Official Mental Health Thread

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by WWWP

@mindful

Tristan is nonbinary and uses they/them pronouns, so using gendered terms for them like "bro" or "dude" can be invalidating unless you have explicit permission. Now you know!

That's right, son.

[WWWP]

Exploring gender is not a mental illness. That's really rude to insinuate.

[Key]

Originally Posted by Mindfulness

You may wanna stop before you dig yourself into a deep hole. What your saying is offensive and rude and it's unnecessary. Im asking as someone who suffers from mental illness that you stop associating what Tristan is discussing as a mental illness. The memes are also not funny in this context.

[WWWP]

Originally Posted by Mindfulness

Whether you understand it or not is irrelevant. You are being unnecessarily combative. This thread is modded more strictly than other Lounge threads. Consider this a warning. Drop it or educate yourself, but I'm not going to let this flippant png-ing go on.

[WWWP]

Originally Posted by WWWP

@mindful

Tristan is nonbinary and uses they/them pronouns, so using gendered terms for them like "bro" or "dude" can be invalidating unless you have explicit permission. Now you know!

The correct response would be "ok got it."

Really disappointing, tbh.

[Key]

Originally Posted by Mindfulness

I cant be rude?

not trying to offend tristian. the OG post that offended him by just calling him a "bro" wasnt meant to be offensive. lol bro! I was glad he is feeling better is main point to take away from the OG post.

Well no, you cant. That should be basic human nature to not be purposefully rude. I'm honestly shocked that you have to ask that question.

[WWWP]

I mean you can be rude, but then you can also face the consequences.

[WWWP]

Originally Posted by Mindfulness

warning for disagreeing? because the "bro" was just me not being mindful of what he typed, i focused on on him getting better and typed that

Tristan does not use he/him pronouns. Again, I don't care if you understand it. You can respect it and do your own research into the topic.

[WWWP]

Originally Posted by Mindfulness

I dont even know why I typed that because I dont even "disagree" with what "???" wants..... just not used to typing to someone binary?....

They

And they are non-binary. The gender binary refers to "male or female" as identifiers, something which Tristan and many of us reject.

[Lucem Ferre]

Nah, Tristan has to expect it. If you want your gender identity respected then how about showing respect to people who don't understand with patience rather than freaking out over something as petty as what pronoun is used. Not that Tristan's the one freaking out. Most non-binary people I've met really don't care that much about pronouns because they know they can't expect everybody to cater to it. They're usually fine with what pronouns match their sex because it's just easier.