Official Mental Health Thread

[OccultHawk]

Originally Posted by Lucem Ferre

And some people have a hard time with being sexual because they've experienced trauma that triggers a bad emotional reaction any time they try to be intimate.

Trying to force your sexual lifestyle on others just seems douchey and putting the idea out there that people need to constantly be having sex to be happy perpetuates a rape culture.

Only if you think sex and rape are the same thing. Personally, I understand the difference. Sex is consensual.

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by OccultHawk

Only if you think sex and rape are the same thing. Personally, I understand the difference. Sex is consensual.

Yeah I remember your early days and a long debate between you and everyone else that was rapey as ****. Something about how you'd **** a drunk chick if she was at a bar and into it. Back then you were definitely not our member of the year.

[OccultHawk]

Originally Posted by Dharma & Greg

Yeah I remember your early days and a long debate between you and everyone else that was rapey as ****. Something about how you'd **** a drunk chick if she was at a bar and into it. Back then you were definitely not our member of the year.

Rapey is a stupid word that belittles the violence of rape.

Finding a consenting woman in a bar is a sexual practice completely unrelated to rape.

[Frownland]

Turquoise isn't blue because navy blue is darker.

[The Batlord]

I'm not trying to put words in your mouth since it's a discussion from years ago I barely remember but I do remember the whole forum being against you.

But even apart from that you've made it very clear that you are attached to your masculinity in a little boy lost kind of way and the amount of sex you have is integral to that self perception. That's the core of rape culture. Guys want to get laid to prove that they are men and that drive causes them to ignore or rationalize things that get in the way of that.

It can be as brazen as "No means yes, yes means anal", or it can be as subtle as offering a woman a drink at the bar. That drink might just be social reciprocity since it's a bar and booze is social currency in all bar situations, but it can also be a calculated attempt to subvert consent even if you're not aware of it.

[OccultHawk]

Originally Posted by Lisnaholic

Well, good sex can be a great boost to self-esteem, but in one of life's cruel paradoxes, there's a problem too: if you are troubled by a lot of worries, then sex loses its appeal, and can actually become a cause of anxiety itself, because sex that goes badly can be pretty damaging.

I hear you. Sex really can leave you feeling crummy and anxious. Fair point.

[Cuthbert]

Especially when on SSRIs.

[OccultHawk]

Originally Posted by Dharma & Greg

I'm not trying to put words in your mouth since it's a discussion from years ago I barely remember but I do remember the whole forum being against you.

But even apart from that you've made it very clear that you are attached to your masculinity in a little boy lost kind of way and the amount of sex you have is integral to that self perception. That's the core of rape culture. Guys want to get laid to prove that they are men and that drive causes them to ignore or rationalize things that get in the way of that.

It can be as brazen as "No means yes, yes means anal", or it can be as subtle as offering a woman a drink at the bar. That drink might just be social reciprocity since it's a bar and booze is social currency in all bar situations, but it can also be a calculated attempt to subvert consent even if you're not aware of it.

Using a bunch of words doesn’t change anything. Celebrating promiscuity among consenting adults is sex culture. It’s not related in any way to whatever rape culture is. You can’t “subvert” consent. It’s either consensual or it isn’t. You don’t know what the **** you’re talking about it when it comes to my sexuality. I will and have pick up a drunk woman in a bar but if there’s even a hint she doesn’t want to go through with it there’s not going to be any sticking.

I’ve always been easy going about it. It’s always been integrated into my style to be appreciative of whatever she wants or doesn’t want.

Furthermore idgaf if the whole forum was against me nor do igaf about your puritanical no-pussy getting judgmental bull****.

[The Batlord]

Sounds like you don't think much about what disagrees with what you already think.

[Frownland]

Originally Posted by OccultHawk

I'm going to stick to my patriarchal no-pussy getting bull****.

Whatever suits you dawg