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Old 08-02-2022, 08:32 PM   #431 (permalink)
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Old 08-03-2022, 05:16 PM   #432 (permalink)
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Wut up, bitch?
Feels so good to not give a **** about the abortion debate because it will never remotely be a problem for me.

Damn I'm selfish.

Seriously though, everyone should sterilize themselves. There's enough children without homes anyways, go adopt one.
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Old 08-03-2022, 05:31 PM   #433 (permalink)
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There's enough children without homes anyways, go adopt one.
Depending on where you live, it's easier said than done. Before we had our twins, we tried going the adoption route. There's so much red tape, as well as a crazy financial cost.
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Old 08-03-2022, 05:43 PM   #434 (permalink)
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Depending on where you live, it's easier said than done. Before we had our twins, we tried going the adoption route. There's so much red tape, as well as a crazy financial cost.
That's very, very sad. I know there's some sick people out there but there are far more people who aren't.

I guess it's one of those things where you just can't take any chances. It is a child's life after all. Makes me wonder if foster care is easier to get into. Hollywood seems to show any ratchet ass person fostering kids.

We're good with no kids at all ever though.
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Old 08-03-2022, 05:51 PM   #435 (permalink)
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I don't know why some people think it's "selfish" not to want children. If you don't want children, you should definitely not have them. Having kids is an extraordinary responsibility, even if it's something you really wanted and even if you have well behaved children.

I never considered adopting children and birthed my own biological children - which in a way can be considered very narcissistic and "selfish" when you think about all the un-adopted children in the world who desperately need parents.
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Old 08-03-2022, 05:53 PM   #436 (permalink)
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We're good with no kids at all ever though.
Good on you for making the choice. Kids aren't for everyone. Not every adult is made to be a parent either.
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I don't know why some people think it's "selfish" not to want children.
It's definitely not selfish.
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Old 08-03-2022, 06:04 PM   #438 (permalink)
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I don't think it's selfish to have bio children, or to Not have children at all. Either way is doing the right thing for yourself, and therefore to the better benefit of those around you.

I guess the main reason I point towards sterilization even for people who Do want children eventually is because of what's going on in the US right now. I had a procedure called a bilateral salpingectomy - they removed my fallopian tubes entirely, didn't just snip them - and technically if I did change my mind I could still do in vitro.

Really what I've done is just remove the possibility for an accident. I've never wanted kids at all though and finally took the plunge to make damn sure of it.
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Old 08-03-2022, 06:09 PM   #439 (permalink)
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and technically if I did change my mind I could still do in vitro
It sounds like you really thought your decision through. You even have a backup plan baked in.
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Of course! And I like that, if I ever did change my mind, I would have to save up money and really think about it. It can never, ever be a split second decision based on temporary biological need for me.
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