Men, are you more huggy these days?

s_k · 03-07-2011, 06:31 AM

Now that I see this topic (again).
My ex-girlfriend told me her boyfriend never really hugs her.
Yes they lay together while watching TV, but they never lay together just for the sake of it, while talking or listening to music. There's just a bit of hanging together and sex, but not actual cuddling. And she hates it because... Yeah well, I think I may have turned her into a cuddle monster.

Anyway, she wanted to know whether other people (guys/girls) lay together just to be together with no reason to be there, just for the sake of it. Perhaps listening to some music, but no particular reason to lie together. Anyone?

MoonlitSunshine · 03-07-2011, 06:55 AM

Depends on the people. I'm sure there are people out there who love each other dearly but don't like that sort of constant physical contact. It's a matter of preference, and physicaly contact isn't the only way of showling love.

However, personally, I'm (kinda) like you. With my gf, I'd certainly be hugging/cuddling her as much as I can in private, especially when I haven't seen her in a while. However, at the same time I'd happily spend an evening just talking to her from a different sofa in the room while we're both playing games, and in public we tend not to cuddle TOO much as it tends to not necessarily make other people uncomfortable, but it does affect the balance of a conversation.

ThePhanastasio · 03-07-2011, 06:57 AM

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Originally Posted by s_k

Anyway, she wanted to know whether other people (guys/girls) lay together just to be together with no reason to be there, just for the sake of it. Perhaps listening to some music, but no particular reason to lie together. Anyone?

My friends and I are really cuddly. I know I'm a girl, and that may make it different, but even my guy friends hug all the time. There have been times where I've been camping with my best friends (three guys and one other girl) and we've just laid there and listened to music / played music and just cuddled. The guy friends are all totally straight and two of the three are engaged. We're just really comfortable together.

Also, I guess I know a lot of guys in theatre (yes, straight guys even!) and hugging is really commonplace amongst all of the theatre folk. It's just a way of greeting, for both genders. The straight guys do more of a "bro grab" most of the time, but at auditions when they've not seen each other in a while, they definitely hug.

I may just know really huggy people, though. Then again, I've even seen biker guys in bars around here hug their friends. Maybe it's a Southern thing, although it seems weird that it would be.

s_k · 03-07-2011, 07:08 AM

Allright, I should probably add; In a relationship.
When you are in a relationship for quite some time (say longer than half a year), do you enjoy laying together just for the sake of it?
That's pretty much the question.

I'm somehow only huggy for girls. I think it's a cultural thing.
And I mean huggy in the s_k way, not in the Dirty way

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s_k · 03-07-2011, 07:11 AM

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Originally Posted by MoonlitSunshine

However, personally, I'm (kinda) like you. With my gf, I'd certainly be hugging/cuddling her as much as I can in private, especially when I haven't seen her in a while. However, at the same time I'd happily spend an evening just talking to her from a different sofa in the room while we're both playing games, and in public we tend not to cuddle TOO much as it tends to not necessarily make other people uncomfortable, but it does affect the balance of a conversation.

This is exactly like me. I don't mind not touching eachother for a while, I hate people who are too close in public. I mean, I always walked hand in hand with my ex-girlfriend, but that's mainly it. But in private we have our moments, which can last for hours, where we just lay in eachothers arms but then there's moments where we are with our laptops on our laps each on his own corner of the couch or each on his own chair, sure.

ThePhanastasio · 03-07-2011, 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by s_k

Allright, I should probably add; In a relationship.
When you are in a relationship for quite some time (say longer than half a year), do you enjoy laying together just for the sake of it?
That's pretty much the question.

I'm somehow only huggy for girls. I think it's a cultural thing.
And I mean huggy in the s_k way, not in the Dirty way

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Oh, I've always cuddled with my significant others. Quite a lot, even when no sex was involved. My sister also cuddles with her fiance all the time when he's over. It's kind of sickening how sweet they are.

s_k · 03-07-2011, 08:12 AM

Haha, that's probably too much. But I see a clear yes in your answer

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s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	Now that I see this topic (again). My ex-girlfriend told me her boyfriend never really hugs her. Yes they lay together while watching TV, but they never lay together just for the sake of it, while talking or listening to music. There's just a bit of hanging together and sex, but not actual cuddling. And she hates it because... Yeah well, I think I may have turned her into a cuddle monster. Anyway, she wanted to know whether other people (guys/girls) lay together just to be together with no reason to be there, just for the sake of it. Perhaps listening to some music, but no particular reason to lie together. Anyone? __________________ Click here to see my collection

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MoonlitSunshine Dat's Der Bunny! Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Ireland Posts: 1,088	Depends on the people. I'm sure there are people out there who love each other dearly but don't like that sort of constant physical contact. It's a matter of preference, and physicaly contact isn't the only way of showling love. However, personally, I'm (kinda) like you. With my gf, I'd certainly be hugging/cuddling her as much as I can in private, especially when I haven't seen her in a while. However, at the same time I'd happily spend an evening just talking to her from a different sofa in the room while we're both playing games, and in public we tend not to cuddle TOO much as it tends to not necessarily make other people uncomfortable, but it does affect the balance of a conversation. __________________ "I found it eventually, at the bottom of a locker in a disused laboratory, with a sign on the door saying "Beware of the Leopard". Ever thought of going into Advertising?" - Arthur Dent

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s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	Allright, I should probably add; In a relationship. When you are in a relationship for quite some time (say longer than half a year), do you enjoy laying together just for the sake of it? That's pretty much the question. I'm somehow only huggy for girls. I think it's a cultural thing. And I mean huggy in the s_k way, not in the Dirty way . __________________ Click here to see my collection

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s_k Music Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: The Netherlands Posts: 2,206	Haha, that's probably too much. But I see a clear yes in your answer __________________ Click here to see my collection