Kaimon

The best response we've heard to Daniel Tosh's 'misquoted' rape jokes - 2012-Jul-12 - CultureMap Austin

And my own two cents: rape jokes that make the victim the butt of the joke are the ones that shouldn't be made.

anticipation

So in this fantasy scenario do men frequently claim that women have cut their dicks off just to spite them? Because that does happen with women who get "raped" aka make bad decisions then ruin men's lives because of their insecurity and narcissism. Not saying that's the norm, just saying it unfortunately does happen. Everything in life isn't so cut and dry, no pun intended. Because if you cut a dick off it would probably be very wet, I would imagine.

Kaimon

You just said it isn't the norm, so why should that invalidate someone else's very real experiences? And what and what would you consider as a "bad decision"? I mean ****, you even hear people argue "well, what do you expect to happen to her dressed like that?". How is it their fault then? Someone shouldn't experience sexual trauma just because their clothing was "just a bit too short".

Not saying that's how you view it. It's just that what might be viewed as a "bad decision" to some is really not justified in the slightest.

joy_circumcision

That's exactly how I feel. Every woman I've talked to about this is pretty offended at it, but that's not an intrinsic response, as others have noted, so here it goes:

Rape jokes are neither never funny nor inherently funny. "It's humor and she should get over it" is just as much of a cop-out as "I'm offended, so they shouldn't do it." Rape jokes (along with genocide jokes and such) are funny when they have a couple factors going for them:

• they attack the assailant, not the victim
• they generate some sort of worthwhile discourse on the subject or at least make a singular point on the topic of rape that, though not necessarily unique, is at least "moral" (from the Sam Harris perspective of "does nothing to generate suffering")

In my mind, Tosh is blatantly faulty on the first criterion (a subjective one, I concede) and I would argue that the second goes beyond "funniness" and into why this is a topic at all. I wish I could find articles that expressed this sentiment more impactfully and intelligently than I can muster, but essentially the debate in my mind isn't "Can a comic make a rape joke and silence a heckler?" but "Do these kinds of jokes do anything constructive / Should these kinds of jokes be expected to do something constructive?"

Across the boards, I think we can all agree pretty conclusively that Daniel Tosh's specific joke did NOTHING constructive. It caused distress in one (or possibly more) people in the audience, whether you want to say that she's justified in her distress or not (which, **** you, besides the point - if spiders make you uncomfortable and you went somewhere without knowing there would be spiders and when they came out you screamed and someone attacked you directly for it, you wouldn't be a happy camper. Regardless of the appropriateness of her response, a lot of people on the Internet are trying to make her distress itself a subject of discussion, and that is so entirely subjective that to attack her for having a response that is natural from her own values is a disgusting encroachment on others' ability to construct their own morals.). Tosh did nothing to really contribute to a dialog on rape culture; he just said something shocking to shock.

Now, the big question: should we expect comedians to be constructive at all times? Well, no. BUT! BUT! The big BUT! If comedians are non-constructive and others want to have a constructive discourse based on the act in question, and they don't seek legislation to censor him, guess what? The free speech that lets Tosh say piggish things like "get raped, bitch!" also lets feminists and allies say that that's a ****ing horrible perspective on the world.

tl;dr: No one is pushing for legislative censorship of Tosh or comedy, so let's evaluate this as merely a discussion of "should." Comedians "should" try to do as little to harm people as possible, because art at the end of the day is supposed to be a way to provide relief from the horrors of a meaningless existence, and if they just add more suffering, they're failing in some way.

Now I'm gonna go re-learn syntax and making myself clear, since I'm sure this is a mess.

EDIT: ****ing THIS.

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