killer. There's a reason it's called survival mode.

Kudos to the ladies. The physical pain I saw my wife go through, from trying to conceive all the way to recovering from delivery, there is no way I could have braved it all.

It dawned on me why a woman wouldn't want kids. That's a lot of work, even before the kid pops out!

Trollheart · 08-04-2022, 06:20 AM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

I usually have the kids finish me.

Deliberately (munch!) misunderstanding is the (chew!) last refuge of the (bellcchh!) idiot. No, I'm full now. Maybe later. Stick it in the fridge for afters.

Guybrush · 08-04-2022, 09:49 AM

We thought about having kids for a few years before we made a real attempt. When we finally did it, it felt like the time for it because we had a house, a car, full time jobs, everything in order. The daily grind was becoming a little monotonous and I think we both wanted more in life. Not more hours of sleep or time to ourselves, obviously, but perhaps more unbridled enthusiasm, chaos, laughter, more meaning, a more profound presence of love in our lives. We were ready for the next step.

Now we have two kids. Where life was kinda monotonous and just rolling along, it now feels more like a roller coaster and it's always changing.

But no way am I getting another. I wanted a vasectomy for my 40th birthday.

music_collector · 08-04-2022, 07:29 PM

I know the feeling. By the time we started trying, we had the house, cars. My wife had hit one of her career goals (a salary milestone). I was firmly entrenched in my position at work. We took trips, went to so many concerts.

Thankfully, we were able to have our twins before it was "too late". The trying took four long, painful years.

Given the amount of spittle, puke, etc that comes up, a roller coaster is an excellent analogy to use.

I have yet to see the snip snip doctor. I probably should, just in case.

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Carpe Mortem Crusher of tiny Nords Join Date: Mar 2014 Location: Ugly Bag of Mostly Water Posts: 1,363	I'm sure it took its toll on you, but you're probably superior parents because of it. Too many people just fall into parenthood because of an accident & their feelings on abortion - and too often their children pay the price. Your twins are fortunate to have parents that clearly wanted and love them very much! __________________ [SIG][/SIG] Mirth is King Be Loving & Open With My Emotions

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08-04-2022, 09:49 AM	#447 (permalink)
Guybrush Juicious Maximus III Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Scabb Island Posts: 6,525	We thought about having kids for a few years before we made a real attempt. When we finally did it, it felt like the time for it because we had a house, a car, full time jobs, everything in order. The daily grind was becoming a little monotonous and I think we both wanted more in life. Not more hours of sleep or time to ourselves, obviously, but perhaps more unbridled enthusiasm, chaos, laughter, more meaning, a more profound presence of love in our lives. We were ready for the next step. Now we have two kids. Where life was kinda monotonous and just rolling along, it now feels more like a roller coaster and it's always changing. But no way am I getting another. I wanted a vasectomy for my 40th birthday. __________________ Something Completely Different

08-03-2022, 07:23 PM	#441 (permalink)
music_collector Music Addict Join Date: Apr 2022 Location: Canada Posts: 744	It's definitely not a split second decision. As a man, I wouldn't take that decision lightly either. In our case, deciding to have kids took a lot of thought, given the ordeal we went through (IUI, in vitro). There was a big emotional, physical and financial cost.

08-04-2022, 07:29 PM	#448 (permalink)
music_collector Music Addict Join Date: Apr 2022 Location: Canada Posts: 744	I know the feeling. By the time we started trying, we had the house, cars. My wife had hit one of her career goals (a salary milestone). I was firmly entrenched in my position at work. We took trips, went to so many concerts. Thankfully, we were able to have our twins before it was "too late". The trying took four long, painful years. Given the amount of spittle, puke, etc that comes up, a roller coaster is an excellent analogy to use. I have yet to see the snip snip doctor. I probably should, just in case.