The article above, while not exactingly correct in it's timeline of 4chan, raises some very interesting points about the sociological motivations behind a lot of the trolling "culture" that has grown exponentially. As a former 16 year angsty troll, I absolutely thought that women would never want anything to do with me, that metal music and video games were solely the domain of men, and that casually saying 'f@g' or 'whore' as insults were funny and shouldn't be construed as sexist or homophobic. Some strong cognitive dissonance there, huh?
But I was also 16, and have grown far past such myopia. The question is, why haven't others? I know we have some MAGA/MRA types on the board, and I would appreciate some honest discussion about the points raised in the article. I legitimately have a list, but let's see if things come up organically.
Ol’ Qwerty Bastard
02-24-2017 01:04 PM
i think you hit the nail on the head when you said "when i was 16." i think for a lot of people it's just something they'll grow out of. there's also this element where people can rise to fame just from feeding that select group of people. ones like milo, gavin mcinnes, malik obama, etc etc.
speaking of milo, any thoughts on the whole pedophile + book deal controversy?
Frownland
02-24-2017 01:14 PM
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Originally Posted by Qwertyy
(Post 1808601)
speaking of milo, any thoughts on the whole pedophile + book deal controversy?
To start, I think he's been misquoted to a degree because he clarifies that he isn't for paedophelia because paedophelia is an attraction towards prepubescent boys and his whole spiel was about pubescent people being prepared for sex below the age of consent, rendering age of consent laws meaningless laws made by dumb liberals. I find his opinions about it from that point on disgusting and ignorant of the power dynamic of these situations but I think this point is important to clarify.
My other two thoughts are (1) really? It took the air of being pro-paedo to cut his book deal? and (2) I really hope this is the nail in the coffin of his career and that he doesn't manufactroversify himself back into the news so that free speech advocates can have a better face to represent them.
Ol’ Qwerty Bastard
02-24-2017 01:18 PM
i haven't seen anyone turning on him tbh, just based on social media there seems to be a lot of people jumping to his defense. for that reason i don't think his fame is going anywhere. i agree with you on the book deal though, it's strange that out of everything possible this somehow pushed things over the line.
Frownland
02-24-2017 01:20 PM
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Originally Posted by Qwertyy
(Post 1808607)
i haven't seen anyone turning on him tbh, just based on social media there seems to be a lot of people jumping to his defense. for that reason i don't think his fame is going anywhere. i agree with you on the book deal though, it's strange that out of everything possible this somehow pushed things over the line.
I've seen pretty much unanimous dissent save for the people that seem to think that not getting the book deal is breaking the first amendment.
He's been saying this kind of thing for a long time though, so anyone who's well versed in his material shouldn't be too surprised.
Ol’ Qwerty Bastard
02-24-2017 01:22 PM
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Originally Posted by Frownland
(Post 1808608)
I've seen pretty much unanimous dissent save for the people that seem to think that not getting the book deal is breaking the first amendment.
i'm talking about from people who are fans of his though. i don't think any of his supporters see this as a reason to condem him.
Frownland
02-24-2017 01:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Qwertyy
(Post 1808609)
i'm talking about from people who are fans of his though. i don't think any of his supporters see this as a reason to condem him.
I think those are his die-hard fans. I know there are a lot of people who disagree with a lot of what he says and still like him as a way to unify against the bogeyman left. That more casual segment of his fanbase is definitely going to dwindle and I think it's large enough for him to fall behind on relevancy.
Social media's a bitch though and you're probably right though because his die-hard fans can spam the **** out of social media to make their side seem more significant/important/popular/whatever like they do with any other manufactroversy.
Ol’ Qwerty Bastard
02-24-2017 01:47 PM
i like watching his videos. not so much because of the leftist boogeyman as for the reactionary speaker i think he is. the biggest problem with him (as well as gavin mcinnes, ann coulter, steven crowder, etc) is that people aren't questioning what they're saying and it leads to people blindly picking a side just like they claim the people on the left are. joe rogan recently did a podcast with steven crowder and called him out for being wrong with his stats and sources multiple times and each time crowder was proven wrong. when you get a situation like milo's lecture for example, there's no one to fact check or call him out.
Goofle
02-24-2017 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted by riseagainstrocks
(Post 1808597)
Yes, yes, we have a thread that has touched on these topics, but the 'What did Trump do now' thread has become unwieldy.
The article above, while not exactingly correct in it's timeline of 4chan, raises some very interesting points about the sociological motivations behind a lot of the trolling "culture" that has grown exponentially. As a former 16 year angsty troll, I absolutely thought that women would never want anything to do with me, that metal music and video games were solely the domain of men, and that casually saying 'f@g' or 'whore' as insults were funny and shouldn't be construed as sexist or homophobic. Some strong cognitive dissonance there, huh?
But I was also 16, and have grown far past such myopia. The question is, why haven't others? I know we have some MAGA/MRA types on the board, and I would appreciate some honest discussion about the points raised in the article. I legitimately have a list, but let's see if things come up organically.
How is this group relevant to a discussion about Donald Trump or any of the other things mentioned?
I skimmed through the article. It seemed a little silly and jumped to quite a lot of conclusions but maybe it went deeper than I understood from a brief viewing. I'd like the list you mentioned, either in PM (I'd respond directly) or as a spoiler (my return would also come as a spoiler).
Frownland
02-24-2017 01:53 PM
^Because meme propaganda and the alt-right (or in the instance of this election, ant-left) are quite plainly some of the biggest factors in getting a meme for president.
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Originally Posted by Qwertyy
(Post 1808619)
people aren't questioning what they're saying and it leads to people blindly picking a side just like they claim the people on the left are.
Can you elaborate?
The Batlord
02-24-2017 01:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Frownland
(Post 1808622)
Can you elaborate?
I imagine he's saying that people on the right see him as one of theirs and so they aren't critical enough of exactly what he's saying and how he's backing it up, and the left dismiss him out of hand because he's not one of theirs, and so aren't critical enough of exactly what he's saying and how he's backing it up. When you're the kind of populist that Milo is you're either loved or hated, but seldom considered.
Ol’ Qwerty Bastard
02-24-2017 01:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Frownland
(Post 1808622)
Can you elaborate?
well speaking on steven crowder in particular for example, he told joe rogan he doesn't like how the left praise marijuana and act like it's going to cure cancer. he went on to say car accidents caused by the usage of marijuana have sky rocketed since the legalization of the drug in Colorado. joe rogan brought up the stats and it proved to not be true.
there are a lot of instances like this where they're doing exactly what they accuse the other side of doing, following statements without researching the facts themselves. i think with milo it's more a matter of exaggeration for the point of entertainment some of his dummy supporters take literally.
The Batlord
02-24-2017 01:58 PM
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Originally Posted by Frownland
(Post 1808622)
^Because meme propaganda and the alt-right (or in the instance of this election, ant-left) are some of the biggest factors in getting a meme for president.
And because in our neck of the woods (the internet that isn't just Facebook or Twitter) 4Chan is a microcosm of a rather large segment of white, 20-something, male culture.
Frownland
02-24-2017 02:02 PM
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Originally Posted by Qwertyy
(Post 1808625)
well speaking on steven crowder in particular for example, he told joe rogan he doesn't like how the left praise marijuana and act like it's going to cure cancer. he went on to say car accidents caused by the usage of marijuana have sky rocketed since the legalization of the drug in Colorado. joe rogan brought up the stats and it proved to not be true.
there are a lot of instances like this where they're doing exactly what they accuse the other side of doing, following statements without researching the facts themselves. i think with milo it's more a matter of exaggeration for the point of entertainment some of his dummy supporters take literally.
I've heard Joe Rogan support the theory that marijuana hands down cures cancer but more on that later...
I get what you mean and agree now. Another fine example of how the extremes are more like twins than they realize.
Goofle
02-24-2017 02:03 PM
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Originally Posted by Frownland
(Post 1808622)
^Because meme propaganda and the alt-right (or in the instance of this election, ant-left) are quite plainly some of the biggest factors in getting a meme for president.
I was asking about MRA's being included in this. I fully understand the rest of it.
Also top job on "ant-left" :laughing:
Frownland
02-24-2017 02:08 PM
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Originally Posted by Goofle
(Post 1808632)
I was asking about MRA's being included in this. I fully understand the rest of it.
Oh I see. The Venn Diagram of MRA's and alt-right is pretty close to a circle as I see it, but only because of the lack of cohesion there is to the alt-right movement.
I actually read an article that discusses that point pretty well.
I get what you mean and agree now. Another fine example of how the extremes are more like twins than they realize.
mhm. whenever i'm around my trumper friend and he's complaining about how all lefties are commies i defend it to try and drive it in his head that he's just as wrong as they are.
Goofle
02-24-2017 02:12 PM
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Originally Posted by Frownland
(Post 1808636)
lol didn't mean to make them feel small.
Yeah, the alt-left are pretty small in all fairness, even if their actions are kinda overlooked/condoned by many you would expect to combat them. It's hard to decide which is worse between the alt-left and alt-right. Both racist in different ways, identity politics through the roof, louder than their actual representation and pushing bad ideas as a form of identity.
And the rest of the MRA stuff is just a bit silly. Maybe some identify with the alt-right, or other MAGA type movements, but the issues MRA's discuss are completely unrelated. So I don't think it's right to even bring them up in this discussion.
Machine
02-24-2017 02:30 PM
The whole phenomenon of 4chan's rise in notoriety as well as the alt-right's is a really fascinating one. 4chan is a vehemently misunderstood place in my opinion and there are so many goddamn misconceptions about the place, even the dreaded /pol/ that it's hard to even talk about without being written off completely. To really discuss 4chan and Trump asa topic you have to come across the different techniques that have been put to use on /pol/ as well as having at least basic knowledge about "meme magic". A lot of the time the place genuinely does feel like a cartoon world or some alternate dimension put inside of a specific board.
The alt right is completely different phenomenon and has so many definitions I don't even know where to start. All I know is that /pol/ is only home to a couple types of the "alt-right".
Frownland
02-24-2017 02:31 PM
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Originally Posted by Machine
(Post 1808654)
The whole phenomenon of 4chan's rise in notoriety as well as the alt-right's is a really fascinating one. 4chan is a vehemently misunderstood place in my opinion and there are so many goddamn misconceptions about the place, even the dreaded /pol/ that it's hard to even talk about without being written off completely. To really discuss 4chan and Trump asa topic you have to come across the different techniques that have been put to use on /pol/ as well as having at least basic knowledge about "meme magic". A lot of the time the place genuinely does feel like a cartoon world or some alternate dimension put inside of a specific board.
I agree with that. It's like how people don't even realize that we talk about music on MB sometimes.
The Batlord
02-24-2017 02:35 PM
They have an origami section, so I imagine it's probably not all alt-right dudes talking about cucks.
Machine
02-24-2017 02:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Frownland
(Post 1808656)
I agree with that. It's like how people don't even realize that we talk about music on MB sometimes.
I would equate it even more to you come here expecting to talk about music, but there's more talking about random **** than anything else.
You go to /pol/ expecting a ton of skinhead neo nazi's, but it's really a bunch of jaded teenagers who enjoy memes way too much.
Machine
02-24-2017 02:38 PM
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Originally Posted by The Batlord
(Post 1808657)
They have an origami section, so I imagine it's probably not all alt-right dudes talking about cucks.
I use the music board /mu/ every day and it's basically an edgy tumblr. Most of the people there are liberals and leftists.
Chiomara
02-24-2017 02:56 PM
*Werner Herzog voice* The internet is a dark and chaotic vortex of memes and treachery...
Goofle
02-24-2017 03:33 PM
I don't think I've ever lasted more than 5 mins on /mu/. It was literal cancer. Maybe I should give it another go.
Machine
02-24-2017 03:48 PM
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Originally Posted by elphenor
(Post 1808708)
My problem with /mu/ is actually just that 4chan has **** tastes
You're right though
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Originally Posted by Goofle
(Post 1808709)
I don't think I've ever lasted more than 5 mins on /mu/. It was literal cancer. Maybe I should give it another go.
It gets better with time, or maybe I'm just numb to the stupid now.
riseagainstrocks
02-27-2017 07:41 AM
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Originally Posted by Goofle
(Post 1808621)
I skimmed through the article. It seemed a little silly and jumped to quite a lot of conclusions but maybe it went deeper than I understood from a brief viewing. I'd like the list you mentioned, either in PM (I'd respond directly) or as a spoiler (my return would also come as a spoiler).
Sorry, busy weekend. These questions aren't strictly dispassionate, but I think they're generally fair. Will read through and respond to more of these when I have time.
Spoiler for questions:
1. Why do the President's priorities, and the priorities of the alt-right in general, seem to be focused on preventing people of color from entering the USA? You are more likely to be killed by a member of your own race, or to die in traffic than at the hands of a terrorist. If my perception is wrong, please explain how the "Muslim ban" is not a Muslim ban.
2. Immigrants displace unskilled manual labor, not skilled or unionized work. Why do modern conservatives see this as a bad thing? Why do conservatives oppose unions?
3. Phrases like 'All Lives Matter' and the MRA campaign seem to think that by focusing on one group of problems (disproportionate policing of minorities, gender inequality), you must ignore others. Do you agree with this sentiment? If so, why?
4. Conservatives dislike, rightfully so, to be painted with same brush. Fringe elements are not representative of the whole. Both sides are guilty of simplification, but as I'm asking the question, I'll focus on the one that matters to me: Do you believe that 'social justice' as a concept is bankrupt? Do you agree that white men have a privileged position in American society? If not, why? If so, how do you distinguish your position from that taken by so-called SJW's?
5. A common refrain from Trump supporters is to take the man "seriously, not literally". Do you believe Trump's unfamiliarity with governance or the importance of his language as POTUS is a pro or con? Why?
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Originally Posted by Goofle
(Post 1808621)
How is this group relevant to a discussion about Donald Trump or any of the other things mentioned?
in reference to MRA, as Frownland astutely stated, it's a Venn Diagram that's more flush circle than small intersection. After all, the wage gap is "fake news", right? I brought MRA into this because, as I see it, it stems from the same white, male disaffection with the cultural and social changes over the last 30 years. Men, especially white men, have gone from masters of their demesne, to partners, subordinates, or excluded parties. Whether through choice, circumstance, cultural shift, etc., the hows don't matter as much as the reaction, which as far as I can tell, has been extremely negative. As a man working in the Oil and Gas industry, the amount of sexism I see is absolutely shocking. 95% occurs when the woman has left the room. And this in a place where women occupy 4 of 6 senior VP positions. Do MRA types have fair points? Sure. Custody is one of the very few areas where the sexism is reversed. It's not fair, it's not in the best interest of the child, and it's one of the artifacts of a patriarchal society... ironic, imo.
Goofle
02-27-2017 12:24 PM
Spoiler for questions:
1. Why do the President's priorities, and the priorities of the alt-right in general, seem to be focused on preventing people of color from entering the USA? You are more likely to be killed by a member of your own race, or to die in traffic than at the hands of a terrorist. If my perception is wrong, please explain how the "Muslim ban" is not a Muslim ban.
Segments of the Alt-Right do go into white nationalism and identity. There's no evidence that these beliefs extend to Trump's administration. If Mexicans and people in the middle east where as white as paper, the same policies would be proposed. We can call it "Islamophobia" and whatever you call disliking Mexicans irrationally, or look into other reasons why people and a President would want to take those actions but, as I said, there's nothing that links these actions to race.
3. Phrases like 'All Lives Matter' and the MRA campaign seem to think that by focusing on one group of problems (disproportionate policing of minorities, gender inequality), you must ignore others. Do you agree with this sentiment? If so, why?
Most of the issues MRA's talk about are ignored, so it's just a matter of living in reality.
4. Conservatives dislike, rightfully so, to be painted with same brush. Fringe elements are not representative of the whole. Both sides are guilty of simplification, but as I'm asking the question, I'll focus on the one that matters to me: Do you believe that 'social justice' as a concept is bankrupt? Do you agree that white men have a privileged position in American society? If not, why? If so, how do you distinguish your position from that taken by so-called SJW's?
I believe that the word "justice" is fine all by itself. As soon as you start tagging words at the beginning or end of perfect concepts, you open up a worm hole. Going from pure truth and morality, to coerced and ideological ways of dealing with things.
Privileged people have a privileged position in American society.
Chiomara
02-27-2017 01:49 PM
I'll address that outdated custody myth momentarily, but for now, a response to the original thread topic:
I can't comment on 4chan, but in regards to young male alt-right/neo-nazi types who consistently act obnoxiously online and off: Yes, I feel many can grow out of it. Just like most grow out of their Ayn Rand phase. (It has always been de rigueur for teenagers/early-20-somethings to adopt a facade of ironic detachment in addition to your standard contrarian-edgelord behavior. Because being a decent human being is uncool.) I'm not as familiar with the modern-day version of these children, but when I was a teenager, I was actually physically stalked and harassed by two of these types-- one older, one my age. For years. So, while it may not be the majority, some of them do indeed have some serious psychological issues/complexes which they overcompensate for in obnoxious ways.
Psychologically, they're very interesting, as they seem to believe they're some sort of modern-day antiheroes and the one true subversive voice, even though they're about as subversive as your typical drunk racist Fox news-watching uncle. (But yeah, you sure are an envelope-pushing comedic genius, Kevin!) It's also hilarious to me that these Schrodinger's douchebags are always railing on about free speech and "PC culture" yet absolutely cannot handle any criticism from others whatsoever. (Some do not understand that freedom of speech does not mean freedom from criticism/public ridicule) And, as already noted they're not too dissimilar (in terms of pitiful debate tactics) from those that they're vehemently against. But, a lot of these kids--the trolls-turned-neo-nazis, anyway-- grew up believing South Park was the pinnacle of nuanced social commentary/humor, so... They'd be far less irritating if not for their insistence that they're somehow oppressed. I'm curious as to what they'll be like 20 years from now.
..And regarding the other kind that mainly stick to trolling and harassment (while indiscriminately latching on to whatever they perceive as opposite to "sjws", be it Trump or whatever)-- namely the younger MRA guys that enjoy harassing women non-stop-- I notice they all have an enormous entitlement problem (and barrels of weird sexual issues and complexes which they like to blame on random women/female friends), stemming from some perceived but actually extremely minor "betrayal". And then they restrict their social interactions to internet echo chambers without any real, varied real-life experiences to balance it out. But again, I'm assuming that most grow out of this once they gain more life experience/learn that people are not puppets for them to project their internal psychodramas upon.
I really wish they (MRA) spent a bit more time practicing some sort of productive, real activism that doesn't revolve around demonizing others and yelling on reddit behind anime avatars. (What about male rape victims, or men--young adolescent men, especially-- in prison facing abuse and injustice, victims of police brutality, mentally ill homeless men with PTSD, disabled men or men with autism or severe chronic illnesses who are deprived of any real platform or voice, etc.. Or even elderly men experiencing neglect or abuse in nursing homes.. People who all could use help!)
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Originally Posted by riseagainstrocks
(Post 1809541)
Custody is one of the very few areas where the sexism is reversed. It's not fair, it's not in the best interest of the child, and it's one of the artifacts of a patriarchal society... ironic, imo.
That's a bit of a myth, actually. It may have been true many decades ago (and depending on which list of cherry-picked half-true factoids one reads, it may even appear to be partly true on the surface), but it hasn't been for a good while-- that is, when men actively seek out custody in court and don't drop the case. It's fairly likely that they'll be awarded custody, in fact. And a great deal of custody settlements happen outside of the courtroom, and are reached based on mutual agreement.
Source: Gender Bias Study of the Court System in Massachusetts
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The preliminary findings of the Middlesex Divorce Research Group relitigation study show a similarly high rate of paternal success, but fewer awards of joint physical custody. In their sample of 700 cases in Middlesex County between 1978 and 1984, fathers had sought custody in 57 cases (8.14% of the sample). In two-thirds of the cases in which fathers sought custody, they received primary physical custody (42% in which fathers were awarded sole legal and sole physical custody, plus [*832] 25% in which fathers were awarded joint legal and primary physical custody). Joint physical and joint legal custody was awarded in 3.5% of cases. In 11% of the cases, mothers received primary physical and joint legal custody; in 12%, mothers were awarded sole legal and physical custody; other custodial arrangements were ordered in the remaining cases. Thus, when fathers sought custody, mothers received primary physical custody in fewer than one-quarter of the cases in the Middlesex study. Information about which parent had been the primary caretaker was not available for the Middlesex cases.
These trends were apparent in an earlier study of a sample of 500 Middlesex County cases filed between 1978 and 1981. Fathers had sought sole custody in about 8% of the cases. They received sole custody in 41% of those cases, and joint custody in 38%. In 5% of the cases, custody went to someone other than a parent. In instances in which fathers sought sole custody, mothers received sole custody in only 15% of the cases (Phear et al., 1983).
These statistics may be a surprise to many. They are, however, consistent with findings in other states. A study of court records in Los Angeles County, California, in 1977 found that fathers who sought sole custody obtained it in 63% of the cases (up from a success rate of 37% in 1972) (Weitzman, 1985, p. 233). A nationwide survey of all reported appellate decisions in child custody cases in 1982 found that fathers obtained custody in 51% of the cases, up from an estimated 10% in 1980 (Atkinson, 1984).
The high success rate of fathers does not by itself establish gender bias against women. Additional evidence, however, indicates that women may be less able to afford the lawyers and experts needed in contested custody cases (see "Family Law Overview") and that, in contested cases, different and stricter standards are applied to mothers.
..In summary:
Study 1: MASS
2100 cases where fathers sought custody (100%)
5 year duration
29% of fathers got primary custody
65% of fathers got joint custody
7% of mothers got primary custody
Study 2: MASS
700 cases. In 57, (8.14%) father sought custody
6 years
67% of fathers got primary custody
23% of mothers got primary custody
Study 3: MASS
500 cases. In 8% of these cases, father sought custody
6 years
41% of fathers got sole custody
38% of fathers got joint custody
15% of mothers got sole custody
Study 4: Los Angeles
63% of fathers who sought sole custody were successful
Study 5: US appellate custody cases
51% of fathers who sought custody were successful (not clear from wording whether this includes just sole or sole/joint custody)
"...The high success rate of fathers does not by itself establish gender bias against women. Additional evidence, however, indicates that women may be less able to afford the lawyers and experts needed in contested custody cases (see “Family Law Overview”) and that, in contested cases, different and stricter standards are applied to mothers."
There are still plenty of problems in custody cases regardless, (and biases galore, among both judges and jurors) but it is not at all as black-and-white as many assume. I've bolded the most worrying bits:
Spoiler for Long wall of text:
"According to attorneys at listening sessions, there is another type of bias in the enforcement of visitation orders that reflects the different situation of custodial parents, usually mothers, and noncustodial parents, usually fathers. Although the child's interest is supposed to be primary, courts will not order a father to visit his child, even if his failure to visit distresses the child. The psychological harm that missed visits cause children also has an impact on the custodial mother, for it is she who must deal with her child's distress. In addition, female litigants participating in focus groups noted the havoc caused to their lives when fathers fail to exercise visitation or change plans at the last minute. Last minute changes make it necessary for women to scramble to find appropriate child care and impose extra monetary costs. Women expressed anger that the courts do not listen to their complaints in these matters. The essence of their concern is that visitation seems to be viewed entirely as a right of the father, rather than as a responsibility of the father toward the child and the other parent.
Similar bias exists concerning moves out of state. A noncustodial father is free to leave the state at any time, even if his children will miss their association with him. However, a good mother who leaves the state without permission may find custody taken away by the probate court. n65
[*847] The punitive approach taken by some courts toward women who interfere with fathers' visitation rights contrasts with the tolerance shown by some judges to fathers who fail to pay court ordered child support (see "Child Support") and to men who commit acts of violence against women, in violation of the criminal law and court orders (see "Domestic Violence").
Inappropriately harsh punishment for violation of a court order is troubling enough, but the possibility that mothers might be punished for violating orders rooted in gender bias that put them or their children at risk is even more troubling. And this possibility, according to attorneys' testimony in focus groups, is very real. Even if all errors were obvious enough to be corrected on appeal, many women do not have access to legal help. Correcting the bias in the trial court is the only answer.
CONCLUSION
Our charge was to study and make recommendations concerning gender bias. Thus, the goal of the recommendations that follow is to eliminate the gender bias we observed. Before making any recommendation, however, we also considered the effects our recommendations would have on the welfare of children.
Family service officers, probate judges, and appellate judges all say that giving primary consideration to the parent who has been the primary caretaker and psychological parent is in the best interests of children. n66 In practice, however, it appears that as soon as physical custody is contested, any weight given to a history of primary caretaking disappears. Mothers who have been primary caretakers throughout their child's life are subjected to differential and stricter scrutiny, and may lose custody if the role of primary caretaker has been assumed, however briefly and for whatever reason, by someone else.
We believe there is a need for a clear statement that primary consideration should be given in child custody disputes to the parent who has been the primary caretaker and psychological parent. Such a statement would advise lawyers and litigants about the applicable legal standard, [*848] and would reduce both the possibility of judgments influenced by bias and the bargaining advantage that men who have not been primary caretakers can gain by merely threatening to seek custody. The requirement that the identity of the primary caretaker and psychological parent be determined by considering each parent's commitment to the child throughout the child's life would promote fairness for both men and women. On the one hand, it would ensure that the actual behavior of individual men is considered, and not stereotypes about fathers. On the other hand, it would ensure that temporary relinquishment of custody does not result in permanent loss of custody, without regard to what went before.
Our research also considered gender bias in the awarding of shared legal custody. We found that the presumption in favor of shared legal custody which is currently held by many family service officers results in the awarding of shared legal custody in inappropriate circumstances. Such custody is being ordered over the objections of parents, when parents cannot agree about childrearing, and even when there is a history of spouse abuse."
That last bit is especially distressing, yet not even remotely surprising seeing as how inept our legal system is when there's any kind of abuse (child or spousal) involved. I've witnessed both abusive men and abusive women being unfairly granted certain things while the complaints and concerns of the other are dismissed entirely.
Edit: In conclusion, children are the real victims in these situations, as always.
Neapolitan
02-27-2017 03:44 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by riseagainstrocks
(Post 1808597)
But I was also 16, and have grown far past such myopia.
No, you haven't. Using "myopia" the way you used it is a slight to people who struggle with the medical condition of "myopia."
"Myopia" is the medical term for near-sightedness. The problem of not seeing things clearly objects at a distance due to the refractive error caused by the shape of the eye. "Myopia" is something you can't outgrow, it's something you have for the rest of your life, and for some people it's something that develops later in life. It's a handicap to have it, definitely not one of the worst handicap to physically deal with. However it's one of those handicaps that people feel free to bully, insult, mock or tease a person who has "myopia." Thinking that way at the age of sixteen didn't cause you to wear glasses and as a result be mocked because of wearing them.
riseagainstrocks
02-27-2017 03:58 PM
I appreciate your misplaced pedantry.
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Originally Posted by https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/myopia
Definition of myopia
1
: a condition in which the visual images come to a focus in front of the retina of the eye resulting especially in defective vision of distant objects. ex She wears glasses to correct her myopia.
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: a lack of foresight or discernment : a narrow view of something
ex. … those require long-term commitments, which in our current myopia we cannot take on. — Adam Smith
Neapolitan
02-27-2017 04:18 PM
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Originally Posted by riseagainstrocks
(Post 1809658)
I appreciate your misplaced pedantry.
How so? When myopia is taken directly from a medical condition and no one ever uses "hyperopia" to mean too much discernment or too broad a view of something. Face it you said you were grown but then slide right back into your old ways and slighted people with a medical condition by using a word to mean something it never was meant to mean.
edit: I appreciate your irony.
Neapolitan
02-27-2017 04:56 PM
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Originally Posted by elphenor
(Post 1809664)
Wtf Nea this is stupid even for you
How so? People who have myopia are teased and bullied. I don't agree with adding to their laundry list of how they are mistreated the redefining of the medical term for their condition to mean a "lack of discernment." There are people who wear glasses that have plenty of discernment. FYI
The Batlord
02-27-2017 05:00 PM
@ Nea - You're boring us now. Find better schtick.
Neapolitan
02-27-2017 05:40 PM
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Originally Posted by The Batlord
(Post 1809676)
@ Nea - You're boring us now. Find better schtick.
This post only fuels my ambition to be the most boring person ever. : |
Trollheart
02-27-2017 05:42 PM
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Originally Posted by The Batlord
(Post 1809676)
@ Nea - You're boring us now. Find better schtick.
I'm quite surprised you didn't say just ****ing kill yourself. Showing great restraint, Batty!
The Batlord
02-27-2017 05:58 PM
I'll up my game when he ups his.
Neapolitan
02-27-2017 06:06 PM
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Originally Posted by Trollheart
(Post 1809690)
I'm quite surprised you didn't say just ****ing kill yourself. Showing great restraint, Batty!
Here read what you wrote to Ki.
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Originally Posted by Trollheart
(Post 1805800)
How can I take it any other way than personally and seriously, when the post related to my advising everyone that my favourite aunt had passed away? If there's something more serious or personal than that, I don't know what it is.
There are times for jokes, Ki, and this is not one of them. If I write something intensely personal and you say it was too long, then I can't in all honesty see that as being a joke, and if it was, it wasn't funny. Obviously I'm not insinuating that you don't care, and while I don't wish to make a federal case of this, I think it's important to distinguish between what could be seen as banter and outright rudeness or thoughtlessness. Even Batty had a sincere comment, and if anyone was going to make an off-colour joke I might have expected it from him. But you have to say (and it's odd I know but there it is) in this case, he had more class than you.
I've checked it out: twenty-one seconds to read without rushing, and anyone in all fairness who reads a message that begins "My aunt passed away" and can't be bothered to read the next few lines, well, I don't know what to say. Had you read it through (a valuable twenty seconds I'm sure you could have spent in other ways) you would not have needed to make the remark that you did here, committing a social faux pas of sorts, and this issue would not have come up. Given that, had you not read it and then responded with "sorry man didn't read/see the post" that would be better than, essentially, "sorry could not be bothered". Considering how people (including me) have supported you recently, the idea of even thinking of making a joke about this comes across as very cold and emotionless, whether that was the intention or not.
tl;dr: I didn't find your comment funny, I don't see it as a joke and I kind of doubt anyone but you gets it. Maybe have a bit more consideration next time, yeah?
You insult people by hiding behind the Batlord as if he said it. I had a friend who did commit suicide recently and I find that phrase "just ****ing kill yourself" just plain fucking revolting. It's not a joke, it's not even an off-colour joke. Now you sunk lower than Ki, I think you owe him an apology.
DwnWthVwls
02-27-2017 06:13 PM
ITT: i learned you cant talk about 4chan without turning into 4chan.
riseagainstrocks
02-27-2017 06:18 PM
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Originally Posted by Neapolitan
(Post 1809662)
How so? When myopia is taken directly from a medical condition and no one ever uses "hyperopia" to mean too much discernment or too broad a view of something. Face it you said you were grown but then slide right back into your old ways and slighted people with a medical condition by using a word to mean something it never was meant to mean.
edit: I appreciate your irony.
I don't know if you're trolling or if this is your thing (hoping it's the former). Legally, people with glasses aren't a protected class; morally, it's obvious I was referring to the common use in argument of philosophical narrow sightedness; and forum-ly, this whole digression is off-topic. Not to mention, pedantic.
edit: 'just ****ing kill yourself' was like every 7th post I made 8 years ago. My oh my how my contributions have changed... Yet another reason I'm sad/scared that 30 year olds behave like this still.
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Segments of the Alt-Right do go into white nationalism and identity. There's no evidence that these beliefs extend to Trump's administration. If Mexicans and people in the middle east where as white as paper, the same policies would be proposed. We can call it "Islamophobia" and whatever you call disliking Mexicans irrationally, or look into other reasons why people and a President would want to take those actions but, as I said, there's nothing that links these actions to race.
This is a non-answer, and I think you know it. Campaign rhetoric, while often extreme, sets expectations for policy. Add inflammatory anti-Muslim rhetoric to an inner circle of advisors with noted ties to hysterically Islamophobic organizations and you have an administration that implements ideaological bans. The differences between Obama's 2011 implementation and Trump's 2017 fiasco are well documented elsewhere. They also don't matter in a way, because Trump repeatedly said that he was calling for a "complete and total shutdown of Muslims entering America". Intent matters, especially from the Twitter President. So there are direct links to Islamophobia. As for anti-Mexican sentiment, the angst here is more economic. Mexicans are a convenient other. NAFTA, for it's flaws, reduced the flood of immigration, because it moved well-paying jobs to Mexico, where labor (because of the cost of living) is cheaper. Poor Americans still like their cars, their TVs, etc. I'm not saying they must do without, but economics is heartless. Live in an American town where those things are part of the standard of living and I'll show you a Mexican barrio where they can package food/assemble electronics/make widgets as well as their unskilled American counterpart, for 20% of the wage. So the economic and racial resentment is articially manipulated by many of the same people that benefit from it. The millionaire/billionaire class a have it easier when they aim poor white ire at Mexican immigrants and complex trade agreements than the alternative.
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Most of the issues MRA's talk about are ignored, so it's just a matter of living in reality.
Also a non-answer. You can't just assert I'm not living in reality. I asked you to explain your beliefs. Don't point me to a YouTube video. Type them out, learn how to express them. If you don't want to fine, but not being able to argue your positions makes you the rube too many of my friends assume people like you are. I don't, I really want to dialog. Only way I'll survive the next 2-4 years... By the way, sourcing is fine for a conversation like this. I'm being pre-emptive here, but your quick non-answers aren't encouraging.
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I believe that the word "justice" is fine all by itself. As soon as you start tagging words at the beginning or end of perfect concepts, you open up a worm hole. Going from pure truth and morality, to coerced and ideological ways of dealing with things.
Privileged people have a privileged position in American society.
But justice can have many shadings. Legal, societal, tribal, etc. Doesn't mean they're all moral in the same way. Pure truth in a moral or philosophical sense isn't objectively attainable. I don't know if you're religious, and that's an entirely separate argument, but all but the most stringent of codes recognize circumstance as, at least, influencing action. Regardless, I completely agree that coercion is almost never the answer (outside lawful imprisonment, and the like). Certainly not over things as petty as 'Gamergate'.
I get it. You didn't own slaves. Neither did your parents, or your grandparents, or your great-grandparents. Maybe you're family isn't well-off. Maybe your job sucks. You hear 'white privilege' and you think 'rich privilege'. That's not what white privilege means and any serious thinker will tell you that you shouldn't feel guilty for being white or feel bad for being told that you don't have it as bad as black folk. I get angry when I hear that and rightfully so. It's about the aggregate. It's about the lifetime. Of everyone. In the country. STATISTICALLY, you will have a better life than people of color. The straight line is this is due to slavery. Not your fault. Not my fault. My people were in Ireland until the early 1900's. But as a white man, I will make more money and live longer. If I get arrested for possession of narcotics, I'll likely serve less time.
What you do with this knowledge, I don't know. I'm still recovering from my rejection of the idea of white privilege, which I only seriously thought about within the last few years. But your statement is a meaningless tautology.
This is getting long. Happy to continue (takes me a day to digest and gather my thoughts, so long form correspondence) if you want to take this to email or something.