Sexual Harrassment

DwnWthVwls · 08-05-2014, 07:39 PM

I feel like there is a very fine line here that is worth discussing.

Guy is hot and you find him attractive: "thank you" *winkie face*
Guy is ugly/not your type/etc: "get away loser/creep/weirdo".

Thoughts? Are there times when a compliment/catcall can be an innocent compliment without offending you(regardless of attraction level)?

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 08-05-2014, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by djchameleon

Handing out those cards, I don't think would be very effective. The type of guys catcalling just think that they are giving compliments. When they get handed those cards will most likely just call her a bitch telling her it was just a nice compliment and move on.

I was trying to find her video but you could just check out the channel cards against harassment since it's a bunch of smaller videos. Apparently she makes a break through with some guys but I feel like she has a higher failure rate than she's leading on.

Also if you don't believe the hissing Batlord it goes down in this video.

Also stumbled across this other video

Those lines at the end are just as bad lol.
"I want to lick your mind."

I will watch these, but yeah I doubt she will make much of a difference.

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

Vanilla, get some mace boo. That will stop any sort of harrassement for at least 5 minutes...

I'm going to buy some pepper spray to carry around in my handbag so I can just say "would you like me to spray your eyes with that harassment?".

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Originally Posted by FETCHER.

A guy wolf whistled at me this morning and I didn't know which car it came from, so I shouted 'YA FECKIN LOSER!!!' Problem solved.

I'm a bit scared to do that, they might pull over and give me the bash.

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Originally Posted by Carpe Mortem

Yeah gotta be honest, I look at catcalling as a compliment and think its kinda stupid to get offended over it, I'd daresay even bitchy or vain to make a big deal out of it. Stalking, or shouting 'nice tits!' or something, is another story. It becomes less a flirtatious compliment and more a disrespect of personal boundaries.

I can handle whistling or cat calling but blatant pervy stares, rude sexual comments, stalking and feeling me up is a big issue for me. It's fine to let me know I'm attractive to you but there is a line that can be crossed.

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Originally Posted by wolverinewolfweiselpigeon

I don't get as heated about cat-calling as I do creepy staring or blatant comments, but it does annoy me to no end. It's an objectifying action made safely and without repercussions from behind a car door that serves no real purpose.

That's exactly right, it's pretty bad when you have guys making comments from cars when you're in a school uniform. I mean seriously?

I wonder how successful it really is for these individuals shouting comments or whistling at women. Do they ever get lucky from it? Seems doubtful.

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Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

I feel like there is a very fine line here that is worth discussing.

Guy is hot and you find him attractive: "thank you" *winkie face*
Guy is ugly/not your type/etc: "get away loser/creep/weirdo".

Thoughts? Are there times when a compliment/catcall can be an innocent compliment without offending you(regardless of attraction level)?

In the situation you've listed above, I find offensive no matter what they look like. Is cat calling really ever innocent? I mean these guys are objectify women because they want to bone them right? If a man said to me, "hi, I just want to let you know that I find you attractive" I would smile and say thank you. The best thing a guy could do is come up to me, ask me if I'd like to meet him for coffee and be honest about what he wants from me.

I think a lot of the time cat calling etc is due to either immaturity or peer pressure from their workmates/friends. There may be guys who are actually respectful to women in daily life but get into situations where they are expected to join in with their friends. I'm not an expert, I don't know what they are thinking when they do it.

GuD · 08-05-2014, 10:56 PM

I don't get why a guy would think that's a compliment. It's just trashy and lame and the types of guys that do that kinda **** aren't genuinely trying to compliment anyone. It's just a way for them to get away with being creepy pervs. **** that noise.

RoxyRollah · 08-06-2014, 01:21 PM

I think I may have been harassed by 216. But I was fond of the nickname sugar bunz so who really knows...

FRED HALE SR. · 08-06-2014, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

I think I may have been harassed by 216. But I was fond of the nickname sugar bunz so who really knows...

You are sending mixed signals Sugar Bunz.

RoxyRollah · 08-06-2014, 01:49 PM

I know, but sugar bunz is better then flapjacks

The Batlord · 08-06-2014, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

I know, but sugar bunz is better then flapjacks

I think you're being kind of arbitrary, pumpkin tits.

RoxyRollah · 08-06-2014, 02:04 PM

pumpkin tits! Well I never!

djchameleon · 08-06-2014, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

I know, but sugar bunz is better then flapjacks

Sugar bunz is misleading though while flapjacks is more accurate.

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 08-06-2014, 07:26 PM

I knew a girl who was called meat curtains.

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