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I'm a parent | 11 | 17.74% | |
I'm a child-free woman/man | 24 | 38.71% | |
I want to have kids someday (please explain) | 18 | 29.03% | |
I'm undecided | 9 | 14.52% | |
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11-25-2013, 01:57 AM | #141 (permalink) |
An Butthole
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For the most part I dislike kids, but if I ever had that one in a million kid that was smart as ****, and did amazing things I would have no complaints. My problem is this, I suffer from various mental problems that I received from my mother, and I have a history of cancer. When I was a kid, I was probably the worst child imaginable, and I really was awful. I like myself a lot more now, but my negative childhood has affected my personal being today. I don't want any kid to go through some of the **** I had to go through, especially if genetics are put into play. I wouldn't mind experiencing another aspect of life though, and I feel like having a kid would open new areas of experience and wisdom. Children have this natural curiosity and approach to problems that I'm almost envious of, it's like re learning something from someone with a fresh point of view, and you end up seeing things in new ways, whether it was intentional or not.
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11-25-2013, 02:55 AM | #142 (permalink) | |
Dude... What?
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There are people out there who I'm sure have had to deal with far worse than you or I who are grateful for every day that they are alive. There's also people who struggle and become very unhappy. It's a risk, sure, but we do our best and I'd venture to say the pros significantly outweigh the cons when it comes to "people" and being alive. Really, the only argument against a capable family having a child I can understand is the threat of overpopulation. Maybe not in the 2000s or even 2100s but one day the world will stop being able to host the human species and who knows what will happen then.
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11-25-2013, 03:14 AM | #143 (permalink) |
An Butthole
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Steph is a Buddhist, where ur shaved head and robes?
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11-25-2013, 06:54 AM | #144 (permalink) | |
A.B.N.
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Either she is a Buddhist or chronically depressed.
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Fame, fortune, power, titties. People say these are the most crucial things in life, but you can have a pocket full o' gold and it doesn't mean sh*t if you don't have someone to share that gold with. Seems simple. Yet it's an important lesson to learn. Even lone wolves run in packs sometimes. Quote:
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11-25-2013, 12:58 PM | #145 (permalink) | |||
county fair energy
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Right. It's a very logical philosophical position in my opinion, but I am reminded over and over again that people don't want to hear it. I'm just going to leave these here and see my way out of this thread.
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11-25-2013, 04:49 PM | #146 (permalink) | |
Zum Henker Defätist!!
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It kind of pisses me off when people tell a guy that he should get it done because it's selfish to ask the woman to get her tubes tied. Nobody (who's not an *******) tells a woman to not get an abortion because they agree that it's their body and they have no right telling them what to do with it and yet when it's a man's junk and they don't want to get a vasectomy they have no problem telling him that he's just being selfish.
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11-25-2013, 05:31 PM | #147 (permalink) | ||
Shoo Thoughts
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I should point out I'm not laughing at your post, your opinions are as valid as anyones, but the title to David Benatar's book tickles me. Yes, it's true that only existers suffer harm, but it is also true that only existers experience joy. As for his belief that optimists are being unrealistic, maybe so, but I suspect all human beings, no matter what they're philosophical tendencies, are out of touch with reality. We just ain't equipped with the right equipment to know what's really going on. And given the likelihood we're all fools, I'd sooner be a happy fool. If, as someone previously alluded to, you are indeed a Buddhist, perhaps you're familiar with the story of the three vinegar tasters? If not, I'd like to know your opinion on the following famous traditional scene: Quote:
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11-25-2013, 06:03 PM | #148 (permalink) | |
county fair energy
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To your assessment that only existers experience joy, my argument would be that while that is true, something that never exists can not be deprived. I'm glad you can find comfort in the likelihood that we are all happy fools but I cannot. Ignorance is not bliss - ignorance is ignorance, and ignorance is what I fight. I am not Buddhist but I am familiar with the parable. While a lot of Buddha's teachings do resonate with me I cannot subscribe to the mindset. The parable is nice and fine but it's just an illustration of each of the master's respective ideologies. I understand the relevance but I don't believe in Nirvana so it doesn't have a lot of use to me in the given context. I think that people are under the impression that I am arguing that there is no good in the world and I am unable to enjoy things - that is not the case (and yes, DJ, I am chronically depressed but I do not appreciate my views being written off as such). I'm not saying that everyone who finds life enjoyable is a happy fool. My philosophy merely prohibits me from assuming I have the right to impose existence onto another being. Yes, some people are born into good circumstances and some into bad. People raise good children and people raise bad children. Sometimes children grow up to help humanity and sometimes children grow up to shoot up a school (nature vs. nurture is another argument entirely that I will not approach at this time). Procreation is a gamble. It's Russian roulette, really, but rather than aiming the gun at yourself you're aiming it at your offspring. |
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11-25-2013, 06:03 PM | #149 (permalink) | |
The Music Guru.
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11-25-2013, 06:10 PM | #150 (permalink) |
Shoo Thoughts
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@JD Cheers for the response. Yours is a most interesting perspective, I must say, and not one I've come across before. It's always interesting to share views and ideas. It's just a shame many seem incapable of doing so without being rude and derogatory.
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