The arbitrary value is the one assigned by the government. If I die after all my children are legally adults, then they won't have to go into foster care or whatever. I'd rather live longer, of course, but if not, I hope I live at least until the youngest is 18.

If I were to have lost a parent and I'm sensitive to the fact that you did dwv so this comes from solely personal opinion and I'm choosing my words carefully, but I think I'd feel worse and be worse off if I lost a parent at a younger age and maybe not as worse when I'm 18-19 because I've learned to deal with it at that age. Though again I'm sensitive to the fact that I know it's not just black and white like that so don't take this as a jab at either of you.

Its not a sensitive subject for me Kiiii. it just seems strange to me he way he looks at it. No age is ever going to prepare you for the death of your parents so picking an age to die at which you can be satisfied based on the age of your children rather than based on where they are in their own life seems bizarre to me.

Like i said if i was a parent the youngest i would be "comfortable" dying is whenever i felt like my kids were less dependent on me and i did everything i could do for them so that trey are successful and happy.

But you're assuming he's just going to die when his youngest is 18. He's saying IF. I think that's the part you're missing. It's not like he's waiting until they're 18 to die. That silly.

I think you're taking his casual throwing out of a number too seriously.

I think I'm being unclear or you guys are dense.

Yes, I'm aware of that.

Then that's my point. Your point doesn't make much sense because you're assuming he wants to die at that age. That's not what he's saying. I picked up from his posts that worst case scenario, at least his youngest child is 18. Less worry I'm sure. That's literally all that was being said.

I'm not assuming that, lay off the weed.

Then I'm not sure what you're arguing. I'm totally fine mentally.

Why can't you understand the difference between these:

So then we're making the same point.

No, because an arbitrary number assigned by the government doesn't determine the latter.

When my Dad died at 18, I was fine. I know someone who lost a parent in their 30s who turned into a mess because they were still incredibly reliant on them.

So as bat said, youre taking the age he said too seriously.

I hope I live as long as my kids need me.